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I think so we do have a meaning for others , but it changes or I can say it's not permanent always. For some people we are unreplaceable , they are the one , the one who we should really care and love. But some people just show off about that, like just we are important but in reality we were not. It may sound confusing but it is simple as that. Few days back someone told me “Some people are like rented home for us , we feel safe , we love them , care about them but they'll never completely belongs to us , they're just not for us” it was harsh statement but I felt it was true. What do you think about this ? Have you ever felt this above statement true ? What do you think , why most of the people changes ? Or do we all changes at some point to the other in our life ?
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Some people are a life long existence in our lives, while some just come and go. That's my experience. We all change, all the time. Some people change with us, others do not. And so we go our separate ways when the changes become too vast for us to continue to bridge. We may remember what was with fond memories, or we might not. That's life. It is ever changing.
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Black Jewel wrote: 13 Jun 2021, 11:14 Some people are a life long existence in our lives, while some just come and go. That's my experience. We all change, all the time. Some people change with us, others do not. And so we go our separate ways when the changes become too vast for us to continue to bridge. We may remember what was with fond memories, or we might not. That's life. It is ever changing.
I totally agree with you, we all change , all the time. Some just come and go while some stays beside us, no matter what happen. Time changes us , for our own good. And yes, many times memories stays with us. Life keeps on changing nothing is permanent here. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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There's only one thing that's constant in life and that is change. Everyone changes at some point, sometimes for the better and sometimes, for the worse. This is indeed the harsh reality of life and so, I can relate with how that statement you heard made you feel.
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Joy C wrote: 14 Jun 2021, 18:23 There's only one thing that's constant in life and that is change. Everyone changes at some point, sometimes for the better and sometimes, for the worse. This is indeed the harsh reality of life and so, I can relate with how that statement you heard made you feel.
I agree entirely with you , change is constant. Each change teaches us something, some are good for us and some are bad. Thanks for being so understanding. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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Change is the law of nature and we humans are no exception to that law. I can't say anything about others but I have changed myself a lot over the past years. My school friends are not that close anymore, I have new interests which they don't relate to and vice-versa. So, I find myself closer to some new friends who share my interests.

But at the same time, some friends have adjusted to the change and have stayed with me throughout. So, people will change, that's the reality. But if both the people wish to stay close, they can do so by adjusting to the changes in each other.
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I completely agree, I’d also like to add that sometimes we may be important to someone but it isn’t necessary that we will stay like that forever, we may be important at a certain time but after a while not anymore, but that’s life, nothing really stays the same.
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Kiran Kanwar wrote: 15 Jun 2021, 02:03 Change is the law of nature and we humans are no exception to that law. I can't say anything about others but I have changed myself a lot over the past years. My school friends are not that close anymore, I have new interests which they don't relate to and vice-versa. So, I find myself closer to some new friends who share my interests.

But at the same time, some friends have adjusted to the change and have stayed with me throughout. So, people will change, that's the reality. But if both the people wish to stay close, they can do so by adjusting to the changes in each other.
I totally agree with you, change is the law of nature. I can understanding your feelings as I'm gone through the same. It's hard, to not be in contact with school friends or childhood friend. I too lost my all school friends due to some reasons and I missed them everyday, but they all are changed.

But as you said, some adjust our changes and stay and the one who want to stay will stay with us anyhow. And I think so life is not cruel, we always gets a new chance to make new friends and build a new memories. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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Nouria el saftawy wrote: 15 Jun 2021, 10:02 I completely agree, I’d also like to add that sometimes we may be important to someone but it isn’t necessary that we will stay like that forever, we may be important at a certain time but after a while not anymore, but that’s life, nothing really stays the same.
Yes, I entirely agree with you. We can't be someone's forever as you said, nothing really stays the same. We can be with them for certain phase of our life. And at the same point it's beautiful too, at least both shared good memories together. At the end, life is nothing but a lots of memories, which we place in our hearts. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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Change is constant. The most a person can do about it is either accept it, or ignore it.

As you have stated from your friend's words, change can often be bitter, be nice or be bad. It comes in all forms. It really is up to us and how we look at it.
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Yes I believe that change is the necessity in life and we grow from our experiences . If we didn’t experience change, life would be boring and have no meaning people learn new things and unfortunately, reality is harsh at times.
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Yes I believe that change is the necessity in life and we grow from our experiences . If we didn’t experience change, life would be boring and have no meaning people learn new things and unfortunately, reality is harsh at times.
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I fully agree. I think the only thing we can rely on in this lifetime is the fact that nothing is reliable and everything is subject to change, including ourselves. It is important to embrace this fact of life, rather than resist it. This would make our painful encounters a little more bearable because we would understand that even that pain is subject to change and will recede in some time.
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Grace McHardy wrote: 15 Jun 2021, 11:32 In my experience, each individual person is different. Those differences often connect people in a way that brings joy or pain. It is true that people change all the time and it is not just due to growing up or one particular event. The lifestyle and personalities of individuals are constantly being adapted to fit their current situations. Because of this, an extrovert can easily become introverted due to a catastrophic event. Loss, pain, and life itself moves us in a way that we can never be comfortable with who we are in the present as it will never remain the same. If we're being honest nobody is the same as they were when they were children. Life gave us lemons and we had to adapt our mindset and thinking to make lemonade.
I completely agree with you, we all are different from each other. And as you said, differences between us brings joy or pain. And yes, many times our life conditions changes us. Loss and pain changes us a lot, and we know we will never be same.

In my childhood, I used to be quite but I never felt shy or introverted but now I'm introvert and way too much shy as a person. And that's right, we all are not at all same as we are in our childhood. I think so, if life gives us lemon we should try to make lemon soda out of it too. You had written everything beautifully. Thank you sharing your thoughts.
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Suzer6440 xyz wrote: 15 Jun 2021, 20:16 Yes I believe that change is the necessity in life and we grow from our experiences . If we didn’t experience change, life would be boring and have no meaning people learn new things and unfortunately, reality is harsh at times.
I entirely agree with you, change is necessity and we grow from our experiences. And we humans always wants something different, we ourself brings changes in our life styles because we all get bored easily. Yes, sometimes reality is harsh but we'll deal with it anyhow. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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