Cold Relationship?

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While I don't view this kind of independency as normal for newlyweds, the couple didn't seem too distant for me.
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One size doesn't fit all. It is wrong to think newlyweds should cling to one another all the time. From the narrative I got that they have been in a relationship for quite some time before they got married. But anyone can interpret the way they perceive newlyweds should be I guess.
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The marriage can only be as good as the author wants it to be. If she had spent more time letting us get to know the characters and their relationship maybe it wouldn’t have seemed so cold.
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I think their relationship wasnt very loving but its also very similar to real life relationships ive experienced, which made it relatable for me.
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I think it just shows that they were probably already used to each other and so marriage was another stepping stone, but since they already knew each other and were used to each other they ate comfortable enough to live their lives with a degree of independence.

However, I think that even so, most couples would like to spend their honeymoon together at least as a celebration of their marriage
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No, I just think that was something that he wanted to do and Kelly did not at of the book, they were going to redo their Honeymoon because they did not have time together.
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I 100% sense a cold atmosphere in the marriage. They don't seem as close as you'd expect and I don't get the atmosphere that they are warmly in love. I do find it a little bit sad how there is an element of distance between them :(
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Reynaa wrote: 06 Dec 2019, 08:52 Their relationship seems under-developed and overshadowed by the rest of the story. The author can write se romance, as we've seen with Sharon and Steve, though not a lot of time seems invested by the author to do the same for Tom and Kelly.
Yes, 100% agree! I think the whole romantic aspect of the story detracted from the actual plot. All romantic endeavors felt pretty forced, even between Kelly and Tom.
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Post by Nzube Chizoba Okeke »

It is definitely a cold relationship and they begun on a low. I find it weird that they spent time apart on their honeymoon.
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Being independent is good but when you're in a relationship, you are dependent on the other person for some things and you cannot just roam around having fun "independently". Independence in a relationship doesn't mean to detach oneself from one's partner, and Tom and Kelly are really lacking on many things in their relationship.
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faint9 wrote: 05 Dec 2019, 13:43 We find Tom and Kelly being newlyweds. They are in their honeymoon whereby they are supposed to be together having fun. Instead Tom goes out exploring the place with a dive boat while Kelly is out in a tour bus. Everyone minding his/ her business.

Do you think that their marriage is a bit cold, has started on a low note or it just one way of having fun independently?
This is not unusual, I have seen a lot of couples who love to do things independently, some even live separately and it doesn't mean their love or marriage is cold.
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It is ok to do your thing once in a while. But isn't a "honeymoon" meant to be having fun and experiencing things together, to get to know each other better. I get that some people are loners but loners also need someone to be alone with.
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It is our preconceived notion that newlywed couples should behave in a certain way. Let's allow the books to break this prejudice. I welcome such changes.
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I think honeymoon should be a time to bond and enjoy each other's company, for them to do different things separately, it's a red flag.
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Tom and Kelly definitely not the typical newlyweds. One would expect them to ride a roller coaster of emotions. And some ahhh-mazing sex.
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