Review of Deceit

[Alissa Deann Devargas]

[Following is a volunteer review of "Deceit" by Vernon Baumrind.]

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5 out of 5 stars

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If I'm to say my thoughts on adultery, the first thing that comes to mind is the callousness of it all. Now, I'm not against situations whereby you lose feelings for your partner and find yourself attracted to another. However, is it not considerate on the person's part to disassociate with the current partner before engaging with another? Deceit by Vernon Baumrind tells the story of adultery that led to lengthened lawsuits and broken families.

Just as the book remarked, there's a measure of trust we place in doctors that should not be violated. But to think that Dr. Ewing in this book went against his professionalism to commit adultery with his client is quite disappointing. The quality of self-control has its importance sometimes undermined. Self-control helps you think far and wide about the very possible repercussions of whatever action you want to take to indulge yourself. If only Linda and Dr. Ewing had exercised self-control and weren't selfish about satisfying their sexual desires, then maybe things would have been different.

According to Vernon, he had matched his wife and Dr. Ewing's deceit with his own. I see this as smartness on his part. It was clear from this story that Linda and Dr. Ewing had no good thoughts for him, the innocent victim being cheated on. They also don't have any care for the children, given that they are willing to neglect them just to have sex or dirty talk with each other. All Mr. Vernon wanted was for him to gain custody of his children since he cared for them.

The only thing I disliked about this book was that sometimes the story sounded biased. However, this is unavoidable because the writer was writing from his point of view and hence had to make many assumptions concerning his wife's behavior with few facts to match them. This book was enlightening. A parent should always put their children first in whatever decision they want to make.

I rate this book 5 out of 5 stars. It was excellently well-edited. If there was something I learned from this story, it was that divorce is hard on the parties involved. It should also be considered the last option when all efforts fail. I recommend this book to lawyers interested in family cases, such as divorce.

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[Christian Jordan]

Adultery is deeply callous. While losing feelings for a partner and being attracted to another can happen, it's considerate to end the current relationship first. Vernon Baumrind's "Deceit" illustrates how adultery leads to prolonged lawsuits and broken families.

[Esther Unurhie]

Baumrind's storytelling serves as a poignant reminder of the far-reaching repercussions of personal actions, urging a deeper consideration of moral responsibilities and the impact of our choices on others.

[Badger Martin]

This is quite a book that deals alot with self control. I appreciate the writing of the author and I commend him for putting up this piece. Thanks for this review.

[Julius Peters]

"Deceit" by Vernon Baumrind is a gripping exploration of adultery and its devastating effects on families. The story of Dr. Ewing's betrayal and its consequences underscores the importance of self-control and the ethical obligations of professionals. While the narrative can feel biased, it reflects the author's personal perspective and highlights the complexities of trust and betrayal. This book is a must-read for anyone interested in the intricate dynamics of divorce and family law.

[Abel Timothy]

Your review of "Deceit" by Vernon Baumrind reflects a deep exploration of the themes of adultery, trust, self-control, and the impact on families. You highlight the moral complexities and emotional turmoil caused by infidelity, as portrayed in the book, and commend its editing and narrative clarity. Your emphasis on putting children first and viewing divorce as a last resort adds a thoughtful perspective to your review. Overall, your rating of 5 out of 5 stars and recommendation for legal professionals interested in family law underscores the book's relevance and insightful portrayal of complex human relationships.

[Obido Samuel Chiemerie]

The book highlights the critical role of self-control and ethical behavior, showing how Dr. Ewing’s betrayal and Linda’s actions had far-reaching impacts on everyone involved, particularly the innocent children. While the book provides valuable insights, it occasionally reflects bias due to the author’s personal experiences and assumptions, which might affect the objectivity of the narrative.

[obinna Sharon]

Both Linda and Dr. Ewing failed to prioritize their existing commitments and responsibilities, instead letting their desires lead them down a path of harm. This serves as a powerful reminder that self-indulgence, without regard for others, can have dire consequences.