Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[AsterAlder]

This is a great question! As much as I adore reading, I am okay with dating someone who doesn't read. A lot of people who I value are goal focused and might read to learn something but aren't spending their days reading and might never read the same books as I do. I think I would have trouble dating someone who doesn't have a passion for learning, regardless of medium. However, I would have a problem with dating someone who isn't okay with my reading.

[Koffie Micheal]

Yes i can because the defining quality i would want in my partner is for her to be emotionally stable. Though we cannot discuss topics centered around books there wouldn't be a problem as there are be other topics to discuss

[LoVetta Jenkins]

It's definitely not a deal breaker for me either but, it would be an added bonus. In my mind, I'd love to sit together while reading separate books but, if he is a talker, this would definitely snuff the vibe!

It would probably be odd to date someone who doesn’t read, if I’m honest. However, I don’t think it would be a deal breaker as long as they allowed me time to read uninterrupted.

I have an ex who was also an avid reader, however whenever I sat down to read he had so much to say. I could never get through a chapter. I’d read so much less when I was with him.

I said all that to say; I think as long as someone allowed me to prioritize reading, I would be okay.

[Marianne Loogma]

Personally, I don't think I could. Reading books shows a certain level of intelligence, there is something out there for everyone. Even if they just read childhood books meaningful to them or any genre they enjoy. Unless I fell for someone who had realised they don't enjoy reading for some valid reason but are still a good and intelligent person!

[Koffie Solomon]

Well i could. The most important quality I look for in a partner is emotional stability. So regardless of whether she reads or not, we could still date.

[blankets_n_books]

My husband does not read. He sometimes listens to audiobooks (nothing against audio book listeners, I listen sometimes too). I feel like it’s not the same as ingesting each word yourself and creating a story in your head and hearing the voices you make for them. I devour books so fast. Even when I listen, it’s on 2x speed. Needless to say, yes, I could. He plays his video games while I read.

[Koffie Solomon]

Yes, I could. The main quality I value in a woman is her independence and intelligence. So reading is not a metric for me to measure a woman with.

[Carole Kendall]

Now that I am retired I read between 150-175 books a year. I have been happily married to a man who never reads for pleasure-only for his work. At the time that we got married we were both working full time and so busy socially that I really did not know how little he read. We bonded over our love for music, chocolate and our love of travel. He knows that I love to read and is respectful of my reading time.No
one person is likely to share all of my interests. What I would not be able to tolerate is being with someone who tries to interrupt or interfere with my reading.

[Carole Kendall]

I already posted about being happily married to a man only reads for work. After I found this out about him I thought, “Well at least we enjoy the same music.”Much to my horror, I then found out that he didn’t listen to the lyrics in songs- he focused on the melodies and instrumentation. For a while I was really upset and kept thinking, “I obviously married a man who doesn’t like words or appreciate them in the way that I do.And he was a former musician and songwriter! (Not that great of one I must say. I guess words are part of the artistry of songwriting.) Over the years I have learned that he does, indeed, listen to the words and some song lyrics are very important to him. It just isn’t what draws him in, but we have been married over forty years, so we must have overcome having different views on the importance of words.I think this is at least tangentially related to the original post question.

[Wynterthyme]

No I could not....I prefer someone who likes to read like I do. There would be a common interest to talk about. To me it shows they are a bit lazy are not open to educating themselves about new things.

[Kathryn Spinner]

I've been with a person who claimed they liked to read, but never did. In this relationship they said they enjoyed the Lord of the Rings, so I read the series and even bought them special edition books and other works by Tolkien, but they never read them. We are not together anymore, not for that reason, but I believe that's a hobby I want to share with someone in the future. I believe the ability to have the motivation and perseverance to read to be a triat I find desirable. Long story long, I would prefer if they read, not a complete deal breaker if not, I'll even take a person who reads off of a cereal box, but they need to at least appreciate written work and me talking about the book I'm reading and my thought about it lol.

[Debra Juarez]

I have never thought about that. Luckily my husband reads. I think it would be difficult for my partner to understand since I read so much. We enjoy exchanging books that we have read or attending a show or other event related to the latest read.

[janderson32]

I have dated someone who didn't read, and it ended up not working for a multitude of other reasons. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker if a partner didn't read, but I am someone who likes having at least some of my interests in common with partners.

[NoMImama]

I married a man who doesn’t read. Sometimes I find it a little disappointing, but I do have a large group of friends and colleagues with whom to share my love of books. I still find reading a very attractive quality in a man, though.

[Felix Shaun]

All my friends don't like reading books they see me as a wierdo and we are very close. So i can definitely mary and date someone who doesn't read books. But there must be something huge to offer mentally else is a no from me.