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It might look as if Hillary was obsessed with her parenting role, but she need not to be blamed because most times our past experiences mould our perspective to life, and honestly, she was a great mother.
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The author passed a salient but imortsnt message here. Just because you where abandoned or maltreated by your parents doesntt mean you will also turn out bad. Its a choice. And Hillary closed to be the opposite of her mum. She is a fantantic mum to Clair
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The character of Hillary as a mother is commendable. I loved her growth throughout the story. Hillary came from a difficult childhood but she made sure she was always there for her daughter. She did not let her past over shadow her future. Even though she sometimes second guesses herself and has her insecurities but she is ready to change for her daughter. She is tenacious woman who knows how to handle her problems on her own. The way Hillary has dealt with her abandonment issues is beautifully portrayed. Sometimes she is too tough n herself and has problems getting through her dark childhood. The way Hillary is portrayed in a strong manner also serves as an inspiration for her daughter.
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Hilary was definitely influenced by the way her mother treated her. Our mothers are a great influence on us while growing up and even as adults. A mother who is not supportive and loving can influence a child to doubt herself and to always look at herself as a little less than she actually is. Her self-confidence is drained because of negative remarks in her childhood.
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Generational trauma is a very real thing and like most trauma we all react differently. Some of us grow to cautious that we might as well have never lived while other dive head first into painful patterns.
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I think the fact that she was left alone as a child made her strive to be a better mother that her mum. Although she had her shortcomings too.
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In my opinion, Hillary is a good mother even though her own mother abandoned and she could not learn the basics of raising kids. She raised Clare in good and a commendable way.
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I think it's impossible for a parental relationship to not effect your relationship with your own kids, both bad experiences and good ones
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Our childhood experiences mold us into the person we are today. Hillary's character is a good example.
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Twylla wrote: 01 Mar 2020, 09:14 Hillary's ability to deal with her abandonment by her mother, made her a better mother in my opinion. It was interesting that she was afraid of repeating her mother's behavior when she had not been influenced by her for most of her childhood. I admired the way she made up her mind not to repeat her own mothers mistakes.
I agree with you. She never allowed her past to determine her life.
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Bhuvana Subramanyam wrote: 31 May 2020, 09:12 Our childhood experiences mold us into the person we are today. Hillary's character is a good example.
I completely agree with this. It's so interesting to look into the ways that childhood affects adulthood, and how parenting style really does have a lasting impact on a person who has been grown up a long time.
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NetMassimo wrote: 01 Mar 2020, 06:07 Hillary's insecurities as a mother were often highlighted in the novel. Initially I wondered if I was missing something from the first books of the series, but then the various mentions of Hillary's mother offered a bigger picture that made her attitude easier to understand.
I feel the same.
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Hillary's fear of repeating her mother's action made her a better mother to her daughter Claire. In spite of her fears, insecurities, and mistakes, she succeeded in not repeating history.
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The dynamics involved in mother-daughter relationships are complex. Being abandoned by a mother is deeply scarring. I am placing this book in my shelf for reading in the near future.
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Families can be a big influence of course, but cycles of behavior passed down from parents can be life altering. Abandonment, abuse, what have you. But that doesnt mean those things will repeat per se. It could just be a change to the character of a person. It can certainly be a big part of what kind of parent you are later as well. Her overcoming of those problems is a great example for the readers
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