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i love wedding traditions , it reminds you of your culture

Apart from the practice of paying dowry, we have what is called a Palm wine carrying ceremony. In fact, it is the actual marriage. The woman is given a small Calabash cup of palm wine by a male elder in her village. She takes it to the man she is to marry. He drinks from it and gives the rest to her to drink. Once this is done, they've gotten married. Of course, thanks to modernisation, we now have Christian, Islamic and court marriages.

Where I come from you pay the dowry, which is a whole list of small yet very significant things to the bride's family. By family, I mean an extension to grand parents, uncles, aunts, siblings, and parents. After fulfilling this, you celebrate the traditional wedding. It is in a way more important than the civil and church weddings.

Well, there's the dowry, and then a number of women are covered from head to toe and made to stand in a line, then the soon-to-be husband is made to pick his fiancee from the line of women. I am not really sure what happens if he picks the wrong woman, haha.

For the bride to use something old, something new, something borrow and something blue. I think it's sweet.

In our tradition, the guest spray money over the couple as they dance. Both the guests and the couple eagerly awaits this moment. This couple normally sees this as a means of recovering some of what was spent for the wedding. For the guests, it's just a show off of wealth and status

In our Hindu (subcaste: Baniya) tradition their is a ritual in which parents are to give their daughter to the groom. It is called Kaniya Daan i.e., Donating the daughter. I hate this thing. How can one donate their daughter as if she is some kind of an object. Also in the ritual, parents have to wash their daughters feet.
I had stopped my parents from touching my feet, let alone wash....but even thinking of it today makes me angry.

I think wedding traditions of different cultures are interesting too. I always liked reading slave narratives because they had interesting wedding traditions. Plantation owners had slave couples jump over a broom to marry each other, which is kind of cute and some African American couples still use brooms at their weddings to honor their ancestors. Jewish Orthodox weddings are pretty fun too; they carry the bride and groom on chairs and it's pretty raucous and fun. There's a lot of great cultural traditions at weddings.

I agree that sounds bizarre. I have seen it happen only during state burials. Our country has different cultures spread across cities. I don't think I have encountered any bizarre happening.

In the US, we have a lot of wedding cultures, but the one that comes to mind is when the bride throws her bouquet of flowers into a sea of single female guests while facing the other way. The woman who catches the bouquet is thought to be the next to get married.

hsimone wrote: ↑12 Jul 2017, 09:48 When reading Nadia's perspective, we learn that a wedding tradition/custom in Jordan is for the men to gather in the groom's tent and use guns to shoot celebratory shots in the air.

Hearing this was kind of bizarre to me because it seems dangerous, especially for a child to be present.

What wedding traditions does your culture practice?
What wedding traditions have you heard of that have stuck in your head - whether shocking or sweet?

I didn't know about 'the guns' tradition but why would people actually have these kind of traditions? More so, in the presence of children. Aren't they even scared that they could even shoot the groom or the bride?

Different people have different wedding traditions basing on their cultures and traditions. Am not so much conversant with all our wedding traditions. I know of the one that if you are staying with a step-mother and you are planning to wed, you have to go a day prior to your wedding to your biological mother so that she can give you the first blessings and a gift. Thereafter, your step-mother can walk you down the aisle on your wedding day.

I probably won't follow a lot of traditions when it comes time for me to get married. My parents got married in my grandparents living room. My mom didn't even wear a white dress.

I have never felt particularly attached to any wedding traditions in the United States, but I enjoy learning more about those of other cultures.

When reading about the wedding tradition in Jordan I was shocked but also intrigued. It's really fascinating to learn about other cultures.