Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Post by **Tales+Teacups** » 18 Dec 2024, 17:09

Of course I could... as long as they let me rant about the annoying characters or gush about feet-kicking scenes.

Natalie Hernandez Ledesma · Post by **Natalie Hernandez Ledesma** » 20 Dec 2024, 10:24

Wow.. this question really made my think. I have opinions on both sides because I do see the reasoning behind them, but I'm leaning more on... yes?

I'm married and my husband is not a BIG reader like me. He finds it more entertaining to play games on his free time than reading (I'm a gamer too don't get me wrong), but we have such different preferences that if we were to read a book together I don't think he or I would enjoy them. So I prefer reading my own book at my own speed and maybe talk about it here or in GoodReads lol.

reading bird · Post by **reading bird** » 21 Dec 2024, 10:19

I'm not sure, but if they can carry on conversation spontaneously, I would give them a chance. But he should read!
Otherwise, best of luck to him when I start howling, crying, and cursing in the middle of my reading!

Boniface Liwakala · Post by **Boniface Liwakala** » 23 Dec 2024, 11:37

I see nothing wrong with fating someone who does not read. It makes for a more versatile experience. Maybe they may have other interests we can blend together

Post by **Meghan Sica** » 26 Dec 2024, 21:30

My husband doesn't read. He's not interested in reading and never has been. I still tell him about the books I'm reading sometimes. We're very different in many ways, but it works for us.

Asario Fox · Post by **Asario Fox** » 01 Jan 2025, 08:48

One of us will live in misery ... it won't be me.

Post by **Nati Jiniya** » 02 Jan 2025, 04:15

It would be extremely difficult not being able to share my world with my partner.

Macel A · Post by **Macel A** » 04 Jan 2025, 12:38

Definitely. Love is all about appreciating the likes and dislikes of your partner and we're all born to be different after all when both of you like the same things it becomes a stale and boring relationship.

Post by **Justin Christensen** » 04 Jan 2025, 20:01

I think I could date (casually) someone who doesn't read, but reading and the written word are such core parts of my life that I think it could inhibit the relationship if I couldn't connect with my significant other about them at all.

Pro Solomon Ezeme · Post by **Pro Solomon Ezeme** » 08 Jan 2025, 19:04

I can. But, such a person mustn't detest book readers either.

Mia Smith 7 · Post by **Mia Smith 7** » 11 Jan 2025, 09:16

I would find it very hard to relate to such a person
Books and writing are such a key part of my pleasure and enjoyment that it would be difficult being unable to share that part of myself with them.

Mariia Osokina · Post by **Mariia Osokina** » 11 Jan 2025, 17:48

I don’t think I could date someone who doesn’t read. For me, reading is more than just a hobby; it’s a way to connect with the world, broaden my horizons, and spark my creativity. The specific genre isn’t what matters—whether it’s fiction, non-fiction, poetry, or even graphic novels—what’s important is that they appreciate stories and ideas. Discussing books or sharing recommendations feels like a genuine bond. If a person doesn’t read at all, it could be tough to share that aspect of my life or find common ground in the rich worlds that literature provides.

LoVetta Jenkins · Post by **LoVetta Jenkins** » 16 Jan 2025, 20:28

I honestly don’t know if I could date someone who doesn’t read. Like, not a comic book, bible or business journal! Absolutely nothing? There would still be things to talk about but I like to share my love of books.

oobie72 · Post by **oobie72** » 16 Jan 2025, 20:30

It would probably be odd to date someone who doesn’t read, if I’m honest. However, I don’t think it would be a deal breaker as long as they allowed me time to read uninterrupted.

I have an ex who was also an avid reader, however whenever I sat down to read he had so much to say. I could never get through a chapter. I’d read so much less when I was with him.

I said all that to say; I think as long as someone allowed me to prioritize reading, I would be okay.

Logeshlee · Post by **Logeshlee** » 24 Jan 2025, 02:50

"True harmony is when personalities align, not in sameness, but in mutual understanding and respect"

Shared interests, such as literature, can deepen connection. However, I believe the key lies not in whether someone shares my specific reading choices, but in their willingness to engage with my passions. I find genuine connection when someone listens attentively to my explanations, appreciates my insights into stories, characters, and why I love them. For me, love often feels mysterious, a spontaneous spark. Dating, on the other hand, is a journey of discovery, where that initial spark can evolve into a deeper understanding through shared experiences and open communication.