Is Natalie's protection of her mother a reversal of roles? Does it happen often nowadays? Any personal experiences?

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It's a reversal of roles, but I applaud Natalie for not accepting abuse as a regular occurrence. Deep in her heart, she knew that it was wrong and made an effort to protect her mother, who seemed to be flowing with the status quo.
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I definitely feel the reversal of parenting roles in this story. I work for an attorney and I see these situations on a daily basis. It is sad, but it is a prominent event in today's society.
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I read in some psychology book that reversal of roles happens a lot in dysfunctional families and, in fact, it is the number cause of incest in a family. It is said that when the mother fails to fulfil her role and matrimonial duties in the home, the young girl unconscious feels obliged to step in and fulfil her mother's role in order to keep the family together, even if it means sleeping with her own father. It sounds sick, right? But that's human psychology for you.
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The safety of the parents should be a child's concern. I don't think is unusual for Natalie to protect her mum.
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Often the child grows up to not only regret the parent for not being the parent they wanted (loving them the way they feel they should have been loved) but also regretting themselves and doubting their abilities. When they become an adult, they feel anger at the fact that they never really learned how to do it "right" and frequently doubt themselves.
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Definitely. I agree it's because of the emotional trauma she had to face
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I think a should be allowed to be a child and not an adult
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I agree that there is a reversal of roles. I think, because she was the eldest child, she felt she had to take on the protective role, not only for her mother but for her siblings, as well. She didn't have much of a childhood, because of it.
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This is definitely a reversal of roles. When a parent is unable to take care of themselves, their kid can take on the role of caregiver instead of child. The only bright side of this kind of situation is that it helps prepare the kid for when they are an adult and living on their own. It isn't fair that they essentially had their childhood taken away but when a parent is either sick, mentally unstable or on drugs, there isn't much of a choice.
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Yes, Natalie's protection of her mother is a reversal of roles. It happens but not often nowadays. A friend of mine happened to be a battered wife. Her daughter would tell her to leave her alcoholic and abusive dad for her safety.
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It's definitely a reversal of roles, and it's one that we would hope would go unneeded at such a time. Generally, such a reversal of roles is unneeded till the parents becomes elderly and the child becomes an adult. But there other role reversal that are innocent. I have gotten to a point where I sensor stories that are written well, but with dark gritty details that some won't put up with, and I sensor these stories for my mother because there discussions worth having that such shows sometimes inspire. I've also had in this more serious situation, and she ended up taking a loan for college that parents used to spend on a vacation that probably couldn't afford otherwise. We live in a world where anything can happen, because people constantly question previous established logic and sometimes they end up disagreeing with well-reasoned logic...
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