Do you think free will man-made relations are stronger than blood relations??

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I think it depends on the person's will to make things work. There are times when people would turn their backs to their family for the life for their partners. Also, blood relations isn't the default choice in every situation. There are instances where a family member makes a mistake that can't be forgiven so easily. Culture also plays a role. Here, I'd differentiate the western and eastern culture using filial piety. Filial piety is drilled into every Asian culture. This is why in any situation, Asians would choose blood relations as a more important relation. The tribal thinking, which means to prioritize your own clan, is also an important factor.
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They can be. Friendships or romantic relationships can be stronger than familial relationships especially if someone doesn’t have a good relationship with their family. To some people, blood is thicker than water. To others, choosing your people is more important than who they share DNA with.
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I think that man-made relations are far better than the blood relations. I can say this because I have some of the friends that are bonded very closely to me. They are closer to me more than my parents are.
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I believe family is whoever is got your back. And such bonds is sometimes stronger than blood relations. It all depends on both sides, one may be all in but the other may be just hanging around due to what they gain from the affiliation,blood related or not. Its complicated. But I can confirm that, does not apply to all, man-made bonds are stronger than family.
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Not always blood relations are stronger than man made.There are times and incidents throughout the globe which contradicts this statement.
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It really depends on many factors such as whether one is family oriented or fluid. Sometimes man-made relations are far more beneficial and peaceful than blood relations.
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There’s a saying that goes as follows; “blood is thicker than water.” However, we do not get to choose our blood relations but we get to choose those friends who turn family. I believe in the long run, your relation by blood would flourish better.
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I think it depends on the circumstance and the people. If you have a home life and family bonds that are lacking in some way (neglect, abuse, etc.), man-made relations (as you call them) are likely to be better. On the other hand, that can be flipped. There's always the potential that a connection with an individual may be stronger than blood relations (i.e. marriage, etc.).
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Viczboy16 wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 05:32 There’s a saying that goes as follows; “blood is thicker than water.” However, we do not get to choose our blood relations but we get to choose those friends who turn family. I believe in the long run, your relation by blood would flourish better.
I'm not entirely sure I agree with "blood is thicker than water." Just because we do not choose our blood relations does not mean that that bond is stronger than others. For instance, adopted children may not actually know their blood family and, in such case, be unable to form any relations. They may also know their blood relations but have stronger relationships with the adopted family as those have been the people to support them. Simply being a blood relative does not mean that there is a firm relationship, in my opinion.
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It's a tough questions, and it's interesting to see all your opinions. But I agree with most of you that it depends. We don't choose our family, so it's not a given that the ties you have with your family are strong, or that you feel very connected to them. Man-made relationships are the ones you do choose, often based on things you have in common with each other, and they can be stronger than family relations. Still, I do think it's easier to break a friendship than break ties with your family.
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I think it really depends on a persons circumstances. If any human has an abusive family, broken family and perhaps uncaring relatives it is more likely that they will make strong bonds with people who are not related to them. These people have man-made bonds that are thicker than blood. There are some lucky few who have an amazing family but we are all not so lucky.
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Iris Marsh wrote: 17 Sep 2020, 10:15 It's a tough questions, and it's interesting to see all your opinions. But I agree with most of you that it depends. We don't choose our family, so it's not a given that the ties you have with your family are strong, or that you feel very connected to them. Man-made relationships are the ones you do choose, often based on things you have in common with each other, and they can be stronger than family relations. Still, I do think it's easier to break a friendship than break ties with your family.
Yeah it is easier to break friendships rather than familial ties but it ain't easy to break bonds with stand in parents who rescued you from your own parents growing up. The same goes for breaking up with a beloved spouse. It is heartbreaking.
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SarahJean7 wrote: 16 Sep 2020, 20:06 They can be. Friendships or romantic relationships can be stronger than familial relationships especially if someone doesn’t have a good relationship with their family. To some people, blood is thicker than water. To others, choosing your people is more important than who they share DNA with.
Just give a think, according to BIBLE God sent Adam and Eve to spread humankind who were not blood bonded. Didn't they not have strong bond? When we love and marry, we prefer non blood over blood bonds, and we are producing blood bonds. So what the point is ,actually we can't say a DNA linked bond is stronger. The factor involved is actually our WILLINGNESS for the person we are related or want to relate.
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It truly depends on the person and their life circumstances. Many people often feel abandoned by their blood family not just from characters from this book. For example, many people are not accepted because of their sexuality and are cut from their blood family, so they rely on the family that they create. I think there is power and love when you purposefully choose your family relations. There is a sense of care and passion when you have relationships that you cultivate, but they can be hard to find at first.
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I strongly believe that the relationship between one another depends on individuals, loyalty, what people tend to gain from individuals. Personally, most people tend to gain the most loyalty from strangers and sometimes family too. This relationship depends on individuals though.
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