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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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I gravitated to this topic because I actually married someone who was not a "reader." I have always loved reading and I am a pretty fast reader so I get through books relatively quickly. I love discussing books with others and recommending books to people. It is like my way of getting to read an amazing book for the first time all over again through them.

My wife has never been a reader and I do not think it has effected our relationship at all. We have other things we can relate to about and enjoy doing together. One cool thing that has happened recently though is my wife started reading! I would always tell her about the books I was reading and one finally sparked her interest! She has read a lot of books over the past few months and it has been so cool to witness someone become a "reader."
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I don't think I could but we don't have to be into the same type of books. I love going to parks, coffee shops or just chilling at home with my books. If that is not sometime you also enjoy doing I'm not sure we will have much in common. Also I love to talk about the books I'm reading and what you to be interested in it as well.
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Post by GsMike645 »

The answer is a definite NO!!
For me, someone that doesn't have a reading culture established into their daily routine is like a dry well that has almost nothing to offer to me. And I wouldn't want anything to do with such a person.
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So long us they could listen to my narration then yes I would date one. It feels nice to narrate ua point of view to someone.
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My husband is definitely not a reader. I've tried to find books he'll enjoy, and in the occasion that he decides to humor me, he flies through a book. His response is always, "It was ok. It's a book."
He loves bragging to others about how much I read, buys me books, and even built me a free library for our yard. He also humors me by pretending to listen to me talk about books I'm reading and asks for summaries. I like talking to him about what I read because he'll never get mad at me for spoiling something!
I figure it's good for us to enjoy different things and then share in the other's enjoyment. It works just fine for us!
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Chi som wrote: 20 Nov 2022, 00:59 I can but they have to understand that I'm gonna spend most of my time reading.
I share the same sentiments. As long as they don't interfere with my reading habits.
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I am dating someone who doesn't read but it's okay. He listens to whatever I have to say and my fangirling on any book. I would love it if he were a reader too, but he is good in other ways. In the end, I think his listening and participating in my mindless chatter is perfect.
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My husband is a non reader even though he will tell you he loves books and asks for them. When we got together, he mentioned an amazing (his words) series of books that he would love to read. I brought them for him, to this day they are still unread by him!
He gets that I love books and can loose my self in one for hours at a time. So yes I could date a non reader.
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No, I could not. I would want someone who loved to read and explore new interests and hold an intelligent conversation.
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Yes, definitely. As long as one's partner respects the time we spend with books.
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I have dated people that don't read books often and it hasn't worried me to much. It also gave me a chance to retell the stories without worrying about potential spoilers. In saying that I have had a partner that was an avid reader and it was far more enjoyable discussing the book, sharing our perspectives and getting recommendations.
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Haha!! This is a very quick "HELL NO!"

Reading is so important to me. It is literally an exercise for the mind. I love having deep conversations with my partner, and that would not be possible if he did not read extensively. I'm just imagining the limited conversation topics due to the lack of intellect. It's a hard pass for me. 
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This was not a dealbreaker for me, but fortunately my wife does enjoy reading. We don't always read the exact same books since there's no need for us to do the exact same thing all the time.
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I think I could if we have another mutual interest
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I did date someone who didn’t read books,
Let’s just say I learnt my lesson, readers have very desirable qualities which people Who don’t like reading lack.
Intelligence is sexy.
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