Should there be a dad?

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There definitely should be a dad in the story!
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Surely where is the dad? I think the author should have included him somewhere or if the author is trying to point out one parent family, she should have come out clear. I am so desperate about this matter.
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Charlaigne wrote: 03 Jul 2018, 22:19 This is the first time I realised the dad figure was missing! For the record, a dad and some siblings would make the story more interesting. Maybe even a pet (and showing pet-related chores). We don't know what the author intended so will have to wait to see where she goes next.
I agree! For me I don’t think it harmed it in any way, I just feel like it would be interesting to see what a dad would do. A pet is a good idea, I never think of these things since I’d seems so simple. As you said, we shall see!
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JudasFm wrote: 02 Aug 2018, 09:40
jessinikkip wrote: 01 Aug 2018, 19:28 Ambiguity isn't always a bad thing, as evidenced by this book. It's good to see the change here from breaking down a traditional family to more of a "figure it out on your own" approach.
Agreed. I'm all in favor of a 'nuclear' family, but I don't want the emphasis on that to overshadow the story.

Some parents are also better off divorced. A Mom and Dad who hate each other but stay together "for the sake of the children" end up doing more harm than good, and that's without getting into the issue of DV. Two parent families are all very well, but there's nothing wrong with coming from a single-parent family either :)

And I agree that the Mystery Man in the pool could be Dad. At least, that's how I saw it :)
As did I, actually. It wasn't until this post came up that I realized it wasn't actually ever made clear if he was or not.
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Bookmermaid wrote: 02 Jul 2018, 12:28
Miriam Molina wrote: 01 Jul 2018, 16:01 Toni is shown enjoying many activities with Mom and his friends. I appreciate that family and friendship are subtly depicted as joyful experiences. But hey, we don't see Dad!

Do you agree with me that a dad would be a wonderful addition to the story? Dads should be shown as interested in their children's everyday lives. Maybe Dad could join as the dishwasher. What a resounding message that would send!

I agree that it would be great to have a second parent in there somewhere! A lot of books like this tend to depict only one parent (which isn't unusual but still it would be cool to have more with more than one). Get that other parent in there and show th importance of family and spending time with family!
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JudasFm wrote: 02 Aug 2018, 09:40
jessinikkip wrote: 01 Aug 2018, 19:28 Ambiguity isn't always a bad thing, as evidenced by this book. It's good to see the change here from breaking down a traditional family to more of a "figure it out on your own" approach.
Agreed. I'm all in favor of a 'nuclear' family, but I don't want the emphasis on that to overshadow the story.

Some parents are also better off divorced. A Mom and Dad who hate each other but stay together "for the sake of the children" end up doing more harm than good, and that's without getting into the issue of DV. Two parent families are all very well, but there's nothing wrong with coming from a single-parent family either :)

And I agree that the Mystery Man in the pool could be Dad. At least, that's how I saw it :)
Excellent point. After reading your post I think it would be more inclusive somehow to not have an official 'Dad'. I think it would speak to all those who are not in conventional two-parent families.
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Charlaigne wrote: 03 Jul 2018, 22:19 This is the first time I realised the dad figure was missing! For the record, a dad and some siblings would make the story more interesting. Maybe even a pet (and showing pet-related chores). We don't know what the author intended so will have to wait to see where she goes next.
I totally agree. A dad means a balanced home setting and sorts of increases the books coverage. If there had been a dad, it most definitely would have had a greater appeal.
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Parenting is a team work which involves both mothers and fathers taking active participation in a child’s life.
He can be just as loving and nurturing as the mother. As children grow up, fathers assume the role of a friend, guide and mentor. So I definitely agree with you that a dad would be a good addition to the story.
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I agree that a dad must be a wonderful addition to the story. It would seem more real and parents would have connected better with the book.
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Yeees, without Dads, there will be no MOMs
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I think without a Dad the book can connect better with other type of families and maybe not cause a painful reminder in young children. Unfortunately, not every kid grows up with a father figure.
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Yes of course I will appreciate to the presence of a dad in the life of Toni in the given story. Because dad always plays the role of a hero in every home without which he story seems to be inconvenient.
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A dad would help bring forth a complete family setting. It is warm to see the joy in a complete family.
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Seeing the love of a complete family is wonderful. Dad makes a family complete and surely influences their children development.
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Yes I agree. A dad always play his role by giving moral support which is useful in the the future of his children.
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