Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Charlienmegan Wehner · Post by **Charlienmegan Wehner** » 08 Jun 2022, 16:21

Yes, I think as long as they had another hobby that was in the same creative/intellectual realm although I love discussing great books with my husband and reading them together!

Christine Tamuno · Post by **Christine Tamuno** » 09 Jun 2022, 05:23

Of course I can but it would be lovely if they read too. Especially if they read the types of books I like to read, that would be amazing but even if they don't I would still date them and do the reading for both of us.

AnnaMarie Collins · Post by **AnnaMarie Collins** » 09 Jun 2022, 16:04

I've been married to my husband for 20 years, and while I'm a reader, he's a gamer. It definitely works for us; I respect his hobby and he respects mine! I'll buy him game-related gifts, and he'll surprise me with new books. We'll hang out together while he's gaming and I'm reading. It's the perfect arrangement for us!

Leoneth Kristel Baldelovar · 10 Jun 2022, 05:53

Hmm. I met guys who does not read books, just manhwa or comics. Can I date them? No, my life's pretty boring and the only way I can get out of this daily and repetitive routine is to indulge myself in reading which gives me a great feeling of solidarity. Anyway, dating someone who does not the same interest with me and have no plans to be interested in it, is such a no no for me.

Moitheri Hanese · Post by **Moitheri Hanese** » 14 Jun 2022, 16:20

I have but I probably wouldn't again. There's something about being a reader and dating someone who doesn't read that makes the relationship a bit of a drag.

I usually try to connect with deep conversation and I'd say most of what I think comes from what I read...would be nice to have that kind of mindset reciprocated

Jen Nghishitende · Post by **Jen Nghishitende** » 17 Jun 2022, 03:56

Not all all. That would mean I cant even discuss my book with them because they wont even see it as something valuable. noooo

kajal31 · Post by **kajal31** » 18 Jun 2022, 01:49

I think I can do this. For me, reading is a hobby. I read to explore myself better. Reading helps me articulate my thoughts better and hold better conversations. If that person is not interested in reading, then it is okay for me because there are many other things as well. Maybe he has other hobbies. The important thing is to respect each other's decisions and understand each other better.

kasedy Fairbairn · Post by **kasedy Fairbairn** » 18 Jun 2022, 18:45

My husband has a crap ton of books but he never reads them. Honestly it drives me batty that they just sit there. He does have a good reason though. He must have absolute complete silence to read, which does not happen in our house. The kids and the cats keep this house alive that’s for sure. I could not date someone who hates books though. I think I would clash with them way to much.

Amina Yusuf · Post by **Amina Yusuf** » 19 Jun 2022, 05:48

Reading is so important to me because I started reading at a very early age. I think it is important to share some things in common with someone you are dating. For me, reading is a criteria before I can date someone.

Lindsey Barger · Post by **Lindsey Barger** » 20 Jun 2022, 16:16

I am married to a guy who doesn't read. I tried to get him in to it when we first started dating, but quickly gave up - it's just not who he is. Where a book transports me into another world, movies and comics do that for him. There are many times when he's in one room watching a movie while I'm in another reading my book. It took him a while to understand that a book could make me laugh or cry the way a movie evokes those emotions from him.

Post by **Tonia Freeman** » 20 Jun 2022, 16:56

My fiancé doesn't read books often but he is incredibly smart. He is very type A and when he does read it's usually about stocks and airplanes (he's a pilot). He can spend 4 hours researching the perfect part for our car or how to do a home improvement project. I still talk to him about what I'm reading. I expect that someday when he isn't working 60-80 hours a week that he would read more often. So I think it really depends on the person.

Strawberryscone · Post by **Strawberryscone** » 21 Jun 2022, 04:57

I'm not sure, but I don't mind giving it a try. It's not a deal-breaker though.

OlaYinkahh · Post by **OlaYinkahh** » 22 Jun 2022, 04:32

No, I can't. I love reading a lot and I would want my partner to match my energy level on books

Lexie Price 1 · Post by **Lexie Price 1** » 24 Jun 2022, 13:50

Honestly, I think I could. I love to read, but I've certainly had times in my life where I've been too stressed or just not had enough time to make it a priority. In fact, because I've struggled with depression, sometimes that has kept me from reading as well. So I can empathize with those being issues that might prevent someone from reading as well.

Even if it's just a matter of preference, though, I think I'd be okay with it. It would be different if someone was actively against anyone reading and anti-intellectual, but reading is inherently morally neutral. So if someone didn't, as long as we were otherwise compatible, I think I'd be okay with it. It's nice to have things in common with your partner—but you don't have to have everything in common.

Iqbal Jaafar · Post by **Iqbal Jaafar** » 26 Jun 2022, 21:16

Yes I can if she can understand I have another hobby other than spending time with her. I once married to a woman who does not read any book at all. She know its my hobby and she's okay with it. But she does not get how precious my books are. She once throw out my books out because of disputes and I'm so upset with it until now. To answer once I again your question yes I can date with them but I certainly want my next women to be a reader like me.