Review of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
Posted: 30 Aug 2021, 08:11
[Following is a volunteer review of "Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life" by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D..]
One of the subjects that domineer the mind and heart of both young and old is love. Many questions run in the mind and heart about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Why does my love life keep on failing? Is there hope for a deeply fulfilling love relationship? Dr. Thomas Jordan a New York psychoanalyst gives a deep and detailed look into this subject. His research and findings from his patients over the years have proved that what we learn about love affects how we practice love. However, his journey of treatment by Dr. Benjamin Wolstein seems to have bore fruit in his own life. His weekly psychoanalysis has contributed much to the writing of this guide.
He begins from the unknown and walks with the reader to identify the underlying issues. Just the way we learn through unconscious and conscious ways, Jordan is convinced beyond doubt that loves failures and success can come from what is learned over the past and present. The source of multiple disappointment and complete resignation in pursuing love is fully analyzed at every turn in each chapter. It is not just enough to know the problem it is much satisfying to give a remedy. The author takes us through a self-critique method of unlearning unhealthy experiences. With a step-by-step guide, this book is practical in all its form.
I had to personally think through my own love life as I read through the book. I could not stop looking deep within and soul search to see the unhealthy and healthy state of my love relationship. Furthermore, I can clearly say I was in a therapy session with Jordan. This is one of the things I love about this book. It is informative and educational.
Second. Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointed Love Life by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. is full of examples from different people. This makes it easy to relate to the author's research and findings. Jordan’s honesty in sharing his troubled love relationship makes the information shared so thrilling. He shows the reader how the steps he suggests have worked out for him. With a picture of him and his parents the readers can have an image of how his parents affected his love life. I identify how the aftereffects of my previous unhealthy love relationship have affected my current love life.
The author’s conclusion is one of motivation. He seemingly gives a thrust to his readers to take control of their love life. This is not easy. One cannot estimate how long it will take to finally say they are in control of the ‘psychological love life’. However, the writer leaves the reader with a desire to make baby steps and even find help through his seminars and webinars.
I enjoyed the “love relationship class” in this book, though I have very little inclination towards psychology. With all considerations, I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. The book is exceptionally edited. I recommend this book to those married and those looking forward to marriage. Both young and old can draw life lessons from this book.
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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
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One of the subjects that domineer the mind and heart of both young and old is love. Many questions run in the mind and heart about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Why does my love life keep on failing? Is there hope for a deeply fulfilling love relationship? Dr. Thomas Jordan a New York psychoanalyst gives a deep and detailed look into this subject. His research and findings from his patients over the years have proved that what we learn about love affects how we practice love. However, his journey of treatment by Dr. Benjamin Wolstein seems to have bore fruit in his own life. His weekly psychoanalysis has contributed much to the writing of this guide.
He begins from the unknown and walks with the reader to identify the underlying issues. Just the way we learn through unconscious and conscious ways, Jordan is convinced beyond doubt that loves failures and success can come from what is learned over the past and present. The source of multiple disappointment and complete resignation in pursuing love is fully analyzed at every turn in each chapter. It is not just enough to know the problem it is much satisfying to give a remedy. The author takes us through a self-critique method of unlearning unhealthy experiences. With a step-by-step guide, this book is practical in all its form.
I had to personally think through my own love life as I read through the book. I could not stop looking deep within and soul search to see the unhealthy and healthy state of my love relationship. Furthermore, I can clearly say I was in a therapy session with Jordan. This is one of the things I love about this book. It is informative and educational.
Second. Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointed Love Life by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. is full of examples from different people. This makes it easy to relate to the author's research and findings. Jordan’s honesty in sharing his troubled love relationship makes the information shared so thrilling. He shows the reader how the steps he suggests have worked out for him. With a picture of him and his parents the readers can have an image of how his parents affected his love life. I identify how the aftereffects of my previous unhealthy love relationship have affected my current love life.
The author’s conclusion is one of motivation. He seemingly gives a thrust to his readers to take control of their love life. This is not easy. One cannot estimate how long it will take to finally say they are in control of the ‘psychological love life’. However, the writer leaves the reader with a desire to make baby steps and even find help through his seminars and webinars.
I enjoyed the “love relationship class” in this book, though I have very little inclination towards psychology. With all considerations, I rate this book 4 out of 4 stars. The book is exceptionally edited. I recommend this book to those married and those looking forward to marriage. Both young and old can draw life lessons from this book.
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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon