A socially anxious newbie puts exposure therapy to the test
-
- Posts: 286
- Joined: 11 May 2020, 15:50
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 59
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-drado-27.html
- Latest Review: Manasakd by Kelly May Andrews
Re: A socially anxious newbie puts exposure therapy to the test
- Sou Hi
- Book of the Month Participant
- Posts: 2364
- Joined: 07 Sep 2019, 09:06
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 154
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-sou-hi.html
- Latest Review: Project Tau by Jude Austin
Congrats on having a great husband, Drianie . I think the first step of getting rid of anxiety is to have someone there for you. The more you keep your issues to yourself, the more it tires you out and makes you feel depressed. You don't have to take long strides, just small paces will do. Step by step, one person at a time, slowly expanding your circle will work just fine. If you don't feel comfortable talking to real-life people, you may start with social networking sites.Drianie wrote: ↑03 Sep 2020, 03:47 I have always been a socially anxious person. My preferred method of dealing with anxiety has always been to avoid anything stressful as far as I possibly could. Since I married my extremely social husband 5 years ago, it has been an uphill battle to accommodate our different personalities and responses to social events. I love the way he challenges me to do things I never even would consider, and he gets me out of my exceedingly large comfort zone. Although I love this exposure, the anxiety never goes away and it has always bothered me that I rely on him too much to help me deal with my social anxiety. I struggled to get to the point where I loved myself and accepted myself for who I am, even though I am different and really difficult to communicate with. This book has helped me to learn more about myself. It has also reminded me that I am not alone and that others deal with the same stress and anxiety that I do. Not only do I have all this information, but actual practical methods that I can incorporate in my life. I look forward to experimenting and trying out the different methods to help me manage my stress and anxiety and even overcome it.
“Take responsibility for your own stress by admitting that your reactions are the problem and that these reactions can only be solved by you and no-one else.”
- JustineSophia2
- Posts: 83
- Joined: 20 Apr 2020, 18:48
- Currently Reading: Opaque
- Bookshelf Size: 50
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-justinesophia2.html
- Latest Review: The Hand Bringer by Christopher J. Penington
-
- Posts: 286
- Joined: 24 Dec 2019, 11:46
- Currently Reading: Zona: The Forbidden Land
- Bookshelf Size: 29
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-anngladys.html
- Latest Review: Christ Without a Bride by Michael J. Ray
cluthrie wrote: ↑01 Aug 2020, 19:59 Topic for forum:
A socially anxious newbie puts exposure therapy to the test
Sometimes I have trouble managing my social anxiety, which is even a problem for me on anonymous online forums such as this. I get so nervous! So.... let's be practical! I'm scared but I'm posting in any case!
As a new member, I am nervous of putting myself out there on this site. I am SO GLAD this book was chosen as the book of the month. Topical, helpful for us ALL during this stressful and unprecedented time on earth during this global pandemic. This post serves as exposure therapy to me!
I invite all of my fellows who are anxious to participate in the forums to give it a go and POST! As the book of the month suggests, confrontong our fears can be rather freeing, no?
What do you guys think of the methods in this book? Are there any ways you plan to implement the advice in your own life?
And, do you have any advice for me as an anxious newbie in the forums?
I hope to hear from some of you in the comments! I'll leave you with my favorite quote from the book:
"Yоu are rеѕроnѕiblе fоr уоur lifе аѕ it iѕ nоw аnd, whеn уоu саn ассерt thаt rеѕроnѕibilitу, уоu саn ассерt thе rеѕроnѕibilitу оf соrrесting соurѕе аnd dirесting your life along the path that you dеѕirе."
I absolutely love the quote that you have used!
Just be you, and you'll be alright. As long as you express yourself politely and kindly, there's nothing to be afraid of. Keep practising and the more you speak up, the more you'll learn, and the more answers you'll get to any questions that you might have.
The fact that you wrote already shows that you're handling anxiety in a great way. Keep at it!
