A socially anxious newbie puts exposure therapy to the test
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Re: A socially anxious newbie puts exposure therapy to the test
> I totally get your feeling about the book and I really appreciate your move
> to fight your fear. Ive been trying to read self help books recently. And
> Natural relief from Anxiety and stress did help me. Being an introvert, I
> fear being exposed to public and get anxious. This book helped me realise a
> lot of stuffs and got me thinking. I really believe the suggestion it
> conveys, that confronting our fear can be freeing. And I'm hopefully trying
> to apply it in my life situations.
If this book has helped you, then you should share it with others. I have to agree that Gustavo did a commendable job.
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> Dominik_G wrote:
> > In my opinion, the book does offer lots of methods and techniques which are
> > at least worth a try. I generally find meditation and exercising to be the
> > most useful tools when fighting anxiety but I have to admit, I don't
> > practice either of them as often as I feel like I should. Reading this book
> > gave me a push in this regard.
> >
> I totally agree with you. Exercise has always been something that makes me forget
> about certain topics that stress me and also helps me to stay healthy bot physically
> and mentally. However I must admit that with the entire pandemic I feel so
> unmotivated to workout even something as simple as cycling or doing yoga.
I agree with Dominik_G that meditation and exercise are a big help. Meditation is the only way I know of to actually train ourselves to stay out of the future-tripping that is always there with anxiety. And AnaVictoria2020, I'm right there with you on the pandemic-related motivation problem. It's challenging to continue self-care when there is so much chaos around us.
I applaud the original poster for taking a risk, following the advice in the book, and pushing through the exercise of posting on the forums. "Feel the fear and do it anyway," is a good prescription for certain levels of anxiety. I am wondering how cluthrie is feeling now, having made the post and generated some discussion on this topic. Hopefully, it helped move that anxiety meter a little bit. Great thread. Thank you.
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It's so nice of you posting this and welcoming others with similar concerns to join!
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Yes, gradual steps can lead to major changes in life. Exposing yourself to fear is certainly daring and a difficult thing to put into practice. But the benefits you gain through this therapy are enormous.Joseph_ngaruiya wrote: ↑16 Aug 2020, 15:28 Thea Frederick wrote:
> Yeah, I think a great way to free yourself of your stress is to face it and
> expose yourself to it.
> A psychologist I know says the most effective form of therapy is exposure
> therapy, and it is certainly not the most fun!
> Facing your fears and actually diving into them to make yourself anxious
> (and thereby overcoming your anxiety by repeatedly exposing yourself to the
> things which cause you anxiety) it terrifying! And it makes you incredibly
> anxious, of course.
> But it works, if you are consistent and committed.
Wow, I also had a positive experience with exposure therapy. Gradual daily steps to making a lasting change are also required.
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Exposure therapy is a proven way that improves self-esteem. It is also important to focus on what is good about yourself and use it to move you forward. Focusing on the flaws you have can be detrimental.jaimemiller wrote: ↑17 Aug 2020, 03:11 I'm really glad that you are choosing to help yourself by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone! I found myself two years ago in a similar position as you are in right now. Similar to what you are doing, exposure therapy is what worked for me.
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Facing your fears eliminates them, running from them keeps the problem recurring. By knowing your weaknesses and strengths, you're in a better position to assess your life.EvaDar wrote: ↑17 Aug 2020, 11:48 Ana Victoria2002 wrote:
> Dominik_G wrote:
> > In my opinion, the book does offer lots of methods and techniques which are
> > at least worth a try. I generally find meditation and exercising to be the
> > most useful tools when fighting anxiety but I have to admit, I don't
> > practice either of them as often as I feel like I should. Reading this book
> > gave me a push in this regard.
> >
> I totally agree with you. Exercise has always been something that makes me forget
> about certain topics that stress me and also helps me to stay healthy bot physically
> and mentally. However I must admit that with the entire pandemic I feel so
> unmotivated to workout even something as simple as cycling or doing yoga.
I agree with Dominik_G that meditation and exercise are a big help. Meditation is the only way I know of to actually train ourselves to stay out of the future-tripping that is always there with anxiety. And AnaVictoria2020, I'm right there with you on the pandemic-related motivation problem. It's challenging to continue self-care when there is so much chaos around us.
I applaud the original poster for taking a risk, following the advice in the book, and pushing through the exercise of posting on the forums. "Feel the fear and do it anyway," is a good prescription for certain levels of anxiety. I am wondering how cluthrie is feeling now, having made the post and generated some discussion on this topic. Hopefully, it helped move that anxiety meter a little bit. Great thread. Thank you.
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Connecting with others also helps to eliminate our fears, stress, and anxiety. A problem shared is half solved.Eva Stoyanova wrote: ↑18 Aug 2020, 11:19 I was anxious to start posting in the beginning too! I'm normally shy and don't talk much in real-life situations. However, after a few posts here and there around this forum, I forgot about my lack of confidence.
It's so nice of you posting this and welcoming others with similar concerns to join!
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It's appalling how anxiety can be a barrier to reaching our full potential. It kills ambition, responsibility, and goals. Reading books such as this one is helpful.CarlytheReader wrote: ↑18 Aug 2020, 14:12 I appreciate you making this post! I have this book on my bookshelves ready to read. Your post inspired me to check it out ASAP! Anxiety is something that is so prevalent in our society. And as you mentioned, it is especially exacerbated in these unprecedented times. Reading through the comments, I like that exercise is mentioned as a way to help manage anxiety. This is such an underutilized action we can all take!
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