Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Heidi76 · Post by **Heidi76** » 30 Sep 2010, 00:53

I could, as long as he would understand that reading is my passion, my 'thing', and not make a huge fuss about it, and he would probably have his own hobbie/s that I would not make a fuss about. I lived with my girls dad for 10 years and my reading (and other hobbies) was always a problem for him.(everything was a problem for him) He had no intrests other than tv an work, and expected me to have no other intrests. A waste of time, do something useful, he said. Now I've been single for 4,5 years (after 10 horrible years, he was abusive in many ways), and can read whenever I want to

, and will think about it many, many times before I let another man into my and my childrens life, reader or not!

C0ldf1re · Post by **C0ldf1re** » 30 Sep 2010, 01:33

Fran wrote:vive la différence

Hmmm... é, é, é, é, é... that's clever. Wonder how you did that?...

Feueriosa · Post by **Feueriosa** » 30 Sep 2010, 01:37

Dated him, married him, love him! We have separate interests.. mine include reading and his don't but in many other (very interesting!) ways we mesh perfectly!

He is the only non reader in a reading family so he understands my need to hibernate and read and gives me baby free time to do so.

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 30 Sep 2010, 05:52

C0ldf1re wrote:
Fran wrote:vive la différence
Hmmm... é, é, é, é, é... that's clever. Wonder how you did that?...

Cltr+Alt +e = é .... aren't I the clever clogs?

StephenKingman · Post by **StephenKingman** » 30 Sep 2010, 10:29

Fran wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote:
Fran wrote:vive la différence
Hmmm... é, é, é, é, é... that's clever. Wonder how you did that?...
Cltr+Alt +e = é .... aren't I the clever clogs?

Well you learn something new every day thanks Fran!

C0ldf1re · Post by **C0ldf1re** » 30 Sep 2010, 21:20

Fran wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote:
Fran wrote:vive la différence
Hmmm... é, é, é, é, é... that's clever. Wonder how you did that?...
Cltr+Alt +e = é .... aren't I the clever clogs?

Wéll dóné, thát gírl!

Browsers · Post by **Browsers** » 30 Sep 2010, 23:19

Could I? Sure...for a while. Is this a long-term relationship? Probably not!

Fran · Post by **Fran** » 01 Oct 2010, 04:37

C0ldf1re wrote:
Fran wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote: Hmmm... é, é, é, é, é... that's clever. Wonder how you did that?...
Cltr+Alt +e = é .... aren't I the clever clogs?
Wéll dóné, thát gírl!

Touché ... What an educational forum this is

Grandjury · Post by **Grandjury** » 03 Oct 2010, 17:50

Yeah I could. Every relationship is going to have those hobbies that the other may just not like.

C0ldf1re · Post by **C0ldf1re** » 03 Oct 2010, 18:32

Fran wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote:
Fran wrote: Cltr+Alt +e = é .... aren't I the clever clogs?
Wéll dóné, thát gírl!
Touché ... What an educational forum this is

Trés vrai. (If I got that right, it shows I went to a good school. If I got that wrong, it's even better. It shows I'm not French.)

Atruji · Post by **Atruji** » 12 Oct 2010, 14:03

I'm lucky enough to have married a man who probably reads even MORE than I do (that's saying a lot, since pretty much all of my spare time is spent with my nose in a book). But I have dated guys in the past who didn't read. Ultimately, those relationships didn't work out. However, I don't think it was necessarily because they didn't read but because we were just too different in a multitude of ways. Sure, reading was part of those differences, but it wasn't the only factor. I also think that, in light of a few of the comments I have read on here that imply anyone who doesn't read is intellectually sub-par, that it used to be thought that to spend all your time (or even some of your time) reading meant you were inherently lazy - I'm sure there are still people who think so. I don't think anyone on here would agree with that. I certainly don't. People have different interests, and also different lifestyles. Because someone chooses a different hobby than yours doesn't make them intellectually inferior. There are different types of intellectualality (is that a word?) and different skill sets. Being a gifted reader is just one of them - though I personally find it to be the most satisfying. I guess that's why I'm a member of this community.

Shadowpapoose · Post by **Shadowpapoose** » 13 Oct 2010, 15:24

My husband is not a reader and it works out just fine, because he's a tv watcher. He watches TV and I read...it works out

Queen_cheba9 · Post by **Queen_cheba9** » 13 Oct 2010, 15:46

I have a fiance and we've been together for about going on 6 years almost. I'm 22 years old and he's 27. I've always been a reader and have always been the type of person who in school always excelled in any kind of english or anything to doing with reading, writing, etc. When my fiance his name is Adam. When Adam and I had first gotten together he was never interested in reading books nothing at all. And he doesn't read as well as I think that he would like too just because he feels like it takes him a long time. But about 2 years ago, I had started reading to him a page or 2 of James Patterson's book Big Bad Wolf. Well after 2 nights of me reading, he was reading on his own. And he had actually finished that book with 2 weeks of reading. That's well done for someone who never read, and didn't even feel comfortable reading. So I think that as long as you encourage your partner to read and try those extra steps to get them involved in reading things that they would be interested about. I think that reading is really something that helps you to expand your mind. It also is kind of nice to tell all you ladies out there to curl up in bed and theres nothing better then haveing a relaxing night in bed with your one and only reading a nice book and have a bonding experience in that way.

laci_baby · Post by **laci_baby** » 18 Oct 2010, 15:16

C0ldf1re wrote:
StephenKingman wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote: "I'm hungry", three times a day, seems to satisfy many women's need for masculine conversation. (I might regret having written that!)
God help you if Laci baby sees that!
Laci might feed me cookies 3 times a day!

See... you just thought you got away with it...
Can't you two behave?
And no C0ldf1re... No that does not count.

StephenKingman · Post by **StephenKingman** » 18 Oct 2010, 15:24

laci_baby wrote:
C0ldf1re wrote:
StephenKingman wrote: God help you if Laci baby sees that!
Laci might feed me cookies 3 times a day!
See... you just thought you got away with it...
Can't you two behave?
And no C0ldf1re... No that does not count.

Hey that post was yonks ago, you dont miss a thing do you. Well thats the last time i talk about you in private!