What causes a man to be unfaithful?

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There are so many reasons why men cheat but nothing justifies it because at the end of the day you know it is wrong but still chose to do that. There is always more than one solution to a problem but if cheating is the choice you made then you not the circumstances is to be blamed
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I think what causes a man to be unfaithful is the women not treating him the way he wants them to. Then there is the pleasuring side I guess you could say. I also wonder if Men find it even more exciting knowing they can get away with being unfaithful
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I don't think it is just men that should be under the microscope when discussing this topic. Women can be unfaithful as well. I think that in both cases the choice is made by the individual. I think the reason can differ from person to person. Unhappiness, and the unhappy person could just leave, but maybe the don't want to be alone. Wanting to have your cake and eat it too is also something that comes to mind when analyzing this topic, and that could just be for bragging rights, or because someone feels completely empty and just needs something to make them feel. I don't think it is right in any regard, but it is an interesting topic to dissect. I don't think there is an actual universal answer to this. I have known great men and women that have cheated on their significant others. I didn't write them off as bad people, though I questioned their integrity momentarily, but that made me realize that there really isn't an answer for this because it can change for person to person and be something completely different in every scenario.
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Of course the reason isn't the same for everyone in every situation, but I've always thought a big part of it is the excitement of doing something you're not supposed to. Relationships are extremely tough, and even the best ones can sometimes leave us feeling bored and trapped. It's not that we don't want to be with that person, but we want to somehow feel free at the same time, like sneaking out of your parents' house in the middle of the night.

I think we also strain to maintain our individuality. We share so much with our partners; eventually, even most of the same stories and memories. Cheating is a moment that is all yours, an exciting secret all your own.

I've never cheated, but when something makes me angry, I analyze the crap out of it to try to gain an understanding of where the other person may be coming from.
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What makes a man unfaithful? Nothing. A man who wants to be unfaithful will be unfaithful no matter what the circumstance is. Also, no matter how perfect his woman is, a man with wondering eyes and heart is bound to be unfaithful. He must continue to chase after the wind, unrestrained, until such a time he hits a brick wall in his chase.
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And no one has mentioned biology??? Like it or not, males have 2 primal urges- to hunt & to produce offspring. Any of these other possibilities mentioned are just smokescreens thrown up by modern society as far as I'm concerned. It would be a far far more interesting question to ask why women "cheat" as it goes against the equivalent female urges.
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I think that infidelity is a choice that is made by a partner who does not show respect for the feelings of his partner. I think that when men blame their significant others for the infidelity, it merely shows that they are unwilling to own up to their mistakes. I also agree that cheating is the result of an unhealthy relationship in which both people do not share their feelings or concerns with each other.
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Another infidelity thread? Really??? If your partner chooses to be with someone else at some point, either accept it as human nature & get on with your life or else take full responsibility for it yourself & work out how you can prevent it from happening again. That may sound harsh but it's reality.
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He has underlying issues especially emotional for example parental or generational, or it is his character, he thinks it won't go too far I.e "it is only coffee and she is my wife's best friend nothing can happen syndrome " but soon the other woman has moved in ", ( let no one fool you women can be witty , cunnning, and calculating ),he thinks the grass is greener on the other side , he thinks he can get away with it, he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too, he thinks it is only sex nothing more..... the list goes on and on
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Sarah Tariq wrote:Man of wicked nature always find excuses for unfaithfulness and blame women for this.
I also find this true most of the time. Why blame the other party? :)
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Being unfaithful is a choice. Most cheat because they are always looking for something or someone they think is better.
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Riptidemom8 wrote:Being unfaithful is a choice. Most cheat because they are always looking for something or someone they think is better.
Some people really do not think that what they have is the best.
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Nothing.People are singular individuals so asking why men cheat is like asking why women cheat or stay in unfaithful relationships. Everyone has a different reason, but mainly because they choose to.
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akeseh wrote:This is an important topic which needs to be discussed at length. The following are some of the reasons.
1. Women who deliberately refuses their partners sex.
2. When a woman is not sexually active in bed.
3. Bad friend on the side of the man.
4. Prolonged ill health of the woman
5. When a woman does not dress decently etc.
On point. But I would want to add that one who has self control and the fear of God can still remain faithful in spite of the quoted points.
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To me, there's no particular reason for unfaithfulness. Whoever wants to be unfaithful will be unfaithful.
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