Emotional effects of abuse on children

katiesquilts · Post by **katiesquilts** » 06 Apr 2018, 18:53

Vickie Noel wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 05:57 Children are individual personalities and each person's genetic makeup is different. Thus, they are all prone to handling things in different manners. The world isn't just all cupcakes and rainbows and a situation that is capable of destroying one person can be the reason another pushes through. I think the author did a good job in highlighting that fact.

I absolutely agree! It's like you were reading my mind when you were writing this post.

I think the age when the abuse starts is also important. If they have a foundation made of love and then the abuse starts, they're more likely to be able to pull through and carry on. However, if the abuse is the only thing they've ever known, they never get the chance to build a foundation to stand on.

See_B00kReaDs · Post by **See_B00kReaDs** » 06 Apr 2018, 21:00

I think the author did well in portraying different emotional effects of child abuse. Children suffering from abuse react differently, but one thing is certain, it is a traumatic experience that will test the strength of your character.

See_B00kReaDs · Post by **See_B00kReaDs** » 06 Apr 2018, 21:12

Makena Mugendi wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 05:39 Yes. The effects of abuse in children are many and varied, and they may last until adulthood. I was recently in a Childhood Trauma seminar and it was very informative. People are never the same after abuse. It just hits differently. But you are definitely right on that.

I am fortunate not to have experience abuse, but for those who have, I pray that one day you will overcome this traumatic experience and be totally freed and healed from this.

The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit. Psalms 34:18
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalms 147:3

Post by **Vickie Noel** » 06 Apr 2018, 23:53

katiesquilts wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 18:53
Vickie Noel wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 05:57 Children are individual personalities and each person's genetic makeup is different. Thus, they are all prone to handling things in different manners. The world isn't just all cupcakes and rainbows and a situation that is capable of destroying one person can be the reason another pushes through. I think the author did a good job in highlighting that fact.
I absolutely agree! It's like you were reading my mind when you were writing this post.
I think the age when the abuse starts is also important. If they have a foundation made of love and then the abuse starts, they're more likely to be able to pull through and carry on. However, if the abuse is the only thing they've ever known, they never get the chance to build a foundation to stand on.

You're totally right as well! That foundation or the lack of it most times is the difference between who survives and who doesn't. Great comment!

Melchi Asuma · Post by **Melchi Asuma** » 07 Apr 2018, 00:22

Yes. Very much. The author portrayed in real terms how far reaching emotional abuse is in children. All children are different which also means that effects and outcomes of abuse are unique but bottom line is therere far reaching consequences.

Shweta Shukla · Post by **Shweta Shukla** » 07 Apr 2018, 00:28

I agree. I appreciated that she showed it through individual characters. And she didn’t hold back. The sheer coldness of Shirley’s treatment of Robyn, both about wetting the bed and killing the steer, was shocking in its boldness, especially considering her age. A lot of authors would have portrayed the family as sticking together no matter what. But I don’t think that’s the reality. Also to have a female react this way instead of the stereotypical son.

Sanyesto · Post by **Sanyesto** » 07 Apr 2018, 01:18

Yeah the author does well in explaining thoroughly how the children are affected emotionally by the abuse that they are being subjected to by their 'father'.

Nanig83006 · Post by **Nanig83006** » 07 Apr 2018, 13:03

Considering there are many different forms of abuse and just as many responses to them, I believe Linnane did her best to cover the affects on the children. What happened to them is, sadly, common, but they each perceived how to overcome it differently. Like Vickie Noel said earlier, "a situation that is capable of destroying one person can be the reason another pushes through."

MMJ 47 · Post by **MMJ 47** » 07 Apr 2018, 13:05

The author did very good job portrays all different emotional abuse.

JuliaKay · Post by **JuliaKay** » 07 Apr 2018, 13:32

This author very much gives an honest description of the effects of abuse on children. I have read about this in newspapers and biographies and as part of a social work class.I have also been around children who have been abused and worked with foster kids who come from volatile situations. It is a very accurate description and extremely sad.

ayoomisope · Post by **ayoomisope** » 08 Apr 2018, 06:43

lesler wrote: ↑02 Apr 2018, 14:21 The author does give an accurate portrayal of the effects of child abuse to the child. There is no specific way it affects each individual person, so there's no right or wrong way.

Interesting comment. It's true that everyone, even children, react to situations (like abuse) differently. The author for a good job of portraying the characters affected.

Samy Lax · Post by **Samy Lax** » 08 Apr 2018, 08:21

I've not grown up in an environment like that. So, I might not be the best judge of this. I did feel that the children grew up just fine considering the circumstances though.

Darront24 · Post by **Darront24** » 08 Apr 2018, 17:46

Nanig83006 wrote: ↑07 Apr 2018, 13:03 Considering there are many different forms of abuse and just as many responses to them, I believe Linnane did her best to cover the affects on the children. What happened to them is, sadly, common, but they each perceived how to overcome it differently. Like Vickie Noel said earlier, "a situation that is capable of destroying one person can be the reason another pushes through."

I agree that the author did a good job covering how different children react since we all have different starting (and breaking) points.
I like how this book gives insights on how it can play out and hopefully get us a step as a society in the right direction.

Turtlelady4 · Post by **Turtlelady4** » 09 Apr 2018, 09:42

I agree with how the children were portrayed. Abuse affects people differently and I could appreciate that it was a topic the author did not shy away from. Having worked with children in these situations, I find that there isn't a predictor to who will overcome the trauma or how the trauma will manifest itself later.

Manali_DC · Post by **Manali_DC** » 09 Apr 2018, 09:57

The effects of abuse on children may be myriad and varied. It would depend on whether it is emotional, physical, the environment in which the child is brought up! The author does portray some of the effects realistically and heart wrenchingly, but I share the same opinion as a previous author who says that it is just the tip of the iceberg.