Exactly. If it's the wrong decision, you know what doesn't work! Thanks for the comment.Arrigo_Lupori wrote: ↑20 Feb 2018, 09:23 What you said here is amazing, indecision is indeed stagnant. It serves few purposes other than frustrating the hell out of someone. If one takes a decision, it may well be a bad one, but at least one would know.
what myth or myths tackled in this book have been limiting your progree and success at life?
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Re: what myth or myths tackled in this book have been limiting your progree and success at life?
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You took my comment right out of my mouth! The exact example I was thinking of was being bad at math. All through school I took the easier math courses or avoided the advanced science classes that involved a lot of math, like chemistry... even though I was good at science! I think a lot of us tend to label or pigeonhole ourselves, and those limits aren't healthy. There has to be a balance between emphasizing your strengths but also not holding yourself back due to perceived weaknesses.Mekkinism wrote: ↑20 Feb 2018, 21:18 I feel like I've definitely seen the effects of defining my own limitations. In high school I believed I was bad at math and quickly gave up trying to improve, because I thought it was hopeless. I was just bad at math and that was it. In college I gave up pursuing theater because I thought that no matter how much I loved it, I would never be talented enough to land great roles. I'm working through this myth in my own life now, because I'm starting to really get into fitness, when I've always just told myself I wasn't a naturally athletic person and that was that. I'm finding my joy in things that I'm not good at and seeing how removing my own mental limitations really enables me to succeed.
I'm not going to become an accountant any time soon, but I learned I can handle a lot of the finance stuff at work just fine. Glad you're working through your own myths about yourself, you should be proud!
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Thank you! You too! I think some of it has to do with the way that I was praised when I was younger. I'm part of that generation that was complimented for being smart, as opposed to working hard. There's evidence to suggest that kids who are rewarded for intelligence and opposed to diligence tend to give up easier when faced with things they are not immediately good at. They tell themselves that they just don't have that talent. Kids who are complimented for how hard they worked or how much they improved seem to perform much better in the face of obstacles.Haute_Coffee wrote: ↑21 Feb 2018, 13:02You took my comment right out of my mouth! The exact example I was thinking of was being bad at math. All through school I took the easier math courses or avoided the advanced science classes that involved a lot of math, like chemistry... even though I was good at science! I think a lot of us tend to label or pigeonhole ourselves, and those limits aren't healthy. There has to be a balance between emphasizing your strengths but also not holding yourself back due to perceived weaknesses.Mekkinism wrote: ↑20 Feb 2018, 21:18 I feel like I've definitely seen the effects of defining my own limitations. In high school I believed I was bad at math and quickly gave up trying to improve, because I thought it was hopeless. I was just bad at math and that was it. In college I gave up pursuing theater because I thought that no matter how much I loved it, I would never be talented enough to land great roles. I'm working through this myth in my own life now, because I'm starting to really get into fitness, when I've always just told myself I wasn't a naturally athletic person and that was that. I'm finding my joy in things that I'm not good at and seeing how removing my own mental limitations really enables me to succeed.
I'm not going to become an accountant any time soon, but I learned I can handle a lot of the finance stuff at work just fine. Glad you're working through your own myths about yourself, you should be proud!
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As a woman raised in the American Midwest in the 20th Century, this myth was the one constantly reinforced by authorities. Thankfully, the people coming of age in this time don't have that myth being drummed into them.Hildah Mose wrote: ↑07 Jan 2018, 03:18 For me, this myth "Learn to fit in; play it safe— it’s right and proper."is the one that has limited my abilities. Trying to live up to the expectations of my family and our community.
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This myth still cages me. Often I'm told doing things this way is better and healthier. And I reply that I know but what they are requiring from me is too much and too difficult for me, so I can't do it even if it will help me. I say to them and myself that I am different from them and that I have to work within my limits.
And Then I Met Margaret encourages me to try and break the hold this myth has on me.
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