Review of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
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Review of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
[Following is a volunteer review of "Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life" by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D..]
Thomas Jordan, Ph.D, brings forward an informative and inquisitive study into the psychology of relationships and love lives, in his Learn to Love – Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life . Characterized by 30 years of psychoanalysis as a practicing clinical psychologist he brings forward his learnings and evidence in this superb insight in the human love relationships as from the moment of birth.
Divided into three parts, it starts into describing what may be the ‘unhealthy relationship experiences’ one unconsciously learns throughout his growing up years, to projecting these problematic attributions into the ‘love life relationships’ in the future search of love. Part two, continues into identifying these unhealthy experiences, become aware of them and ultimately the ability to challenge these traits, thus providing the opportunity to change and start the healing process. Part three deals with the ‘unlearning methods’, where it guides you on how to unlearn the unhealthy experiences, learn and re-learn into bettering oneself, to search for the healthy love relationship, most true and benefitting to oneself and one’s partner.
As from the moment of birth, a person becomes subjected to the people that surrounds him, that is the family and its environment, the attitudes, emotions, and feelings. These concepts take form in the understanding that these negative attitudes are normal and assumes that relationships are meant to be that way, and continue to search for the same negative traits in the love partner, and brings these same traits in the relationship, because the person unconsciously learned them, in the family environment he grew up in. This study identifies the most common unhealthy relationship experiences, expands the understanding of them, and explores the healing process for each, to provide the reader with the opposite remedy, the ‘healthy love relationship experience’. A self-search experience, that suggests that the change must start from the self, up to the point where the love relationship becomes a unique personal experience, which must only be defined and strived in a healthy developing environment. In simplified words, the feelings, and emotions once experienced, if unhealthy and identified, are to be unlearned and substituted by the positive learned experiences.
I absolutely find no negative traits in this superb work. It is described in the simplest method possible for one to understand, and the necessary tools for self-scrutiny. This non-fiction book is suitable for youths, young adults, and mature audience. The after-effect I experienced while reading it, was the reminder of my own personal experiences that I went through, and how true the insights mentioned were. It took me more than 40 years to realize what the changes I needed to work upon were, and when I truly learned how to address them and re-learn myself, that was the moment I found my most fulfilling love life and relationship. Had I this study and insight in my earlier years, I would have had the most precious food for thought that might have saved me from prolonged painful experiences.
The rating is a bold 4 stars out of 4 stars , very well professionally edited, with very few orthographic mistakes, and nicely presented to the reader to understand until the very end. Hats off to Thomas Jordan and his wife!
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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
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Thomas Jordan, Ph.D, brings forward an informative and inquisitive study into the psychology of relationships and love lives, in his Learn to Love – Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life . Characterized by 30 years of psychoanalysis as a practicing clinical psychologist he brings forward his learnings and evidence in this superb insight in the human love relationships as from the moment of birth.
Divided into three parts, it starts into describing what may be the ‘unhealthy relationship experiences’ one unconsciously learns throughout his growing up years, to projecting these problematic attributions into the ‘love life relationships’ in the future search of love. Part two, continues into identifying these unhealthy experiences, become aware of them and ultimately the ability to challenge these traits, thus providing the opportunity to change and start the healing process. Part three deals with the ‘unlearning methods’, where it guides you on how to unlearn the unhealthy experiences, learn and re-learn into bettering oneself, to search for the healthy love relationship, most true and benefitting to oneself and one’s partner.
As from the moment of birth, a person becomes subjected to the people that surrounds him, that is the family and its environment, the attitudes, emotions, and feelings. These concepts take form in the understanding that these negative attitudes are normal and assumes that relationships are meant to be that way, and continue to search for the same negative traits in the love partner, and brings these same traits in the relationship, because the person unconsciously learned them, in the family environment he grew up in. This study identifies the most common unhealthy relationship experiences, expands the understanding of them, and explores the healing process for each, to provide the reader with the opposite remedy, the ‘healthy love relationship experience’. A self-search experience, that suggests that the change must start from the self, up to the point where the love relationship becomes a unique personal experience, which must only be defined and strived in a healthy developing environment. In simplified words, the feelings, and emotions once experienced, if unhealthy and identified, are to be unlearned and substituted by the positive learned experiences.
I absolutely find no negative traits in this superb work. It is described in the simplest method possible for one to understand, and the necessary tools for self-scrutiny. This non-fiction book is suitable for youths, young adults, and mature audience. The after-effect I experienced while reading it, was the reminder of my own personal experiences that I went through, and how true the insights mentioned were. It took me more than 40 years to realize what the changes I needed to work upon were, and when I truly learned how to address them and re-learn myself, that was the moment I found my most fulfilling love life and relationship. Had I this study and insight in my earlier years, I would have had the most precious food for thought that might have saved me from prolonged painful experiences.
The rating is a bold 4 stars out of 4 stars , very well professionally edited, with very few orthographic mistakes, and nicely presented to the reader to understand until the very end. Hats off to Thomas Jordan and his wife!
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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon
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