Very well said! It can be awkward for a mother to discuss with her daughter, depending on the generation the mother grew up in. But, it is very difficult for most fathers to have to be the one to discuss it with their daughters! I, personally, am one of those parents who still believes in abstinence, but, is that even remotely logical in this day and age?!Aloe Crane wrote: ↑11 Jan 2023, 18:40I guess that's up to the parent, though it is a really difficult problem to discuss. The best thing you can do in that situation is educate them on how to be safe if they DO decide to have sex. Teach her how to have safe sex, avoid teenage pregnancies, and how to say no in many situations. This would probably make her feel like she can come to you as a parent and source of information and comfort. If you want to completely bar her from having sex without reasoning, it'll likely make her want to more, or just in secret. For this reason, for our children, we have to be honest in our reasoning. I've heard the saying that children are adults, just without the experience. Children are a lot smarter than we give them credit for! Again, the best thing a parent can do, is just to be there for your child and not judge them harshly.Alex Reeves wrote: ↑04 Jan 2023, 02:10 Parents should be indeed honest, but in no way be explicit in their explanations. A child may be curious as to how the human reproductive system works, and parents may give their children a summary of the function of the system. However, the major problem arrives when your teen daughter asks you if she's old enough to have sex. How can one, that is a father, have the courage to sit down his daughter and give her a lesson on the dangers of adolescent sex without saddening her?
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Yes, they definitely should! Thanks for commenting!Limitless_66 wrote: ↑12 Jan 2023, 04:55 I grew up in a household where nothing about sex was hidden from me and my siblings, and that, without a doubt, helped us make informed decisions about sex and our bodies in general. Peer pressure go nothing on us because our parents already taught us from home, so yeah, I agree that parents should answer their children's questions on sex honestly.
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That is true. However, we can't go strictly by the books because by the time a child asks they have probably been hearing their friends already talking about things that didn't come from a book! Thanks for commenting!Annas Felix wrote: ↑17 Jan 2023, 04:25 I think answering sexual questions from children requires wisdom. Books like these can help parents come up with smart strategies to talk about sex with their kids.
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I appreciate how everyone has responded to this question! I enjoy reading the ideas of others!
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I grew up in a generation that taught waiting until after you are married for physical intimacy. Therefore, it was difficult for me with my children because I wasn't prepared for the questions at the age they came! I tried to be honest in my explanation but there was a level of discomfort there for me that my children could sense, I'm sure! Thanks for commenting!Salah bourouba wrote: ↑10 Jan 2023, 02:23 For usas Muslims we. Don't have this problem because we are not allowed to perform physical intimacy until we get married. However I woulde definitely explain a general idea to my kids. It's better for them to hear from me in the correct way. Rathér then their friends or the internet who would have many outrageous ideas and temptation that i would be sorry for later. So I agree with the author very much.
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Thank you. We all try our best to raise our children right.Brenda Creech wrote: ↑03 Jan 2023, 10:58Agreed! Thanks for commenting! I love hearing other's opinions!Rocky Ellery James Tumbelaka wrote: ↑02 Jan 2023, 19:53 I agree that we ahould be honest in answering our children question. Even about sexual topics. Because everything the parents said became the truth for their children. But we also must give them an understanding that such topic isn't something to discuss lightly or publicly.
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Sex education is very necessary but should be taken stage by stage.
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I agree! I have never thought about it as being protective for the children, I'm glad you mentioned that. I don't have kids but I hope that when I do, they will be comfortable talking to me about anything.Nyam Bura wrote: ↑02 Jan 2023, 13:51 I grew up in a society where parents are never free to discuss the topic of sex with their children. It was difficult for me to ever discuss such issues with my parents. I agree with the author that parents should teach their children about sex at an early age. This also protects children from sexual abuse as they will feel free to discuss the issues with their parents.
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