Could you date someone who doesn't read?

rach2876 · Post by **rach2876** » 19 Aug 2024, 18:10

I have actually dated a couple of people who don't read. We just found other topics to discuss instead of books. I do like an intelligent man, but it doesn't have to be specifically books.

Mary Franco · Post by **Mary Franco** » 21 Aug 2024, 21:27

Yes, keyword: date. It would truly be an eye-opener to the inner workings of the mind of a person who doesn't read. A new perspective.

George Okello 2 · Post by **George Okello 2** » 21 Aug 2024, 23:52

I would definitely date her if I love her

Louange Masiga · Post by **Louange Masiga** » 22 Aug 2024, 09:52

Good question, though I'm late to the party. When I was a teenager I dated guys that hated reading. But now I just can't. A real man has to read and love reading, in my opinion.

Rose dany · Post by **Rose dany** » 24 Aug 2024, 09:18

I don't think so, I can't have the person engaged in the book comments. Like how will he understand my point. He doesn't read books so my description for the information and stories are like alien to his ears. This is scary I don't think I will ever be that close to someone who doesn't read books. Maybe if they hate books I won't even try to get close. But if they don't hate books but never tried I might risk a chance or two.

Varsha Bansal 1 · Post by **Varsha Bansal 1** » 28 Aug 2024, 10:06

I have only dated non-readers till now and I like when I share the story of my current read with them. As it's something new to them they are mostly excited about it. I like sharing book quotes with them on relevant situation, it makes me feel kinda intellectual.

Sarah Vinchu · Post by **Sarah Vinchu** » 01 Sep 2024, 07:09

I do not think it is a huge deal. I'd do that. If he isn't a reader, he should at least enjoy my reading habit. I believe I would have a lot to share with him. I would tell him about everything I read. I would express my views, opinions, and both the negative and positive aspects of the book. In return, he could express his own views on thinking. In this way, we'd have a whole lot to share. Perhaps this constant chatting will instil in him a love of reading and make him an excellent reader as well.

Success Clement · Post by **Success Clement** » 04 Sep 2024, 06:33

Definitely

Tessa Stewart · Post by **Tessa Stewart** » 05 Sep 2024, 04:18

I think a key component of enjoying reading, investing significant amounts of time to reading, and, in particular, reading diversely requires a willingness to emotionally connect with the author, the characters, and the emotional arcs of the book. I prefer partners who love to read because it allows us to connect on numerous levels that otherwise would be inaccessible, but its not a deal-breaker because it isn't the core issue that makes us incompatible. The unwillingness to be emotionally vulnerable, think critically when consuming media, and lack of empathy are the key red flags that I believe often accompanies a dislike of reading.
My best friend is severely dyslexic and ADHD so, while she loves to engage with stories and characters, it is massively more difficult for her to do so and she chooses other media to do that through. I would have missed out on a wonderful person had I excluded her as a potential friend because she doesn't read. She and I do enjoy vastly different stories though, which actually improves our relationship when we find something we both like or we successfully introduce the other to a new story.

Prajakta Dagare · Post by **Prajakta Dagare** » 05 Sep 2024, 22:51

No absolutely not, when you read your brain grows and you think and contemplate.

Destrella Hayes · Post by **Destrella Hayes** » 09 Sep 2024, 05:45

I absolutely love diving into the captivating world of books! It's not just a hobby, it's a thrilling adventure that I can't resist. The act of immersing myself in rich narratives and diverse worlds brings me so much joy. I'm passionate about reading and treasure the peace and tranquility it provides. Whenever I open a well-written book, I eagerly lose myself in its pages, letting the story sweep me off to extraordinary places.
And hey, I don't mind if my partner isn't a bookworm – after all, they say that opposites attract

Ojieriakhi sunny tessy · Post by **Ojieriakhi sunny tessy** » 12 Sep 2024, 15:47

It honestly doesn't matter much to me
As long as he's okay with listening to me rant on and on about previous books I've read and is supportive, I have absolutely no reason not to date someone who doesn't read

Amrabat Marrakesh · Post by **Amrabat Marrakesh** » 12 Sep 2024, 18:04

Well technically someone who doesn't read won't be really smart in my books (no pun intended). However if they have other fun hobbies then I could definitely consider them. I mean reading is alot of fun but it wouldn't define my pick in a potential partner.

Wahab Damilare · Post by **Wahab Damilare** » 13 Sep 2024, 09:28

Sincerely, I would love to have someone who loves reading as a partner, but it's not a priority.
Reading requires passion and interest, so it shouldn't be taken personal

Ms Mintz · Post by **Ms Mintz** » 18 Sep 2024, 07:36

I never thought of this...
Well, I gave some thoughts about it. It wasn't really a big deal if my lover doesn't read because I have lots of close friends which doesn't read too but the most important thing for me is... they are a good listener and will listen to me babbling all day along about the books that I've read LOL