Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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My boyfriend does not read and I am completely okay with that. He is an engineer and does not find books enjoyable for pleasure reading, but instead he reads up a lot on current technology and new and upcoming ideas. So, I guess overall he kind of reads, but at the same time he really doesn't. I love him for who he is and what he likes to do :)
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I'm not a type that read,it not that I can't read but I don't love reading,but I read when it pleases me ,and my girlfriend complain that I don't read book just because I don't frequently ask her questions most everytime..but she still tick at me again taught she would gone....but she stay .. don't what tie her down to me๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€
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Yes, of course! Dating that person right now :)
He's very intelligent, more than me. A person who lives in the moment. Very adaptable and has the opposite opinion to mine most of the time! Even in politics which could be frustrating, but then again I do enjoy a debate as long as it doesn't turn personal.

It's very interesting and eye-opening, to be honest. Thanks to him I've grown more appreciative of people. Intelligence, after all, is not only book-smarts.

Nowadays when I meet someone, I'll be sure to admire them for something they are exceptional in. Whether it's how they dress themselves, how they carry themselves, world view, niche interests--even if I don't notice it right away, I think everyone's got their own field of excellence that we can learn from.

For me dating is about committing to a relationship with another person whose core qualities we admire, who is also committed to the relationship. So it does not really matter if they read or not :)
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Honestly, yes, I probably could, but would I want to be? is a different matter altogether. I mean, reading for me is like breathing so conversations would be limited and perhaps not the best. Luckily, I am now almost 2 years married and I found myself a reader.
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Yeah, I could. Reading is a hobby of mine, but I can understand that other people may have different hobbies. Although it would be a shame that we couldn't discuss classic written works with each other, I believe having good character traits is much more crucial in a partner than if we share a particular hobby together.
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Interesting views, I think I would date someone who doesn't read because I just know there are other things that we would have in common so for me, I wouldn't let the fact that they don't read be a hindrance to dating.
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Of course. I don't think that we have to agree on everything, so long as there is a great many things we do agree on. Apart from that I'm really fine with them not reading, though I would prefer that they have read a lot in a previous time in their life.
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I believe people who read evolve with each book they read. They tend to have interesting perspectives about life and things in general. They gather a great deal of knowledge, are smarter and you can talk to them about anything and everything. I would not want to date someone who does not read because I would want to date someone who challenges me intellectually. I do not think someone who does not read can do that.
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I might be able to date someone who doesn't read as long as they can still engage with me and my love for reading. I enjoy talking about the books I read, so I don't think I could be with someone whose only contribution would be "Glad you liked it." But if they can still indulge me and try to talk about it with me, I'll be happy.
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I definitely could and I have. However, when it comes to the person I would spend the rest of my life with, the person has to love reading like me.
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Post by Thabo Sibanda 1 »

Most definitely! As they say in Science, unlike poles attract. I'm a reader and an over thinker so I love people who provide the ultimate opposite: conversation and simplicity.
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My husband doesn't read but he loves listening to me vent and summarize and keep him up to date on the books I'm reading. So it's a fun way for us to bond while he shares his hobbies with me too.
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There is so much more to life than just reading, and a million other hobbies that are equally valid. To label someone stupid or uncreative for not sharing a hobby would be ridiculously judgemental and arrogant. An ideal partner would definitely share some or all of your biggest interests, but no single interest needs to be the be all and end all of a relationship unless it really causes genuine dysfunction directly
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Yeah of course, if they respect my opinions
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I will never because reading educates, and a reading mind is open to learn and adopt to life and circumstances. It also teach lessons
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