Rion's problem in social mingling, was it because of him or his mother?

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Constant moving around must have affected Rion's social skills. It's difficult to settle into a new environment and make friends and it becomes more difficult when you constantly move around before having time to make friends. I do believe that Rion's relationship with his mother also contributed in a way.
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I feel that Rion was inherently, by nature, an introvert. Along with that his relationship with his mother and constant moving around, both the factors further affected his social skills.
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I think it’s all three reasons played a part. Making friends is hard when moving around, but it isn’t impossible. You learn to be very choosy so as to maximise the quality of any friendship you might have. Some of it is just down to personal chemistry, like with Dee in this case. I say that from experience. Children mimic their parents, so, if his mother is not an expressive person, this this may influence his interaction with other people. But I don’t think any of these things makes him lonely. You can see this by the way he despises the frivolity of what he feels is typical of other teenagers. He would just rather be alone than make friends like these
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I think all those factors, including him not knowing what he was but knowing he was different at the start, sum up to his introverted nature. His mother frequently changing locations played a huge role in him detaching himself from people as then he would have to leave them behind when his mother decides to move again.
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As a child I found it unnecessary making friends in a new environment if I would end up leaving that environment soon. I think this was Rions main problem. Why should he make friends when he would soon move and leave them behind, then start the process all again?
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I think it was because of Rion's mother's job and his lack of stability in one place that made having a friend very difficult, so Rion's personality was introverted and shy and did not like dealing with strangers and I think he was afraid of the feeling of losing friends .
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Post by Elon Gathungu »

I think Rion wanted to make friends. However, his introverted nature made creating long-lasting connections difficult. Additionally, the constant relocations may have contributed to his introverted nature because they make forming long-lasting friendships difficult. It's kind of difficult for a teenager to form solid friendships when he has to move before the friendships can solidify.
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greghefley wrote: 02 Sep 2021, 06:31 His mother would be a main reason for his introverted nature. There were many other kind of people like him, who seems not to be as closed up as Rion. It's mainly because of his mother trying to protect him.
I disagree with this statement, because I remember moving around a lot, so I understand wanting to close every one out. Saying goodbye went you move is one of the hardest things to do. I wouldn't blame his mom entirely and I understand trying to protect your son. I sympathize with Rion's mom in the sense that I wouldn't really know what to do in her situation.
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Sushan wrote: 01 Sep 2021, 00:32 Rion did not have any long-term friends. And it seems like he is not even trying to have any. Seemingly he is an introvert who is shy to talk with strangers, and also content with his loneliness. His unusual ability led him to think of him as an alien, and it too supported his nature to remain further.
I ignore them before heading to my favorite classroom position. Nothing says don’t talk to me like the back corner window seat.
(Location 91 - Kindle version)
I give an apathetic nod, coupled with my best faulty smile, before turning back toward the window. I avoid making eye contact with any other student. The chirping birds have my attention for the next few minutes,[/quote] (Location 113 - Kindle version)

But we see how he could not remain in one place (or one school) because of his mother's job. It is common for a student to feel awkward when going to a new school, and it is fair for a usual student to require some time to make new friends.
New schools. New surroundings. I’ve done them so many times they’ve become as much of a routine as tying my shoes.
(Location 66 - Kindle version)
This is my sixth school in four years
(Location 84 - Kindle version)

Ultimately these reasons made Rion a lonely fellow. Even the connection between him and his mother was not too strong. Which component contributed his loneliness the most? Was it his nature? Was it his mother's frequent change of locations? Or was it because his mother was never really open with him?
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I think him not being close to his mother says a lot about his raw personality, or his nature. As you said, i think it may be a mixture of the three factors. The constant moving around, his nature, and his mother's relationship with him. While I think having friends and communicating and sharing emotions and experiences is vital to live a healthy life, I also believe introversion can still be healthy (if not taken to extreme levels). What I mean is, if he's ever able to open up to even one person, and consciously decided to do it, then being an introvert is his choice and it's bad.
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Well, inasmuch as his mother's job played a huge role due to incessant relocations, Roin is not entirely exempted from blame. Yes, having to make new friends every few months could be a daunting task; he did not even so much effort to adapt to his lifestyle. He simply stayed on his own as a coping mechanism, which is not good enough.
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I believe Rion's mother has nothing to do with his introverted behavior since Rion withdraws from her as well. It seems like Rion has chosen a reclusive lifestyle that shuts everyone out and he's content with that.
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Post by Ivvie Ivanova »

I cannot fault Rion for not making any long-term friends. I used to be the same way in school, so I relate to the back seat next to the window trick. Moving as much as he has makes it seem pointless to start any kind of relationship. People will just fade away from his life, so he might as well save himself the heartache. I'd do the same thing if I were him.
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Yes,I would say his mother influenced that behavior,with her over protective attitude and Rion coming to the realization that he has super powers, could have had an effect on him too .
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I think it has to do with his nature. Yes, they moved around a lot, but ultimately it comes down to what you, as a person choose to do in such a situation.
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Post by Katherine Powell-Polkey »

This is an excellent question. Like most nature vs. nurture questions, I think the answer lies in the middle. Both his shyness and not being settled contributed to his being a loner.
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