Could you date someone who doesn't read?

browneyes106 · Post by **browneyes106** » 25 Nov 2008, 16:49

I'm not in a relationship right now. But I have dated people who aren't readers before and it worked out because we shared other interests.

angeldemon · Post by **angeldemon** » 03 Dec 2008, 03:37

i dont think so.

sharon.gmc · Post by **sharon.gmc** » 04 Dec 2008, 23:04

I get attracted to guys who have beautiful ideas and I think beautiful ideas come from love of reading. So, yeah, I tend to go out again when I discover during our first date that the guy reads.

San1968 · Post by **San1968** » 27 Jul 2009, 05:42

On a slightly different tack - what about friends. Most of mine don't read much except popular fiction although my husband does. I find sometimes my friends don't understand why I spend so much time reading and why it is important to me. I think they don't see it as a hobby and therefore not worthy of the time like say golf. So getting back to the original post I don't think it would be a problem having a partner that doesn't read as long as they valued my need to read.

shadylady · Post by **shadylady** » 27 Jul 2009, 07:22

My husband isn't much of a reader, so he just doesn't understand!! When I walk into the house with an armful of books that i'm so excited about, he just rolls his eyes because he knows he won't get any conversation out of me until i'm finished!!
I think it doesn't matter if your partner doesn't read, as long as you have someone to talk books with!!

Kitten · Post by **Kitten** » 27 Jul 2009, 08:44

I dont think I could date a non reader. My husband and I share a love of books, we dont read the same genre though so we learn from each other. He is into military type books and I will read pretty much anything but try to avoid military type books....

Still it works well, we tell each other funny scences etc...

prettyvicky · Post by **prettyvicky** » 27 Jul 2009, 10:44

yeah. i guess so. i mean it's their prerogative if they don't like to read.

cascol · Post by **cascol** » 27 Jul 2009, 19:37

my boyfriend is a slacker. he can't even read a 10 page book but we're both mechanical engineers so there lots of things we have to talk about. it gets to me sometimes especially when i want to discuss a book with someone.

andr70 · Post by **andr70** » 28 Jul 2009, 04:57

Definitely no! I think those who doesn't read, can't think!

sweetharleygirl · Post by **sweetharleygirl** » 30 Jul 2009, 11:32

andr70 wrote:Definitely no! I think those who doesn't read, can't think!

Well that's a bit harsh, I've known my husband for 16 years, have never seen him read a book and he's one of the most intelligent people I know. Not being a reader doesn't mean you can't think, it just means they have different priorities. He thinks reading is pointless and a wast of time, but when it comes to needing to learn something he's willing to pick up a manual/magazine (cars, bikes, fixing/repairing/building things). Just because we don't share a love of books and reading doesn't mean we don't share a love of other things, we have many similarities and interests we share, reading just isn't one of them.

speechless · Post by **speechless** » 30 Jul 2009, 22:48

I think I would. In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter? But that being said, I think if you're a person who loves to read then you're probably going to attract people with similar interests, so it seems like it would be hard to actually date someone who didn't read because you probably wouldn't have been attracted to them in the first place...if that made sense. I should work on my run-on sentences :/

09booklover · Post by **09booklover** » 01 Aug 2009, 10:55

I married someone who isn't a reader, nothing beyond a magazine and newspaper now and then. I hasn't been an issue. He has his hobbies and I have mine. Works for us!

kennyg · Post by **kennyg** » 01 Aug 2009, 19:38

Personally I doubt the relationship will ever work out. First of all, it's hard to even convince her to accept your idea and even daily conversation will result in a total communication breakdown.

ceve4life · Post by **ceve4life** » 02 Aug 2009, 15:19

I could date a non-reader. I think that its silly to ONLY judge someone for their interests in books and not who THEY are as a person!!!!

paulineee · Post by **paulineee** » 04 Aug 2009, 18:30

wow this is a good topic ... my boyfriend right now can't even read his summer book for school and is asking me to "help" him read it, which i translate to "read it for me please?"

obviously i CAN date a nonreader .... its jus rly annoying sumtimes ... he gets jealous that i'd rather read my book at some nights rather than talk to him ...