Are These Teenage Extramarital Affairs Happening in 2018?

KitabuKizuri · Post by **KitabuKizuri** » 07 Apr 2018, 17:17

It does happen for various reasons, and the ones which come to light and make the news are the tip of the iceberg. In my opinion its partly due to the potential anonymity our present population size offers.

Misael Carlos · Post by **Misael Carlos** » 07 Apr 2018, 18:32

I think this kind of situation happens, regardless of time or period; it's just that due to social media and the now accepting and tolerance of the people that these tend to be prominent or exposed quickly. Everything is possible, that I am sure of.

KLafser · Post by **KLafser** » 07 Apr 2018, 19:15

Eryn Bradshaw wrote: ↑02 Apr 2018, 09:31 Honestly, I think that extramarital affairs are probably about the same throughout time. There's always been adults who target teenagers, it was just less heard of in the past. A teenage girl who sleeps with an older gentleman would be quickly swept under the carpet, otherwise she wouldn't be eligible for marriage. I do think we hear about it more now though. The teens who have these extramarital affairs with adults aren't ostracized, they are taken to therapy, they get the help they need; and adults who have participated with the teens get sentenced to jail time, removed from their jobs, etc. And with all that happening, news outlets get hold of the story and report on it.

I agree - the numbers may go up or down a little, but I expect that the average is about the same just more publicized in current times. To go a step further, I think teenagers, in general, have crushes but don't typically have the means (gumption?) to act on them. It merits calling out that although she was willing, the adult expressed an interest and initiated contact in this case.

Akinwale Taiwo Ilyas · Post by **Akinwale Taiwo Ilyas** » 07 Apr 2018, 21:20

From my personal perspective, I think the issue of extra marital affairs has been of increased rate in the present generation than before. In the earlier years there are more civility maintained by both young and old in comparison to occurrence in this present generation.

See_B00kReaDs · Post by **See_B00kReaDs** » 08 Apr 2018, 05:31

Extramarital affairs have always been prevalent regardless of time. The only difference is how technology (social media) today can easily expose this kind of affair.

See_B00kReaDs · Post by **See_B00kReaDs** » 08 Apr 2018, 05:34

Misael wrote: ↑07 Apr 2018, 18:32 I think this kind of situation happens, regardless of time or period; it's just that due to social media and the now accepting and tolerance of the people that these tend to be prominent or exposed quickly. Everything is possible, that I am sure of.

I agree with you. It's similar to what I said too.

Omoye+ · Post by **Omoye+** » 08 Apr 2018, 19:57

folkshot wrote: ↑03 Apr 2018, 11:04 I think with social media (and media in general) being what it is now, it's probably just more reported and discussed to a broader audience now than it was back in the day. It's probably sixes as to whether or not it actually happened more in the 50s than today. Girls married younger than they do today so a young woman being involved with an older man was probably not as big a deal.

So true! I totally agree with you. The internet and other media forums have made all these practices open secret.

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:20

mingyums wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 14:53 I realised that it's probably as a few people wrote above, that it was more swept under the rug at that time It's potentially more 'acceptable' today as well, whereas it would have been a hugely taboo subject in the 50's.

I agree with all of the comments in this forum and your comments above.

It just boggles my mind how something can be both "hugely taboo" and "swept under the rug" at the same time. One would think the town gossip would have been shouting it from the rooftops!

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:22

Dignabookread101 wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 16:06 I do also have teenagers guided by love and discipline. Extramarital affairs are still happening today or even more worst than before.

Having my own children, I wonder how we juxtapose our love and discipline guidance against the truth of extramarital affairs happening everywhere for our children to witness? Sigh.

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:27

EricaWilson wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 17:57 There are all kinds of apps today that would enable teens and adults to talk in private as well such as Snapchat, where messages and pictures disappear almost instantly.

YES! HOW have we not even discussed the number of apps whose sole purpose is to aid these activities. This should be its own separate forum!

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:29

dgallois wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 19:11 I think today, with social media and reality tv we just, it is harder to keep this out of the public eye

Yes, someone else mentioned apps, but I had completely forgotten about reality TV. It's like an entire Broadway production of adultery for kids to watch when they get home from school.

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:32

maggiechap wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 20:53 You have to remember that there have always been different social norms throughout history. It wasn't that long ago that being married at 14 was acceptable. I still know older couples who were married between the ages of 14-17 with permission from their parents, so I don't think it would be uncommon for this type of situation. In 'older times' it was common to marry for status and then have affairs, as long as it wasn't made public and this often still happens today, no matter what the age of other person is, but I'll say this -it's rare you ever find a man who cheats on his wife with an older woman. I don't know if it's different for women who cheat, but still.

You make such valid points maggiechap! I still question how prevalent the affairs of married men with teenage girls were. Do we think just because they were getting married as teens that they were also sleeping with married men as teens? This is a harder pill for me to swallow.

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:33

DathanReeves wrote: ↑05 Apr 2018, 21:01 The real question is what causes this sort of thing to happen.

Isn't the easiest answer insecurity: on behalf of both the adult and the teen? I am certain there is more to it than that, but it's what jumps out at me.

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:35

Bianka Walter wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 04:29 I think it was a lot easier to hide it in the '50s! It's a lot more difficult these days to try and sneak around, or have affairs. As was said before, social media has a way of bringing the secrets out of the closet

Do you think? Even with the presence of disappearing messages like Snapchat, or websites directed solely at affairs?

NL Hartje · Post by **NL Hartje** » 08 Apr 2018, 21:40

Vickie Noel wrote: ↑06 Apr 2018, 06:09 I'm also putting into consideration the fact that the world in general has degenerated into severe moral decadence such that brazen conducts are no longer just performed in secret, they are even sought after with such alarming alacrity. So, it is safe to say that teenage affairs alongside others that keep popping up are actually worse than in the past due to the times we're living in.

I'm wondering now, how far back we're all thinking? Was the sanctity of marriage really upheld in the times before the Victorian era? It seems we started in a time of "moral decadence" as you suggest, and then lapsed into the overtly prude between the Victorians and the 1960s. Now we're regressing again? Meh, just food for thought.