Do you think free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations??

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I definitely think that, while familial relations can be very close bonds, relationships that stem from a choice are more significant as it comes from a choice that someone makes to have someone become a part of their life. These relationships can even provide more support than familial.
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Relationships by mind could flourish well. Better than one by blood even. But there are sentiments around blood relationships that make the bonding more real than anything else.
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It's an assumption that blood relations form a stronger bond than those created by time, circumstances, and choice. Sometimes, relationships are built; they don't just happen.
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I think anything that we do by choice tends to last longer. Blood relations are not a choice. However, they can be very strong depending on the will of the individuals involved. Man-made relations last because the individuals choose who to associate and love.
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Arite Seki wrote: 15 Sep 2020, 15:57 I definitely think that, while familial relations can be very close bonds, relationships that stem from a choice are more significant as it comes from a choice that someone makes to have someone become a part of their life. These relationships can even provide more support than familial.
Non-blood bonds become mature, especially in marriage. Such bonds are more intertwined compared to those that are limited to friendship. If we take the example of Maureen, her blood bond got broken, but their non-blood bond with Jamal got tighter. Jamal's strength and courage surrounded and protected Maureen every single minute of every day.
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Lilyflower-x2 wrote: 15 Sep 2020, 23:49 I think anything that we do by choice tends to last longer. Blood relations are not a choice. However, they can be very strong depending on the will of the individuals involved. Man-made relations last because the individuals choose who to associate and love.
If you look at it from another angle, I believe it's also possible that non-blood bonds become relevant since there's always an expectation in the end. Friendship comes with, satisfaction, comfort, joy, and assistance. If those aspects are not present in a blood-bond, then you'd expect the former to be stronger. This is the case with Lena who is always seeking assistance from her friend Lotta.
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Certainly, sometimes it happens that man-made relationships are stronger than blood ones, but generally, this is not the case, relationships such as mother-child, father-child, siblings are often very solid and for life.
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I 100% believe that experience-based relationships are, generally, stronger than those of blood relationships alone. That is the basis behind military comraderie, lifetime friendships, and much more. Those that go through tough, harrowing, and overly difficult situations together have more points in common than those who don't. You can relate to that person. That being said, I would be interested to know if you combine the two, if you get an EVEN STRONGER relationship. For example, two brothers that go to war together.
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It depends. Sometimes, the people we grow up with, are caught up with their own problems to care about our needs and wants. So, even though we live under the same roof, we never bond with them. Chances are, we might end up finding somebody who shares similar life experiences or who cares about us. In such cases, man-made bonds tend to be stronger than blood bonds. I guess, it really depends on a lot of factors tbh
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I think that free will man-made relations are stronger. Though you will always have an obligation to your family and might never truly be able to cut ties with them, you still have a choice as to how often you actually see them and different things like that. Free will relationships are just that, they are your choice. You have no choice when it comes to family. When you enter your "chosen" family these are people you have chose to surround yourself with, hence the chosen. You will ultimately have stronger bonds with them as you get closer.
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I'm aware that there are friends that stick more than blood relatives. Those friends are truly friends indeed.Blood is very strong and bonding when it comes to disputes, one can hardly make away with friends but, not with Blood.
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I believe the strongest type of relationship is the one were there is a mutual feeling of love, and you always get the support and help anytime you are in need, It is not necessarily a relationship eelated by blood.
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Aishwarya Chhabra wrote: 03 Sep 2020, 05:30 Relations formed as a result of circumstances, attractions, similarities out of free will sometimes travel long periods of our lifetimes than our sometimes imposed closest blood relations. This is something that happened among the three- Kalayla , Maureen and Lena in KALAYLA .What are your opinions??
In my opinion, it's another type of nature vs nurture debate. We are close to our blood relatives because we grew up together. But as we grow older, we tend to gravitate towards people who share same interests, needs, and wants as us.
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In my opinion, blood relationships tend to have a deeper unseen bond that is harder to break. However, there are unique relationships that transcend this general rule.
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Oh yes. For the most part they're stronger & better because they're made by choice and you'll definitely get close to someone you can stand although there will always be something special about blood relatives
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