Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Daniella Dhanesar
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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Well, I am dating someone who has no interest in reading books but I believe it's because he has never read a good book and I plan to change that!!
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Post by AbandonedProfile1 »

It would definitely be a plus if he likes to read and thereby allow us to explore different worlds together... But as long as he does not mind me curling up with a book (and especially does not interrupt me while I am immersed in said book), we could make it work. For instance if he chose to make dinner or wash the dishes while I chill read he cannot be too bad :)
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I wouldn't count them out for this, but from experience, there are a lot more topics to be discussed between two readers.
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Post by Evelyn Mashale »

Yes, I would. I mean I would like to date someone who also reads, that way we could have reading dates where it's just the silence and us but I can still do that with someone who doesn't read. Or maybe I could read for them.
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Post by Gautami G »

Absolutely not! One's recommendation says so much about the person, about their way of thinking, their interests. Being a book reader is almost a necessity.
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Post by DE Navarro »

Such a funny question, never really thought of it before. I've been married for 36 years, haven't dated in all that time (other than with my wife). My wife is an avid reader. I don't ever remember it being a "criteria" by which I judged the girls I dated, but usually a person that is a reader is a great conversationalist, educated, has that well-read poise and ability to engage mentally with others, and all those were obvious factors of the women that attracted me. So in a roundabout way, I would say that if a girl I dated was not reader it would be reflected in her other manners and methods to a degree that I would be put off by someone who was not well-read and so probably would not have entered into a romantic relationship.
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Post by DarellHershey »

I guess that's a possibility as long as we do have other things in common.
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Post by Courtney Hughes »

The more I think about it, no, I couldn’t date someone who doesn’t read. I feel as if everyone should exercise their mind and vocabulary by reading something if interest to them.
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I can. She may have other qualities I like.
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Post by Jordan Bricks »

Yes, sure. There could be something else I like. Some people who don't read are better thinkers and better at conversations than people who read.
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Post by Rhea_K »

Honestly I AM experiencing this and it's not as bad as I thought it would be. Growing up I always believed that I HAD to date someone who reads otherwise it is a big NO from me. But I guess opposites do attract as most of our hobbies don't align but our chemistry is great! I guess the most important thing should be that your partner respects your likes and dislikes and lends you an ear whenever you talk about them. Even though the person I'm seeing does not read, he creates a very comfortable atmosphere that allows me to share my love of books and even read out important parts from books that I read to him. It's strange but I guess I'm slowly turning him into a reader :D
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Post by eggnog »

Definitely! My current boyfriend doesn't read books, but instead is really into games. We're both very independent in the relationship, but also very intimate. I love it, it's the perfect balance for me.
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Post by oussamaelmajid »

Honestly I would, but I would attempt with the best of my efforts to turn her into a reader in order to be able to share with her what I love most: Books! Because for me, reading, is like work-out for the brains. And who doesn't like to work-out (jogging for instance) together? So it is with reading, it would be a great opportunity to train the brain muscle together with your significant other, if she's not into books, I'd handpick specific works which would get her into the reading hobby in no time, and remove the obstacles which she face while reading, such as laziness, non-conducive environment, lack of reading interest, and lack of the first impulse or spark which is necessary. For instance, I'd read a book which I'm sure she would love, summarize it for her without spoiling anything, so she could get grow her book reading interest without getting discouraged, bored or altogether uninterested to open the first page.
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Post by Neshboy Aburi »

Obviously, I would. My current fiance does not ready and has never been a reader. The good thing is that she is very encouraging and doesn't the long hours I sometimes spend engrossed in books
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Post by HRRyan2668 »

Dating someone who doesn't know how to read or chooses not to read are two different things. When faced with a proposition to date someone who doesn't know how to read, I would need to know if the person ever had the desire to read or if they would want to continue living this way. If they were happy in their lifestyle and uninterested in furthering their skills or broadening their horizons, so to speak, I would probably swim away within the dating pool. However, I am currently in a relationship with someone who does not enjoy reading, therefore, they do not pick up books very often. This person has a different way of learning or escaping reality and it primarily relies on schematics or images of mechanical structures or engines to vehicles. Their ability to enter a world without reading words amazes me. We do "read" things together which consists of me reading something out loud to them and then having a discussion afterward. In summation, I could and currently am dating someone who doesn't read.
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