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Review of Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid
[Following is a volunteer review of "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid" by Dr. Rachel Sims.]
"Are You Smart or Stupid?" by Dr. Rachel Sims is a thought-provoking, in-depth guide that touches on the intricacies of relationships that mark today's relationships. Dr. Sims absolutely leaves no stone unturned in her meticulous attention to a cross-section of issues critical to anyone navigating the rollercoaster of love and dating. This book is far from just an investigation into romantic relationships; it almost acts as a guide to understanding oneself and one's partner for a better connection.
One of the emerging features of the book is how to handle love itself. On the whole, Dr. Sims dissects the whole concept of love, be it the idealized portrayal of love by the media or true love, which is rough and at times dirty. Dr. Sims helps a reader identify infatuation versus love and has a call to relate at a more grounded level.
Most revealing is the part that expounds on dating myths. Dr. Sims, in effect, helps one to do away with a number of popular misconceptions that can stand in one's way of hope in a rewarding relationship. From the supposed 'opposites attract' to the idea that love conquers all, she offers a reality check that is refreshing and needful. Her practical advice will enable a reader to sidestep common pitfall traps and to approach dating with a healthier, more realistic mindset.
Transitioning from dating to being in a relationship is another very important phase, as per Dr. Sims. She offers golden advice on when and how to decide if a relationship is worth the investment and how to tread the early stages in a gentle, intent manner. Her advice spans communication, boundaries, and building trust—all very central to preparing the foundation for a long-term relationship.
The book explained how to be serious with an obvious written plan and to understand when the relationship is ready to move forward at the next level. Important issues discussed are joint values, long-term goals, and mutual respect. Of significant importance is her advice on how to talk about the tough conversation of the future, which gives the readers an important guide in making informed decisions concerning the relationship.
She discusses the entire "M-word"—marriage—as if it were a discussion about which brand of bleach is better. She discusses the importance of this commitment and what exactly it means to be ready for marriage. She also gives practical advice on what to determine to know whether you and your partner are ready for this step and what to do to ensure that your relationship can withstand the pressures that come with such a commitment.
Dr. Sims also talks about finances in a relationship. This is often the most contentious issue in any relationship, and it is waded through candidly. Dr. Sims discusses the importance of being financially conscious with your partner before discussing finances. She gives ideas on how to freely and openly discuss matters associated with money, which could help couples avert one of the most common sources of conflict.
One of the best illustrative parts of the book is on the concept of "ignore, fight, or flight." Dr. Sims explains how one can manage conflicts in a healthy and constructive way. She explains to us the importance of understanding the style of one's resolution and that of our partners. Her practical advice on when to address issues, when to let things go, and when to walk away proves valuable in maintaining a healthy relationship.
The book's exceptional editing and flawless writing make it easy to read and appealing. Each chapter is organized very well, and the content flows, which allows the reader to receive and apply advice with the greatest ease. Speaking of ease, Dr. Sims writes in a very conversational style, very lively and engaging, punctuated with some authority—a truly appealing fusion when complex ideas need to be taught easily.
In short, "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid?" by Dr. Rachel Sims is a book that everyone should read to learn about love and relationships. The coverage of the book on important topics, together with real-life practical advice and great writing, makes it one that is useful for all readers of any age. Unconditionally, hands down, I give this book five out of five stars for what it offers and for the way it is presented. There was nothing in this book that I didn't like. It is a perfect guide in the complicated world of love and relationships.
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Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid
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"Are You Smart or Stupid?" by Dr. Rachel Sims is a thought-provoking, in-depth guide that touches on the intricacies of relationships that mark today's relationships. Dr. Sims absolutely leaves no stone unturned in her meticulous attention to a cross-section of issues critical to anyone navigating the rollercoaster of love and dating. This book is far from just an investigation into romantic relationships; it almost acts as a guide to understanding oneself and one's partner for a better connection.
One of the emerging features of the book is how to handle love itself. On the whole, Dr. Sims dissects the whole concept of love, be it the idealized portrayal of love by the media or true love, which is rough and at times dirty. Dr. Sims helps a reader identify infatuation versus love and has a call to relate at a more grounded level.
Most revealing is the part that expounds on dating myths. Dr. Sims, in effect, helps one to do away with a number of popular misconceptions that can stand in one's way of hope in a rewarding relationship. From the supposed 'opposites attract' to the idea that love conquers all, she offers a reality check that is refreshing and needful. Her practical advice will enable a reader to sidestep common pitfall traps and to approach dating with a healthier, more realistic mindset.
Transitioning from dating to being in a relationship is another very important phase, as per Dr. Sims. She offers golden advice on when and how to decide if a relationship is worth the investment and how to tread the early stages in a gentle, intent manner. Her advice spans communication, boundaries, and building trust—all very central to preparing the foundation for a long-term relationship.
The book explained how to be serious with an obvious written plan and to understand when the relationship is ready to move forward at the next level. Important issues discussed are joint values, long-term goals, and mutual respect. Of significant importance is her advice on how to talk about the tough conversation of the future, which gives the readers an important guide in making informed decisions concerning the relationship.
She discusses the entire "M-word"—marriage—as if it were a discussion about which brand of bleach is better. She discusses the importance of this commitment and what exactly it means to be ready for marriage. She also gives practical advice on what to determine to know whether you and your partner are ready for this step and what to do to ensure that your relationship can withstand the pressures that come with such a commitment.
Dr. Sims also talks about finances in a relationship. This is often the most contentious issue in any relationship, and it is waded through candidly. Dr. Sims discusses the importance of being financially conscious with your partner before discussing finances. She gives ideas on how to freely and openly discuss matters associated with money, which could help couples avert one of the most common sources of conflict.
One of the best illustrative parts of the book is on the concept of "ignore, fight, or flight." Dr. Sims explains how one can manage conflicts in a healthy and constructive way. She explains to us the importance of understanding the style of one's resolution and that of our partners. Her practical advice on when to address issues, when to let things go, and when to walk away proves valuable in maintaining a healthy relationship.
The book's exceptional editing and flawless writing make it easy to read and appealing. Each chapter is organized very well, and the content flows, which allows the reader to receive and apply advice with the greatest ease. Speaking of ease, Dr. Sims writes in a very conversational style, very lively and engaging, punctuated with some authority—a truly appealing fusion when complex ideas need to be taught easily.
In short, "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid?" by Dr. Rachel Sims is a book that everyone should read to learn about love and relationships. The coverage of the book on important topics, together with real-life practical advice and great writing, makes it one that is useful for all readers of any age. Unconditionally, hands down, I give this book five out of five stars for what it offers and for the way it is presented. There was nothing in this book that I didn't like. It is a perfect guide in the complicated world of love and relationships.
******
Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon
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