Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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People have different hobbies and reading is not something is always shared by all. As someone who deeply appreciates the diversity in humanity, I can date someone who does not 'read', though I find it hard that someone does not read. It could be that they do not read as much as another one does, but everyone eventually reads something.
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My husband and I started our first conversation about books. We even buddy read books together. I think I would be sad if my partner in life didn't share a love of books!
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Post by Gina Szum »

I didn’t think I’d be able to be with someone who doesn’t read but I’m married to none reader lol. He understands my passion for reading and I read at night while he’s working. He’s a partner for an accounting firm.
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Nope, I think that would be a nightmare for me. Maybe initially I can, but then I would experience intellectual loneliness in the long run. Publicly stating that I am a book reader and introvert has become my rule of thumb for filtering potential partners.
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Post by Dana Lawrence Lohn »

SUCH a great question. I never thought I could! I mean, i was nose-first in books from the time I was three, maybe four … I imperially looked down on those who didn’t read … then I found a man who fixed. For every hour I spend immersed in books, he’s building us something, enhancing something. That is sexy as * and now I am squarely in the camp of, I am perfectly fine if he’s not a reader, so long as he’s contributing functionally!
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Post by Loretta Morris 1 »

I love to read. I could not date anyone who does not choose to read. To read you gain knowledge about others and the world. We would have nothing in common. I would rather date a person that does not know how to read. They can learn to read, if they choose.
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Absolutely! Reading is just another way of consuming media. Some people don't enjoy it, and that's ok! That doesn't diminish them as potential partners.
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Post by Darya Pogromska »

Hi! In my opinion, if the person doesn't read books, that is fine. I get that reading might come off as uneventful and boring for some people, which is totally valid. However, if the person doesn't read at all, such as news, articles, etc. and they're not informed about general topics that are important in the present, I couldn't be with them. People who have the ability to live under a rock willingly are not people I see myself with in the long run.
Do you agree with me?

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While I have not done so before, I believe I can. When it comes to relationships, reading should not be a deal breaker. My partner and I must not share all of the same interests. He may enjoy and engage in activities that I will not partake in.
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Post by Marygrace Lerin »

It depends I guess, if there are other interests between us that aligns. My love of reading and his love of video games might seem different, but it is similar in a way that it has storylines. In the off chance his hobbies are nothing similar to mine, but I still liked him for him, then I guess it'll work.
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No, I can't. It's going to be extremely boring!
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Post by Cari_no »

I would, they however have to be okay with the fact that i enjoy reading and perhaps be goid listeners if they cant read. Thats coz I love explaining a book after ive read it.
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Post by Ronky Ehinmitan »

No. Because why aren't you reading? How are you going to understand why I like a book?
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Post by Ludovica Peruzzi »

Depends. I've got a lot of interests apart from reading, so we'd still have something to talk about. But it all hinges on /why/ they don't read: do they just not have the time? Do they not like it? That's fine. But if they refuse to read because of anti-intellectualism or anything like that, and then prove they have no critical thinking, that's gonna be a no for me.
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Post by Joe Muriuki »

What a question! But it's a good one to think about. Well, interests vary and unless you require someone who'll be sharing books with, yes, I can date a non reader.
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