Could you date someone who doesn't read?

we_olive_beatrix · Post by **we_olive_beatrix** » 10 Feb 2010, 03:59

I don't think I could- I have had a difficult enough time staying in a relationship with a man who couldn't spell. A sweet email or love letter loses it's romance when he mistakes words such as "angel" for "angle" and "pretty" for "pritty". It's easy to pretend you think it's cute in the beginning, but when you have letters upon letters with the same mistakes, it gets a little irritating. For God's sake, if you love me, use the dictionary!

laci_baby · Post by **laci_baby** » 16 Feb 2010, 02:35

Definetely not. If someone doesnt have enough brain capacity to pick up a book and read to improve their mind then they deserve to be with the other nonreaders. I mean i get that not all people like to read (shudder) but still, i wouldnt date one of them.

StephenKingman · Post by **StephenKingman** » 16 Feb 2010, 12:27

laci_baby wrote:Definetely not. If someone doesnt have enough brain capacity to pick up a book and read to improve their mind then they deserve to be with the other nonreaders. I mean i get that not all people like to read (shudder) but still, i wouldnt date one of them.

That makes you fairly shallow in my opinion. Would you really care so much if your partner didn't like reading? Reading books does not make one intelligent, you know, it makes you book smart yes but i would rather have a partner that has some common sense and a personality than a snobby bookworm who doesn't know enough about the world to start judging people. Put it this way, your partner could be a lying cheating waste of space but hey, i guess if he reads a book then that's ok

Doombee · Post by **Doombee** » 18 Feb 2010, 20:04

I've dated people who didn't read and it didn't pose any problems. Usually during 'guy's night' I could settle down with a good book. The last guy I dated was a huge sports fan, so I would read during the games that didn't interest me

MuchoLoco · Post by **MuchoLoco** » 18 Feb 2010, 22:25

I dated one that didn't read and then I married her and have been happily married for more than 10 years. Give me another decade and I will have her reading too.

guytwo · Post by **guytwo** » 18 Feb 2010, 22:41

Of course ! Somebody has to cook. LOL

laci_baby · Post by **laci_baby** » 21 Feb 2010, 02:01

StephenKingman wrote:
laci_baby wrote:Definetely not. If someone doesnt have enough brain capacity to pick up a book and read to improve their mind then they deserve to be with the other nonreaders. I mean i get that not all people like to read (shudder) but still, i wouldnt date one of them.
That makes you fairly shallow in my opinion. Would you really care so much if your partner didn't like reading? Reading books does not make one intelligent, you know, it makes you book smart yes but i would rather have a partner that has some common sense and a personality than a snobby bookworm who doesn't know enough about the world to start judging people. Put it this way, your partner could be a lying cheating waste of space but hey, i guess if he reads a book then that's ok

True, it doesnt make one intelligent but IN MY OPINION it would help. I can see how that sounds shallow, but the people i know that dont read are snobbier than the people i know that do read. Readers i know have more personality and the ones that dont, are careless of how smart they are, which is hard for me to understand. Books to me are like knowledge and for people to not want to know just seems, as you said, a waste. And as for the lying cheating thing, I may be shallow but im not that shallow. im not saying, "hey if you read your in", im just saying if you dont theres no way. I like brains. But again, thats my opinion.

IceM · Post by **IceM** » 23 Feb 2010, 00:27

Could you date someone who didn't donate money to help find a cure for elephant herpes? Could you date someone who couldn't quote a Sara Bareilles song? Could you date someone who couldn't tell you that the capital of Zimbabwe was Harare?

Why does it matter? To the OP, no disrespect but it sounds as if your "partner" would be nothing more than a literary catalogue necessary for the sole need of recommendation regurgitations.

whiskeyguy · Post by **whiskeyguy** » 23 Feb 2010, 04:16

Personally I've never dated anyone who likes to read as much as I do. In fact most people I know don't read as much as I do. However it doesn't bother me if they don't. I care much more if they are a moron. Sometimes people can read 5 hours a day, but they read the wrong stuff for the wrong reasons... those are the type I can't stand. There are much bigger compatibility issues for me.

Amelia · Post by **Amelia** » 24 Feb 2010, 06:18

I would and do date a non-reader (by my standards anyway.)
Somebody who doesn't read is not necessarily lacking in intellegence.

I might just be lucky, but I find I can talk to my boyfriend about books and he listens and asks questions. We even had this amazing conversation once where I was trying to figure out loud what constitutes a 'classic book' and he compared it to what makes a classic car.
He's obsessed with cars and bikes, and I'm not so should he dump me? My partner has actually published articles here in Australia in a few bike magazines, which is definitely one up on me! (In the 'getting published' stakes, which I hold a pipe dream to achieve one day)

Variety is the spice of life!

JessyGirl88 · Post by **JessyGirl88** » 25 Feb 2010, 23:45

It all depends. I don't care about the hobbies as long as the attitude is nice. I'd totally accept a man who doesn't like to read but is very faithful, honest, loyal, sweet and thoughtful

whiskeyguy · Post by **whiskeyguy** » 26 Feb 2010, 01:50

Also look at it this way. What if your partner loved to read as much as you do but didn't enjoy the same genres? Do you know how much I already spend on books? I'm guessing a lot of you are in the same boat... imagine if you had to double the cost.

JessyGirl88 · Post by **JessyGirl88** » 26 Feb 2010, 04:21

whiskeyguy wrote:Also look at it this way. What if your partner loved to read as much as you do but didn't enjoy the same genres? Do you know how much I already spend on books? I'm guessing a lot of you are in the same boat... imagine if you had to double the cost.

I totally agree. This could also be the topic of argument between you and your partner or worse...DIVORCE! (if married that is LOL)

JoshBransonTeacher · Post by **JoshBransonTeacher** » 28 Feb 2010, 01:04

I think that if your romantic partner doesn't have any interest in reading, then that will be a problem - we all love reading here, and a love of reading goes hand in hand with a certain literate style. I want someone who appreciates spending an afternoon reading a great book.

whiskeyguy · Post by **whiskeyguy** » 01 Mar 2010, 08:18

JoshBransonTeacher wrote:I think that if your romantic partner doesn't have any interest in reading, then that will be a problem - we all love reading here, and a love of reading goes hand in hand with a certain literate style. I want someone who appreciates spending an afternoon reading a great book.

I'm a little different. Reading is my thing... I don't care if my friends or partners enjoy it. I'll come on here and discuss books and whatever, but really I read for me... the satisfaction I receive from it is very personal. I also love to travel, spend a lot of times in the outdoors, and party now and then... those are the things I enjoy doing with my girlfriends/friends.

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