"Motherhood"
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Re: "Motherhood"
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Beautifully put! I love how you mention the added strain on Maureen of being a single mother. Parenting is hard. Doing it on your own is way harder. Luckily, there are people you can often find and rely on for backup. But most importantly, it is crucial for mothers to communicate well with their children. Children are their own people, and while they may need adult supervision to aid them on the right path, they will usually be more willing to seek your advice if you treat them with dignity rather than distance.Adu Boahene wrote: ↑11 Sep 2020, 01:26 Motherhood is a blessing and a curse at the same time. It brings about pride and comes with a different form of maturation. Not all children are the same. Some are very easy to deal with, others, it will only take a miracle for them to be tamed. Most often, it's not about what the mother is doing wrong, but rather the environment in which they find themselves. For example, there was no father figure in Kalayla's life. That can be a factor for her rebellion. Mostly it's single parents who suffer the most because the other partner is absent and not in the picture so it puts all the pressure on the existing one. At times the weight gets too heavy, unbearable and the frustration is released onto the kids. Or the child might be going through something personally, and with no one to share the problem with who can relate, it then manifests in their actions. The questions that arises after can only be answered after critical analysis of the situation. It might be it's too late there's no way to fix anything, or just give them time to come around, or try to be in their sight as much as possible even if they don't want to see you. Better yet, try to realize where you went wrong, maybe your speech might have been offensive or you had no time for them and try to spend as much time as you can making it up to them. Proper communication is important but if none is willing to open up. The relationship won't work. Mothers should be open minded no matter what, a child must be able to relate to their parents on a more personal level, share everything without fear. If these things are put in place, the child going wayward is less likely to occur.
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In my country, it saddens me to see some children who became troublemakers and blamed it on their parents (who worked hard outside the country to provide for the basic needs of these children).Laura Mich wrote: ↑16 Sep 2020, 06:38 Children cannot understand the sacrifices their parents make until they're parents themselves. Kalayla does not perceive the sacrifices that Maureen make in bid to secure her a better future, rather she sees her mother's absenteeism.
It's like they were intentionally making trouble just to get the attention of their providers, for the latter to care for them face-to-face.
I guess these kids prefer "physical touch" and "quality time" over "gift-giving" or "acts of service" as their love language.
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I couldn't agree more. Every parenting style is different and they modify their approach as per the personality of their kids. Most parents try to do the best for their kids, but there's no hard and fast rule as to what should be done. The most important thing is the love and care they provide, so that the kids know they're wanted.Mys_Trea wrote: ↑26 May 2021, 15:04 Although some mothers might disagree, I don't think there is any mom that is perfect. It's a trial and error type of thing, and although you often wish you could do better on certain areas, it's important for moms to be more patient and forgiving with themselves. Lena did great in that she identified a challenge and she did her best to help a fellow mom. She did so with tact and without judgement. Good on her. The world needs more people like her.
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I agree. I think there's no such thing as 'perfect mother'. Raising children is no easy feat. All along the process you wonder if you're doing it right and you think about the things you could have done better. Everyone makes mistakes. What's important is to recognise those mistakes and to make amends.Allen Cheque wrote: ↑11 Sep 2020, 13:25 In my opinion, motherhood is always challenging. Generally, parenting a child is not an easy task and comes with various hurdles and challenges. Almost all parents wish they could have done better in raising their kids and that's how Lena felt. She regretted how she raised her four and so wanted to help Maureen raise Kalayla the right way. That was commendable.
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I'm not a mother so I don't know how much of a qualification I have for answering this question, but I do have a mother, and she basically raised me up as a single mother. It definitely couldn't have been easy for my mom (and she raised 5 children to adulthood) so I truly was very impatient with Maureen overlooking her 11 year old daughter and being so much of a scatterbrain. If not for Lena's timely intervention with Kalayla, Lord knows what would have happened to an 11 year old girl with a smart mouth and always wandering the streets by herself.Aishwarya Chhabra wrote: ↑10 Sep 2020, 15:14 Motherhood plays a more prominent role in Kalayla. Maureen faces the daily challenge and complexity of raising Kalayla on her own. Their tempestuous mother-daughter relationship triggers uneasy memories and regrets in Lena about the way she raised her own four boys. At some point while raising their kids, many mothers like Lena and Maureen, ask themselves: What could I or what should I have done differently? And what do I do now?
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