Rion's problem in social mingling, was it because of him or his mother?

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First of all, the faulty communication between Rion and his mother, especially concerning the identity of his father and his special abilities adversely affected his self-identity, self-confidence and social security. As well, the fact that they were moving around a lot, discouraged socializing, as Rion knew the relationships could not be sustained. I blame Rion's social ineptitude on his mother.
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I believe the frequent change of location contributed to his loneliness. Nobody want to make attachments if you going to move anytime. But I would not blame his mother for this. She did what she thought was best for her son.
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I think moving, again and again, causes problems in social mingling. He wouldn't have bothered to socialize and make new friends because he knew he was going to move again.
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I think that not having friends was his coping mechanism for the constant moves. However, things might have been better if he had a great relationship with his mum.
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The cold relationship between Rion and his mother could have contributed to him being introverted.They were not open to each other,he did not open up to his mother neither did his mother do.She kept secrets from him.Rion could have resorted to not making friends due to their constant movement because he knew at the end, the friendship won't last.
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Diana is the main cause of Rion's social awkwardness. She failed to inform him about his father and discuss his special abilities with him. This made Rion experience a lot of emotional turmoil, and this made him insecure and socially inept. The constant moving from city to city, also discouraged Rion from making long term friends.
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Post by Shivansh_007 »

The changing of his school and neighbourhood every few months is the major factor of his loneliness and social awkwardness in my opinion. Although he could've atleast tried to make some new friends but he just didn't care cause he knew he won't be there for too long.
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I think they share the blame. I say this because, for a kid that moves around a lot, it'll be hard to make friends. Even if he did make friends, how long would that friendship last? Even in today's world of social media. If we're being honest, it's not the same as being physically present and being involved in activities in which you'll obviously see them posting about on their various social media channels. Also, intentionally or unintentionally, there is a high likelihood of being left out of certain discussions because you have to wait to be kept in the loop, unlike those who have a constant home and don't move around.

Being the new kid too often must have already had an impact on Rion's self-esteem, and his sheltering didn't help matters. Poor communication skills lead to awkwardness and low self-esteem and being perceived a certain way before you even open your mouth. On his part, he could've done more to put himself out there, but perhaps he felt it was simply not worth it.
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Post by Rizki Pradana »

I think it's because Rion moving too much to another place. So, she must adapt to the new environment again and again. Furthermore, his mother makes doesn't pay attention to him. So she doesn't know how to interact with others in his school.
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Rion was an extreme introvert, and this made him live in loneliness and denial, I believe this is how he grew up and for me this was a problem he developed from the environment he was brought up
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The frequently changing of school/environment will the actual factor responsible for Rion loneliness, but if his mother and teacher had assisted him. He would have gained more confidence.
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Moving as much as Rion has in his developmental years it really is no surprise that he would grow withdrawn and disinterested in trying to establish relationships. What is the point when it will all inevitably turn into memories? People have trouble keeping in touch when they don't spend time in the same environment, they have their own lives, they move on. It's understandable he avoided people.
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Rion's mother inability to teach Rion to socialise and the seemingly incessant relocation from one place to another contributed immensely to the introversion of Rion.
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The introvert or inability to make friends arises from the life situations, including both family and friends. When children don't get enough support and love from both, they grow distant. Here also, Rion grew distant from his plausible friends because he felt himself alone.
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I think this was an emotionally abusive situation, whether his mom was aware of it or not. Emotional abuse is real and it does affect how we can face the world. The fact that his mom wouldn't talk to him about anything was huge for his emotional development. He was longing for connection and emotion is connection. He had questions about his dad as any normal kid would have and he had no one else to ask. She tried to keep him safe from the enemy by moving every 9 months or so. This would be hard on adults to move so often to a new place. But a kid who's held at a distance from his mom, who's brain isn't fully developed and who has no friend, no outlets except for a power he hides because he thinks it's alien?! Really rough. It seems like he picked up his mom's energy in this case. She had built a huge wall around herself from the world (even her son) so he also felt he had to build a wall around himself. Not to say he couldn't have made different choices, but when you're a kid, you are told or energetically told what is ok and not ok and you just believe it. You think it's right because mom says it is. I put the responsibility on his mom. She is the adult in this situation. She could have even said, "I can't give you all the details, but I know you have special powers. I know it's confusing but I promise you are not an alien. I can't give you the name of your dad, but he died in a car crash just before you were born. It's still really painful for me to talk about." It seems like she had alot of trauma still trapped in her body, emotions and energy and he picked that up. After all, he is a kinetic!
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