-
- Posts: 57
- Joined: 01 Mar 2018, 08:04
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 17
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-claude-hang.html
- Latest Review: Serendipity Mystery: Diary of a Snoopy Cat by R.F. Kristi
Congratulations on this step you've taken, friend!cluthrie wrote: ↑01 Aug 2020, 19:59 Topic for forum:
A socially anxious newbie puts exposure therapy to the test
Sometimes I have trouble managing my social anxiety, which is even a problem for me on anonymous online forums such as this. I get so nervous! So.... let's be practical! I'm scared but I'm posting in any case!
As a new member, I am nervous of putting myself out there on this site. I am SO GLAD this book was chosen as the book of the month. Topical, helpful for us ALL during this stressful and unprecedented time on earth during this global pandemic. This post serves as exposure therapy to me!
I invite all of my fellows who are anxious to participate in the forums to give it a go and POST! As the book of the month suggests, confrontong our fears can be rather freeing, no?
What do you guys think of the methods in this book? Are there any ways you plan to implement the advice in your own life?
And, do you have any advice for me as an anxious newbie in the forums?
I hope to hear from some of you in the comments! I'll leave you with my favorite quote from the book:
"Yоu are rеѕроnѕiblе fоr уоur lifе аѕ it iѕ nоw аnd, whеn уоu саn ассерt thаt rеѕроnѕibilitу, уоu саn ассерt thе rеѕроnѕibilitу оf соrrесting соurѕе аnd dirесting your life along the path that you dеѕirе."
Try to find the root cause of your social anxiety. Be honest with yourself and try work on that.
Online book club is a place you can find like-minded friendly people. You can develop friendly relationships over time to help with the anxiety.
God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind.
God bless.
- Eareeves99
- Posts: 40
- Joined: 21 Jul 2020, 23:24
- Currently Reading: The Beautiful Ones
- Bookshelf Size: 326
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-eareeves99.html
- Latest Review: Gringo by Dan "Tito" Davis
-
- Posts: 29
- Joined: 28 Aug 2020, 08:09
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 11
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-shatakshi-gauriar.html
- Latest Review: The Mindset by Ace Bowers
Anyone suffering from any kind of fear out there, I hope this can give you the perfect push you need.
-
- Posts: 53
- Joined: 27 Sep 2020, 11:05
- Favorite Book: Picasso At The Lapin Agile
- Currently Reading: Hollywood
- Bookshelf Size: 11
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-dominikas.html
- Latest Review: How To Be Successful by M. Curtis McCoy
-
- Posts: 471
- Joined: 11 Aug 2020, 07:35
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 97
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-eriny-youssef.html
- Latest Review: Yesterday by Samyann
As a socially anxious person myself, I've started doing things I'm not quite sure about just for the sake of it. I would tell myself to hell with it, what's the worst thing that can happen. And I did find it freeing.
I think it's awesome you took the first steps.
I'm trying to take them too on this platform. Cheers
- Spani
- Posts: 40
- Joined: 23 Sep 2020, 21:02
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 20
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-spani.html
- Latest Review: The Unbound Soul by Richard L. Haight
- CharlieMax1516
- Posts: 80
- Joined: 12 Sep 2020, 08:15
- Currently Reading: Put Comfortable Shoes in my Coffin
- Bookshelf Size: 32
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-charliemax1516.html
- Latest Review: Strong Heart by Charlie Sheldon
- Ogbara
- Posts: 108
- Joined: 12 Oct 2020, 13:02
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 86
-
- Posts: 302
- Joined: 05 Apr 2020, 17:42
- Currently Reading: Into the Hand of a Woman
- Bookshelf Size: 107
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-nedbrian.html
- Latest Review: Different Family Structures by Mildred Stallworth
-
- Posts: 36
- Joined: 29 Aug 2020, 13:35
- Currently Reading:
- Bookshelf Size: 15
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-segelolo.html
- Latest Review: The King of May by Matthew Tysz
The most difficult part of facing it is taking the first bold step. I know that your ability to tackle your fear head on would have increased since you read this book. I am also tackling mime and improving on it by the day. I hope we will both lead an anxiety free life.
- leiabutler
- Posts: 176
- Joined: 08 Apr 2019, 16:51
- Currently Reading: I Will Make of Thee a Great Nation
- Bookshelf Size: 36
- Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-leiabutler.html
- Latest Review: Britain Loves Baking - The Bakers Annual 2020 by Greg Wixted
The Great Gatsby