Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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I think a very particular hobby such as reading is kind of a harsh expectation to put on a future partner. You don’t like baseball? No? Goodbye! You don’t like to bake cookies? No? You’re out of here! I understand the desire to share interests with a partner, but there so many more important things to look for in a future spouse, like being on the same page about finances, moral standards, and how you’ll raise your kids (if you choose to have them).

I’m an avid reader, and I’d love it if my husband shared that interest. But we have other interests we share together and reading is something I do on my own time while he does something he likes. I’m lucky to have a husband who is a great listener and will listen to me babble on about the books I’m reading.
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My very first conversation with my husband was about books! I think I would have a hard time if I hadn't been able to find a life partner who loves books too. We sometimes read the same books together, it is so nice!
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Post by Naushin Moledina »

It's kind of okay with it. But it would be more fun to date someone who reads too. We both will have our different worlds and new stories to share every day. It's like having that book friend whom you can recommend your favorites and get their opinion after they finish. According to me it will be more romantic to date a book reader.
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Post by Esther Deekor »

This is a hard one for me, because I love reading and even if my partner doesn't love reading, I would prefer he reads once in a while and doesn't have to read as regularly as I do. So I don't think I would be able to date someone who doesn't read.
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While reading is a wonderful hobby that can bring intellectual stimulation and personal growth, it's not necessarily a dealbreaker for everyone.It's important to consider that relationships thrive on mutual understanding and respect for each other's choices. If reading is something that holds a significant place in your life, it may be worth having an open and honest conversation with your partner. Understanding their perspective and finding common ground can help you navigate this potential difference in hobbies.
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No, I would never do that to me. A reader has an open mind, is ready to imagine worlds without even leaving home. I prefer these kinds of people.
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Well I can. Though reading is great. Reader are always vast in information. Those who dont read are like those in hermit kingdoms
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I could not do that actually I have to make someone love you I ven if she had no hobby with you can make her to think about you!
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Post by Adriana Ortencio 3 »

I could definitely date someone who isn’t passionate about reading like I am as long as they understand that I really do like to read a lot and will read almost any opportunity that I get. I would like them to listen to me talk about the books I’ve read and my takeaways from each book, just as I’d listen to their interests and activities that aren’t the same as mine. As long as they let me read as I want and don’t judge me, I would be fine with that because I have other friends that I discuss books all the time with.
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Post by Chris Konstantine »

Sigh...

I'm not big on absolutes in life, unless we're talking math of course.

For me the question isn't so much that the person I'm dating doesn't read books, but rather how she feels that I do. My better half for example isn't into reading at all, yet has the ability to spin a yarn that would put some published authors to shame. At the same time, she not only doesn't mind that I have a voracious appetite for books, she's proud of it.

I can only answer for myself then, but after so many years on this floating rock we call Earth, I've learned that too many people out there that one might consider uneducated or illiterate, are a wealth of wisdom and knowledge. They have experiences and backgrounds, more importantly they have character. Seldom is this character defined by their preference to read or not.
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Post by Cristiano Bellucci »

Yes. The question can go further and think what type of person is. Reading is often a way to learn, to improve and be a better person. In this sense, I prefer people who read.
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Post by Pranav Dewangan »

Earlier in my life I could have dated but as I grow older my affinity towards reading books is increasing. Hence, now I cannot imagine dating someone who does not read at all. But life has a way of surprising us in many ways.
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Books are an essential part of who I am. I don't think I could date someone who doesn't read as they would not be on my wavelength.
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If I were dating again, my goal would be to avoid some of the superficial checklists that I created, in my younger days, regarding who I would and would not date. I would throw things to the wind and let my heart be the guide, within some reason. With that said, I’m attracted to intelligence and life-long learners. Reading stimulates the brain and is part of life-long learning. However, if this person was throwing themselves passionately into learning by another means perhaps I could overlook the reading.
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Post by Grace_Crier »

Of course. My preference regarding love doesn't include being a book lover. But, it may give a hint to their personality when someone doesn't like to read like someone all logical and I don't think we would be a march
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