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Most have us have been betrayed, whether by people close to us, or strangers in the form of scams. There many ways to react to being betrayed, what is the best way to react here and how do you control the pain inflicted due to the betrayal?

Honestly, the best answer I can give you is to just move on. It's a harsh answer and I hate hearing it myself but it's helped me in so many situations.
Forgive and forget.
You can forgive the person and forget the problem or forget the person entirely. It's up to you how you deal with things, you can cry, get angry, fight and make it worse. Or you can forget about it, be the bigger person, etc. (Not that crying is a bad choice, it's very healthy)
Now I don't know the situation exactly so it's hard to give a good answer but betrayal is always a hurtful thing. So it might be best to talk it over with the person, express your feelings and then move on.

At one point in our lives we have all been betrayed by even those close to us.How we react to betrayal is very different, but the best advice would be to move on from that.By moving on, you could forgive the person or you could choose to keep away from that person totally, this depends on the type of relationship you had and how much that person means to you, but at the end of the day just remember you've been burnt once don't let it happen the second time so keep your eyes on that person...and another thing don't relive the past, move on with your life.

Well from my point of view,i would say let it all out..Express your feelings towards your betrayer.Dont try to hide it and pretend to be strong .Let your betrayer know how you feel towards whatever it is they did to you.
Be authentic about your feelings..Yes it would hurt and maybe make things even worse,but then again its not your fault.Try as much as you can to let it go too and appreciate it.Appreciating the betrayal will ease the pain and make you aware what life can turnout to be sometimes.

people differ in characters and personality, the question is who betrayed you?they are those people who you can confront and they will understand then will be able to settle the issue while they are those who never accept that they are wrong, for those who never accept their mistake i say live them for karma to settle the score for you. sometimes when we try to show our betrayers that we hurt is the more we hurt our selves but they may not willing to compromise.

From experience, I would say to talk about it. Tell the person how you feel and everything you need to say. You might be pleasantly surprised if the person gives a rational explanation or shares their point of view for the action. Talk about it and move on, with or without that person in your life.

Betrayal is part of life.
you will get angry at first, you will be disappointed too, but you all have to accept disappointment and move on. in other words, you laugh about it.

Abdelkhani wrote:Honestly, the best answer I can give you is to just move on. It's a harsh answer and I hate hearing it myself but it's helped me in so many situations.
Forgive and forget.
You can forgive the person and forget the problem or forget the person entirely. It's up to you how you deal with things, you can cry, get angry, fight and make it worse. Or you can forget about it, be the bigger person, etc. (Not that crying is a bad choice, it's very healthy)
Now I don't know the situation exactly so it's hard to give a good answer but betrayal is always a hurtful thing. So it might be best to talk it over with the person, express your feelings and then move on.

I agree. Betrayal can be painful, but what's done is done, best just move on with your life. Might sound insensitive but the alternative is not any better. Especially if it's someone you care about or close.

Depending on the extent of the damage, your response can either be passive, aggressive, or nothing at all. Depends on the personality of the person too. I know many will espouse forgiveness, but I understand that sometimes, that is not possible.

It is a complex question. It can be different for each and every person. I believe it depends in how deep goes the damage and how vulnerable you are at that exact point. You part from there. But I really think that the best is to part ways and break any kind of ties so you can get free.

It is hard to judge anyone's reaction to betrayal because without being that person you don't really know what he or she is going through. In my mind, there are two options after betrayal. You can forgive and move on or you can remove yourself from the situation. Without being within the context, I couldn't possibly say which is the best option. In the end, we will face betrayal at some point in life, and we will all have to make our own choice.

It really depends on the person that betrayed you and what was the betrayal. We all face some form of betrayal in our life and each and everyone has a different reactions. One way of reacting is to cut all ties with that person, remove yourself from the situation. You could forgive and forget or hold a grudge forever. From experience the best thing is to fake it till you make it. Fake being fine till you believe it, whether you're still talking to that person or not you have to pull yourself together.

I truly believe the best reaction towards betrayal, or any other negative form of energy, is to counteract it with a genuine gesture of something positive. Like sending out good vibes to the person who betrayed you to perhaps turn their day around. Maybe it won't affect them in any way, but if you leave that betrayal behind you, then you won't be paying that negative energy forward in your own life or the lives of the people you encounter.

I guess everyone handles betrayal differently, so there really isn't a 'best' reaction. But I would say that take a deep breath and just move on. You cannot change the past.

The best reaction to betrayal is to go on with your life and ignoring the person who committed the betrayal.