Do you think free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations??

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

Sometimes the experiences we share with people who are not our blood relatives forge stronger bonds. I have plenty of older people in my life who I am much closer to and love more than my own grandparents because, like Kalayla, I had asshold grandparents.

Kalayla had her portion of problems with family ties. That, however, doesn't mean that she had a weak relationship with all of them. Her mum might be unavailable when she needs her, but both are strongly connected. Parent/child relationships should be cultivated at an early age to ensure that the child doesn't grow up lacking the needed connection. Maybe Jamal and Maureen got lost as they tried to fit into society.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

I think man-made relations can be stronger than blood ties because there are people who are closer upon association than they ever were with any real family.

A perfect example is Lena and Lotta. The two are closely related, yet they aren't biologically related. The trust and connection had grown for many years. Trust is the core factor that keeps them together. After Joey died and the twins came home in body bags, Carlotta found Lena passed out in a bar for the second time. And being empathetic, Carlotta confiscated her car keys o ensure Lena didn't kill herself on the road. This scenario reveals that non-blood ties can also be relatively stronger.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

I think blood relations are stronger than free will man-made relations because blood relations often do not need us to know much about people for us to love them. I believe we love then get to know the people, whereas free will relationships need us to know and understand the people we meet before we form a strong bond.

On the contrary, a lot of family relationships nowadays have been weakened by untrustworthiness, betrayal, hatred, and racial discrimination. It is then left to the members of that family to find help from friends and strangers, who eventually become more connected to them. Kalayla has no family to turn to with her inadequacies, her struggle to find a purpose sends her to the streets. Fortunately, Lena is concerned and willing to help her. She goes to all extents to ensure Kalayla is making the right decisions.

[Zubayydah]

Agreed. The strength of a relationship is not dependent on blood ties or a lack thereof. I believe that mental, emotional and spiritual connections are what determine the strength of our bonds. That's why a person can be very close to one family member, yet be on virtually non speaking terms with another in the same family.

[enockmwelwa]

when blood relationship done something wrong we get hurt but when free will man made relationship done something we encourage ourselves that after low we are not related by blood . this means that blood relation is so stronger bond than free will man made relationship

[Pearl Hijabi]

I believe every relationship is unique in its own way. And man made or blood related it's the way u connect with the person that makes the relationship stronger. Like the relationships in KALAYLA.

[KRFulton]

My opinion is that “man-made relations” are stronger due to the fact that we choose to forge them, rather than they be forced upon us. However, with that being said, if we choose later to walk away from either type of relationship, it is often the “blood relations” that often make us feel guilty. So, I suppose it depends upon what your personal guidelines are for what makes up a “strong” relationship.

[Huini Hellen]

I think modern times saw it fit that water gets thicker than blood. Personally, I would call my friends to bail me out from a bad situation before thinking of calling any relative.

[Aishwarya Chhabra]

There is actually no meter scale developed to define what we call stronger or weaker. Relations are a matter of hearts. Our hearts are so fluttering and manipulative that we cannot fix these to particular relations. People come and go all time, even our strong relations may not be stationary. But that can't judge their strengths.

[Wy_Bertram]

This depends very greatly on the individual. Sometimes indisputable familial bonds come to be like burdens, and the chance to choose who to associate might seem like a better option. In the end, every relationship has its own place.

[Luluwa79]

Strength comes from within. That brings us to the talk on invincible ties that binds. In my opinion I feel like mostly people try to create a stronger bond with others outside blood relations, because they feel the need to create a huge impact in the person's life. Unlike with family, we tell ourselves that since it's natural, it's binding whether you try or not. So mostly, all the efforts are placed into making the outside bond, because that one is started from scratch, till the finished product. And, it doesn't even end there. However, I believe familiar bonds are the strongest, for family will always be family. No matter the separation, or bad blood between members. There will still be a connection no matter how small.

I agree with you because relations built in love with efforts cannot be cut-off easily. But about blood relations, we see fathers disowning their children in our community today.

[Lucille27]

I think this is a very good oportunity to discuss the topic. Sometimes it is very dangerous to think that blood relationships are unbreakable and that leads to a lot of abuse and power disadvantages. We should explore this. Literature is a good place to talk about it. Even if the people related to us are there, sometimes they can hurt us, and cutting a bond is not a bad thing. Man-made bonds are not bad. I think a good resolution that can come from this is not a question of which are stronger or better, but a creation of community and an opportunity to heal and work on our links towards other people. Leena and Kayala are an example of this, caring is a way of building and creating healthier ways of relating to each other.

[glubglub200]

In a way I do because sometimes the family you're born into isn't the best for you. But when you choose, your most likely to choose people that are good for you and make you happier. You could even choose to make one of your blood relatives your free will relation but choose other people other than your family too.

[Vine Michael]

I think relationships borne out of free will can be the strongest type of relationship because you had a choice here unlike with your blood relationships. It was your choice to form that bond. People tend to go for what they can control than what they can't. But one must also take into account the saying "blood is thicker than water". This may be true in some areas but not all.

[Laurina Michael Olowoniran]

Well, personally I don't think whatever we concluded is universal. I say that because, there are some man-made relationship that hurts you as well. And I have also had blood relationship hurt me as well. So I think the story of these women is one of those man-made relationship that worked out well.