What Makes You Different?
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As I have reached my senior years, I have gradually come to accept my differences and even to find some pride in my writing and speaking abilities. But my shyness has degenerated to social phobia, and I am unable to stay at my house of worship for more than 15 minutes after the program before I start to feel like the walls are closing in.
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Hat's off to you! Life is not always easy for everyone, and thriving in this world filled with tons of people who don't always understand you is definitely note-worthy.ToPaintwithWords wrote:I am a mother of three adult "special needs" children (BP +ADHD, dyslexia, and depression) who homeschooled them for all or most of their education. I also have Adult ADD and MDD and find it hard at times to either get started or to stay on task. Most of my life people have viewed me as "odd", "strange" or nerdy because I spent a lot of time reading, knew esoteric subjects or had interests that were considered "white" and not acceptable. I am physically awkward and don't know what to do with my hands or feet at times.
As I have reached my senior years, I have gradually come to accept my differences and even to find some pride in my writing and speaking abilities. But my shyness has degenerated to social phobia, and I am unable to stay at my house of worship for more than 15 minutes after the program before I start to feel like the walls are closing in.
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Fortunately as an adult, I've accepted it, and most people say my smile is one of my best features.
Unfortunately, I think we live in a time when most people are too focused on the buzzing of their Facebook or Twitter account to actually look someone in the face long enough to notice a scar.
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And I completely agree with how our society is today. Looking somebody in the eyes and focusing our attention on them seems to be sadly slipping away. Not a good thing to say the least.
I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for Thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety. ~ Psalms 4:8
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Swara Sangeet wrote:You don't have to worry AT ALL. I think you're perfectly normal. Over-analyzing stuff would make you a WONDERFUL thinker. I'm sure that you're pretty creative as well! Being blunt is a good thing; frankness is honesty, according to me. May you always be happy in life!greenstripedgiraffe wrote:I'm basically not quite normal. I look fairly normal, and most people think I am, but I have a bit of something "off" that has not yet been categorized or quantified. I have significant troubles fitting in socially. It might be slight Attention Deficit Disorder (no Hyperactivity in there, though). I might have a little bit of autistic tendencies (I have at least one child on the spectrum, but they are both worse than I am). I have never mastered the art of "small talk," largely because I don't understand how it works. I over-analyze everything and am considered to be very logical. I tend to be blunt and tactless. I know these tendencies and work really hard to overcome the socially awkward part, but I haven't mastered that yet either - HA!
you are very, very kind! thank you! I was picked on all the time as a kid, which is why I know there's something not normal about me. But, over time I have learned how to blend in better I do have to watch what I say often, if I want to keep friends! My current job is to analyze quantitative and qualitative data - I guess that's good for an over-thinker!
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Actually most of my front teeth are a mixture of veneers and crowns. My parents had a very good dentist who retired to the Algarve a couple of years afterwards. I try to think it's unrelated, but we probably bought half his villa.rssllue wrote:Wow! Good thing your teeth didn't get knocked out!
And I completely agree with how our society is today. Looking somebody in the eyes and focusing our attention on them seems to be sadly slipping away. Not a good thing to say the least.
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At least you guys were able to make him smile with the villa after he worked on so many other smiles in his career.
I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for Thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety. ~ Psalms 4:8
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I like to think it's protected me from vanityrssllue wrote:Sorry to hear that. I hope that it hasn't affected your day to day life too much in a negative way.
At least you guys were able to make him smile with the villa after he worked on so many other smiles in his career.
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greenstripedgiraffe wrote:I'm basically not quite normal. I look fairly normal, and most people think I am, but I have a bit of something "off" that has not yet been categorized or quantified. I have significant troubles fitting in socially. It might be slight Attention Deficit Disorder (no Hyperactivity in there, though). I might have a little bit of autistic tendencies (I have at least one child on the spectrum, but they are both worse than I am). I have never mastered the art of "small talk," largely because I don't understand how it works. I over-analyze everything and am considered to be very logical. I tend to be blunt and tactless. I know these tendencies and work really hard to overcome the socially awkward part, but I haven't mastered that yet either - HA!
You sound very similar to my husband. He has the very sam issues and has been trying to work on them as long as I've known him. He always feels like he is weird and different from everyone else and is often self conscious of it, then beats himself up about it. I try to tell him there are many people like him out there and we all have our own strengths and weaknesses.
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I don't have any sort of physical or mental abnormality, thankfully. I commend all of you who have gone through these various trials and come out better for it!!
The thing that popped into my mind was that I have always felt kind of ostracized within my family because I am the only one with any real "religious" beliefs. They look at me weird and it feels like they question my sanity sometimes. I know everyone has their own beliefs but I don't think I'm THAT much of a weirdo. But maybe a little.