Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Perrywinkle47 · Post by **Perrywinkle47** » 25 Sep 2010, 07:37

Makowtom wrote:I just had a fight with my girlfriend....because I do not read books. It has been a sore spot with her and I hear more about it now....to the point that we might break up. I guess I am surprised that so many of you feel so strongly that your partner should be a reader - just like you.
This seems to be a trait that only readers make this a priority.

Oh this is sad..

Johnson117 · Post by **Johnson117** » 25 Sep 2010, 15:46

I'd date someone who didn't read, but I'd want her to have some other equivalent passion, like music or art or science. I wouldn't find much to talk about with someone who literally had nothing in her life beyond the day-to-day necessities.

I mostly read kids books and non-fiction, so even if I'm dating a reader, it's not like we compare notes

Perrywinkle47 · Post by **Perrywinkle47** » 26 Sep 2010, 03:40

Yeah, makes sense.. there should be a passion whether common or uncommon so as to have something to talk about..

DazzleKitty · Post by **DazzleKitty** » 27 Sep 2010, 10:57

Makowtom wrote:I just had a fight with my girlfriend....because I do not read books. It has been a sore spot with her and I hear more about it now....to the point that we might break up. I guess I am surprised that so many of you feel so strongly that your partner should be a reader - just like you.
This seems to be a trait that only readers make this a priority.

She sounds incredibly shallow and immature to me. It's cool to date someone with similar interests but it shouldn't be this much of a priority. Sometimes having TOO much in common is bad, if you ask me.

Marissaann08 · Post by **Marissaann08** » 27 Sep 2010, 15:25

im dating someone right now who doesnt like reading and it sucks because when i get all excited and want to talk about the book he just doesnt care.. even though he tries to listen you can tell he is just pretending.. it sucks but at least he tries. right? i gotta give him a little credit. but it would be nice to be in a relationship with someone who loves to read.

Perrywinkle47 · Post by **Perrywinkle47** » 28 Sep 2010, 10:42

Marissaann08 wrote:im dating someone right now who doesnt like reading and it sucks because when i get all excited and want to talk about the book he just doesnt care.. even though he tries to listen you can tell he is just pretending.. it sucks but at least he tries. right? i gotta give him a little credit. but it would be nice to be in a relationship with someone who loves to read.

Yeah huge credit goes to him.. I know how much I dislike when my friends talk about a book that I haven't read..

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 28 Sep 2010, 13:05

Perrywinkle47 wrote:
Marissaann08 wrote:im dating someone right now who doesnt like reading and it sucks because when i get all excited and want to talk about the book he just doesnt care.. even though he tries to listen you can tell he is just pretending.. it sucks but at least he tries. right? i gotta give him a little credit. but it would be nice to be in a relationship with someone who loves to read.
Yeah huge credit goes to him.. I know how much I dislike when my friends talk about a book that I haven't read..

It's even more annoying when they insist on talking about a book I'm in the middle of reading and I find myself shouting 'DON'T TELL ME WHAT HAPPENS'
.... grounds for divorce IMO

Olie · Post by **Olie** » 28 Sep 2010, 17:13

My bf right now doesn't read books at all... ever. It doesn't bother me because he listens to me when I get all excited about a book and i listen to him when he get all psyched about a video game...... even though I'm usually lost when he is telling me about them.

ShipOfFools · Post by **ShipOfFools** » 28 Sep 2010, 17:55

I can't imagine myself getting along with someone like that. I'm an introvert, and I suspect anybody who didn't read would be extremely extroverted.

Plus, what would we talk about? I don't like sports, cars, drinking, and all that partying stuff. I'd rather sit at home and listen to classical music or progressive rock, or read a book. Someone who didn't fit in with that would not be able to understand my 'alone time.'

C0ldf1re · Post by **C0ldf1re** » 28 Sep 2010, 22:43

ShipOfFools wrote:... Plus, what would we talk about?...

"I'm hungry", three times a day, seems to satisfy many women's need for masculine conversation. (I might regret having written that!)

Perrywinkle47 · Post by **Perrywinkle47** » 29 Sep 2010, 08:23

StephenKingman · Post by **StephenKingman** » 29 Sep 2010, 10:06

C0ldf1re wrote:
ShipOfFools wrote:... Plus, what would we talk about?...
"I'm hungry", three times a day, seems to satisfy many women's need for masculine conversation. (I might regret having written that!)

God help you if Laci baby sees that!

C0ldf1re · Post by **C0ldf1re** » 29 Sep 2010, 13:22

StephenKingman wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote:
ShipOfFools wrote:... Plus, what would we talk about?...
"I'm hungry", three times a day, seems to satisfy many women's need for masculine conversation. (I might regret having written that!)
God help you if Laci baby sees that!

Laci might feed me cookies 3 times a day!

Wishuponastar · Post by **Wishuponastar** » 29 Sep 2010, 13:24

I have been dating a guy for 5 years, who refuses to read anything except biography of his favorite tv stars or how to do something. I love to read. I could sit down when I don't have lots to do and finish a book in one sitting. I have tried to talk to him about my books and he pretends to listen but i can tell hes not. Then again he is bothered someone by my reading choices, he claims they are too scary. I can see how he can say that since they are normally science fiction or horror and sometimes in the used book store I go to they are in the weird section.

It would be wonderful for us to agree on a wonderful book and sit and discuss it.

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 29 Sep 2010, 14:22

Wishuponastar wrote:I have been dating a guy for 5 years, who refuses to read anything except biography of his favorite tv stars or how to do something. I love to read. I could sit down when I don't have lots to do and finish a book in one sitting. I have tried to talk to him about my books and he pretends to listen but i can tell hes not. Then again he is bothered someone by my reading choices, he claims they are too scary. I can see how he can say that since they are normally science fiction or horror and sometimes in the used book store I go to they are in the weird section.

It would be wonderful for us to agree on a wonderful book and sit and discuss it.

vive la différence