Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[Cheryl Erickson]

Of course you can date a nonreader! There are so many other things in the world to do and to discuss! I dated a nonreader for four and a half years. We've been married for twenty-nine years now! In the beginning, I did try to get him to read more. He has read a book series, a handful of novels, and some autobiographies. He gets tired and falls asleep. However, he has other interests that he is more passionate about. He is a very busy person! Just because someone does not read does not mean that they are not smart or interesting. He has so many other gifts and talents! My husband is a very intelligent chemistry, biology, and biotechnology teacher. He tutors struggling students. He is the president of a local school board. He coaches football and baseball. He is an avid sports fan. We love to have game nights with friends. He sings in the church choir, leads the praise band vocals, and plays the trombone. We love to listen to all types of music and sing aloud in the car together. We attend concerts, musicals, and plays. He works in the yard, helps clean the house, and we also like to cook together. He is a wonderfully well-rounded person. He can talk and talk and talk until the cows come home. You might be missing out on meeting some terrific people out there. Don't limit yourselves!

[Vusumuzi Dube]

Listen to your heart. Date whoever your heart connects with.

[Vusumuzi Dube]

As I said previously, listen to your heart. Date whoever your heart connects with.

[n3stl3y_]

It wouldn’t be a dealbreaker but it would be lovely to have someone I love romantically share the same passion that I have for books.

[Vusumuzi Dube]

Of course you can date a nonreader! There are so many other things in the world to do and to discuss! I dated a nonreader for four and a half years. We've been married for twenty-nine years now! In the beginning, I did try to get him to read more. He has read a book series, a handful of novels, and some autobiographies. He gets tired and falls asleep. However, he has other interests that he is more passionate about. He is a very busy person! Just because someone does not read does not mean that they are not smart or interesting. He has so many other gifts and talents! My husband is a very intelligent chemistry, biology, and biotechnology teacher. He tutors struggling students. He is the president of a local school board. He coaches football and baseball. He is an avid sports fan. We love to have game nights with friends. He sings in the church choir, leads the praise band vocals, and plays the trombone. We love to listen to all types of music and sing aloud in the car together. We attend concerts, musicals, and plays. He works in the yard, helps clean the house, and we also like to cook together. He is a wonderfully well-rounded person. He can talk and talk and talk until the cows come home. You might be missing out on meeting some terrific people out there. Don't limit yourselves!

Wow @ Cheryl Erickson. Powerful message. Thank you for sharing these wise words. God bless you and your family.

[Superlemon]

This is such an interesting question for me because my immediate answer is aw, hell no. And yet I am married to someone who does not read. We have been together our entire adult lives, 25 years, and he has never read an entire book that wasn't required for school. And its okay. I am in 6 different book clubs, each with a different focus, and I read an absurd amount. Sometimes I share with him- I have read all of Harry Potter out loud to him, and recently read the James Lapine book about Sunday in the Park with George to him because he works in theater and I knew he would find it fascinating. He is still a cultured, interesting person and we have a great deal in common. I wish he read because it would be a powerful example for our children. I absolutely check out someone's book shelves when I first visit their house. I hope my kids grow up to be readers, mostly because I find such power and joy in reading.

[Ola_Elise]

Reading is an integral part of my life. It's more than a pastime. It's what I enjoy doing, so I devote my time to it. I can date him even if he doesn't read, but he has to be a great listener because I enjoy sharing what I've learned and found fascinating in a book with others.

[Frank Mutuma]

Yes I would. Dating a person depends on variety of issues. If person has other good qualities a would date them

[Nino Chinonso Onwurah]

Well, it would be great to date an avid reader—I am already smiling at the prospect. However, I can still be with someone who doesn't read. There should be many other things we can talk about. Even silly topics can be interesting once there is mutual interest.

[Vusumuzi Dube]

Absolutely not. Code Red!

I had to review this response. I have seen the so called non readers making it in love and vice versa. Loving each other unconditionally is the key.

[Shillah Andeso]

I am currently dating a person who loves academics. I don't know if I can classify him as a person who reads since he rarely reads novels. I love that we have a lot to share since he also loves movies and football. It is like creating a group with different interests.

[Emidio Inocencio]

It would be hard to connect with someone who doesn't read. There would be a shock of two completely different people with different interest and that would kill the relationship.

[Vusumuzi Dube]

This is such an interesting question for me because my immediate answer is aw, hell no. And yet I am married to someone who does not read. We have been together our entire adult lives, 25 years, and he has never read an entire book that wasn't required for school. And its okay. I am in 6 different book clubs, each with a different focus, and I read an absurd amount. Sometimes I share with him- I have read all of Harry Potter out loud to him, and recently read the James Lapine book about Sunday in the Park with George to him because he works in theater and I knew he would find it fascinating. He is still a cultured, interesting person and we have a great deal in common. I wish he read because it would be a powerful example for our children. I absolutely check out someone's book shelves when I first visit their house. I hope my kids grow up to be readers, mostly because I find such power and joy in reading.

Thanks for sharing this. It's inspirational.

[Sanduni Himasha]

I would - it's completely okay to have different interests. However, reading does give us something in common to talk about but as long as they respect that sometimes I will recede into a corner with a book and lets me have my space and lets me enjoy my books its completely okay.

[Vusumuzi Dube]

My uncle was complaining the other day that his wife reads too much novels to an extent of her being unaware if someone is talking to her or giving her something when she is lost in the story. Lol...it was all love though. I just had to share this I found it hilarious.