Emotional effects of abuse on children

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I do wonder how these effects will adapt and change as they turn into adults. Children are resilient, but I think resiliency fades as people age. So will the children soften as they grow older, or will they build thick walls and hardened hearts? Will they grow to fear others or be fearless leaders? Just as there are so many reactions to abuse as kids, there are so many different ways to adapt and react as these kids become adults.
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mmklundt wrote: 04 Apr 2018, 20:31 The effects of abuse on children is far reaching. The noticeable effects vary depending on the age of the child and the type of abuse. Nothing in this book seemed unusual or inappropriate to me.
I agree completely. Signs of abuse can be so many different things. Some abused children don't even show signs until they are older. Too many variables to be scientific or mathematical about it and be 100% accurate. Everything mentioned is definitely a clue, but it doesn't always mean it is because of abuse or neglect.
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Yes, I think the author does a good job of incorporating several physical effects of child abuse in this book. Of course, the way things present are not nearly as clear-cut as she has made them. However, I don't think the support characters need to be as intricately developed as main characters. I think the author does a great job.
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There are so many indicators of abuse that children manifest.. something like wetting the bed is quite common, as well as being emotionally cold. Or emotionally sweet even! Children deal with trauma and abuse in so many different ways, and the ones the author uses are more commonly known.
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Though all families or children are not the same, these reactions are quite accurate and common.
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From my view point, yes.
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I believe that this is an honest portrayal of the potential effects of abuse on children. Like others have pointed out, the response to trauma is an individual one. The fact that each child reacts in his or her own way adds to the credibility. Sweet little Robyn tries to be the peacemaker. While I disliked Shirley's mean streak, I really couldn't blame her for trying to stay in her father's good graces. Natalie's bitterness becomes her shield throughout the story. The abusive climate at times breeds division among the siblings and in moments pulls some of them closer. This too seems pretty realistic.
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I agree with what was said above in that children react differently to abuse and I think the author portrayed this accurately.
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Yes, I think the author gives an honest portrayal of the effects of abuse in children. The effects depends upon how strong the children are and the severity of the abuse. In my friend's case, her daughter prefered to be single all her life than marry an alcoholic and abusive husband.
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Yes, I believe this to be an honest portrayal. Children have varied effects of abuse, and having seen some kids suffer myself, I do think the author did a good job.
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Unless you work with kids on a regular basis, you won’t know what they experience in different situations. The way kids react and act out are all so different. Abuse, whether physical or emotional, takes a toll in kids. Teachers see a lot in classrooms, coaches see a different side of those same kids on the field. Individuals that investigate abuse have a difficult job because kids are good at hiding things when they need too.
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The author certainly did a great job describing how each of the children dealt with the situation at hand. I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer to this question. EVERY single person is going to react different. Abuse is an ugly thing. Not having been through any thing even close to this, I would have to think it would scar you for life. I mean, how do you get past something like that? There has to be a whole range of emotions to go along with this.
Definately a heavy topic
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