Are The Parent To Blame?

[Vine Michael]

While everyone is responsible for their own decisions in life I think the life choices of the parents have a direct effect on their children. Parents are role models to their children and thus what they do, their lifestyle, extremely matters. On the other hand a child could be raised by bad parents and still turn out well. Why? This happens when a better person than their parents become their role models. If they don't have that I do think they would unknowingly end up like their parents even when they don't want to.

[Higher25]

Like a friend said, two kids raised in the same circumstances would turn out different, one just fine and the other a stubborn ruffian. Beyond parents is friends who count to a point in the making up of ones behavior, here as well, two kids would turn out different, one just fine despite bad influence and the other a ruffian even with good influence. Its a complicated issue. Depends on the individual how to turn out I'll say.

[Laurina Michael Olowoniran]

To a very large extent, everyone has got some pieces from thier parenting. There's always a little make up left in you by your parents. So I think we cannot entirely blame the parents because everyone, finally, will make their own decisions and choices.

[Primetjay]

Children in the end decide how they turn out in the end, but this decision largely hinges on the kind of influence their parents had on them, so parents play a very huge role in who their children end up becoming

I can't agree with you less! The parents lay the foundation on which the children are developed upon... Remember "train up a could the way s/he should grow......

[Eutoc]

Parenting goes a long way in the morals of a child. That's the first point of education we received. Being a parent doesn't just stop at providing fiscal means for a child, it extends to teaching right morals that'd be beneficial to the society.

[Faithy_Goody_Star]

Of course, parenting plays a reasonable role in how a child turns out but this isn't absolute because children may have certain experiences outside their homes which may form their behaviors.

[Eareeves99]

Parents can only be blamed for so much. While they have a huge influence on the way their children interact with the world around them, I think children eventually have to mature and take responsibility for their own emotions, mental health, and actions. One can be raised in the most desperate of circumstances but perseverance, hard work, and a bit of therapy will go a long way towards living a successful life.

[Barbie_sidhu]

Parenting has a direct effect on a child's upbringing. The first lesson always starts at home. So it won't be wrong to say that parenting often affects the future of a child. On the other hand,parenting is often defeated by the effect one's company has.

[Pamela Bianca Mas]

Children grow up not soley depending on the teachings of their parents. Many factors play roles in molding a child, like environment and their peers. Therefore, if you are looking for someone to blame for how child turns out, I think it’s the child’s decisions, not so much as the parent’s.

[Essywa]

Parental upbringing can influence the future of a child in one way or another.mostly the environment a person grows up in will determine how their future will turn out to be especially the company one keeps really matter.

[Ivana Tomaš]

Parenting is difficult. A parent could do everything within their power for their child, but something unexpected could always happen. As a parent though, you love your child regardless. This, I think, can also be applied all the relationships explored in the book. Lena loved her boys, but her love was not enough. Unexpected things can always happen.

I agree with you that parental love is immeasurable. The parent will always do what is best for the child and thus raise him. However, the child is again a person for himself and has his own decisions that are not always related to the parents.

[Ivana Tomaš]

Children in the end decide how they turn out in the end, but this decision largely hinges on the kind of influence their parents had on them, so parents play a very huge role in who their children end up becoming

I agree that parents have a big role because they are the main factor in the child's growth, but in the end, but also through life, children gain other experiences and meet other people, so they can change opinions and form new ones.

[Ivana Tomaš]

Joey is always saying that the boys should be left alone to toughen up. Maureen is too busy working to take care of Kalayla, and Lena has had it with the boys. From their stories, what is your view on parenting? Is it the reason Kalayla and Lena's children grow the way they are? Would you blame parenting to the moral uprightness or bad character of a child?
Did Joey, Jamal, Maureen, and Lena nurture their children properly?

I think parenting is hard and that there is no right or wrong way to do it. But I do believe parents have a huge impact on their children's lives and can influence whether a child would grow up good or bad. I think the characters in the book did what they did in the ways they know how.

I agree. Often times and in life parents have to endure “ugly looks” and the like because they have allegedly raised a child poorly, however the observer can never know the whole story. I believe most parents give to a child and raise him the best they know how.

[Shatakshi Gauriar]

A child is a mirror of their family. Parents mold their children in certain ways, to be accepted in this blood-sucking society. We see people making bad choices because one way or another, they had to deal with a troubled childhood, although this doesn't justify anyone's actions but help us to understand them in a better way. There are exceptions, sometimes even with a troubled childhood some people fly high maybe because they learn from their parent's mistake or they have someone to love and show them the right path. Whatever it is, parents shape their child's future knowingly and sometimes unknowingly.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

Like a friend said, two kids raised in the same circumstances would turn out different, one just fine and the other a stubborn ruffian. Beyond parents is friends who count to a point in the making up of ones behavior, here as well, two kids would turn out different, one just fine despite bad influence and the other a ruffian even with good influence. Its a complicated issue. Depends on the individual how to turn out I'll say.

That is well said. However, I believe parents play a crucial role in how the kids end up. If a child grows up with self-esteem and self-awareness, they are bound to fall less into peer influence. Kalayla doesn't get much time as required with her mum. It must have been the reason she was always yearning for attention whenever she could get it, be it from Lena, uncle Clarence or Rico.