Should Parents answer their children's question about sexual topics honestly?

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Should Parents answer their children's question about sexual topics honestly?

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I agree with the author that parents should always answer their children's questions about the body and sexual topics honestly. A funny story aside from this: When my son was around six years old, he asked me how babies got inside their mommy's stomach. Being a 'modern' mother, I explained to my son. Later that day, when we stopped by MY mom's house, he ran in and said, "Grandma, do you know where babies come from?" My mom was shy and would have never talked about such things to her grandchildren, so she was shocked that I had! Despite that, I believe we need to be as honest as possible based on their age and ability to understand. What do you think?
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I grew up in a society where parents are never free to discuss the topic of sex with their children. It was difficult for me to ever discuss such issues with my parents. I agree with the author that parents should teach their children about sex at an early age. This also protects children from sexual abuse as they will feel free to discuss the issues with their parents.
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I completely agree! It’s not wrong for kids to be curious about this, and if parents don’t provide the answers, they will find someone else who will.
Also, it’s not a one and done deal. All the experts on this topic suggest you sprinkle into a little at a time. Younger kids don’t need details. As they grow and mature, you can share more. I’d prefer my children learn from me and not the world.
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Nyam Bura wrote: 02 Jan 2023, 13:51 I grew up in a society where parents are never free to discuss the topic of sex with their children. It was difficult for me to ever discuss such issues with my parents. I agree with the author that parents should teach their children about sex at an early age. This also protects children from sexual abuse as they will feel free to discuss the issues with their parents.
Absolutely! Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
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Kayla Archer wrote: 02 Jan 2023, 14:14 I completely agree! It’s not wrong for kids to be curious about this, and if parents don’t provide the answers, they will find someone else who will.
Also, it’s not a one and done deal. All the experts on this topic suggest you sprinkle into a little at a time. Younger kids don’t need details. As they grow and mature, you can share more. I’d prefer my children learn from me and not the world.
I agree because the world certainly won't do it right! Thanks for commentin
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I absolutely believe that parents should speak with their children about sex proactively, and then they should answer questions as they arise. My mother tried to teach us, and ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I mean, we learned, but it was awkward. HAHA!
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I agree that we ahould be honest in answering our children question. Even about sexual topics. Because everything the parents said became the truth for their children. But we also must give them an understanding that such topic isn't something to discuss lightly or publicly.
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Emily Meadows wrote: 02 Jan 2023, 19:41 I absolutely believe that parents should speak with their children about sex proactively, and then they should answer questions as they arise. My mother tried to teach us, and ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I mean, we learned, but it was awkward. HAHA!
I know what you mean about awkward, my mom was shocked when I got pregnant and I had been married almost 2 years! Hahaha! Thanks for commenting!
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Rocky Ellery James Tumbelaka wrote: 02 Jan 2023, 19:53 I agree that we ahould be honest in answering our children question. Even about sexual topics. Because everything the parents said became the truth for their children. But we also must give them an understanding that such topic isn't something to discuss lightly or publicly.
Agreed! Thanks for commenting! I love hearing other's opinions!
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I believe parents should be honest when talk to their kids about sexual topic because sometimes that knowledge could be the best weapon you could give them against molesters.
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I agree that parents should be honest in answering their children's questions about anything, including sex. One of the things I like about this book is the first chapter which clearly describes the physiology of male and female reproduction and the process of creating a pregnancy. As adults and parents, we know how it goes, but how many of us can honestly say we have a sound knowledge of all these details? Understanding the technology of sex makes it much easier for us to be honest with our children and provide reasonable answers that won't confuse them.
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Parents should be indeed honest, but in no way be explicit in their explanations. A child may be curious as to how the human reproductive system works, and parents may give their children a summary of the function of the system. However, the major problem arrives when your teen daughter asks you if she's old enough to have sex. How can one, that is a father, have the courage to sit down his daughter and give her a lesson on the dangers of adolescent sex without saddening her?
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Yes parents should answer their children's question about sexual topics honestly. They don't have to give a lot of details in some answers. The level of details should be based on the child's age and development. But lying about the answers or ignoring the questions can fan the flame of curiosity and make the child seek those answers in places we don't approve.
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I would say it depends on the age of the kid. You don't want to talk about sex with your kids too early on since it might ruin their childhood. I would say be honest but not in an explicit way. There is no reason to ever lie to your kid.
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Post by PinkRose572 »

I think you did what you ought to do as a parent. Lying to them or refusing to engage them with such questions will lead to seeking the anders somewhere else, and what they learn outside may be destructively dangerous. Again, their confidence in discussing other issues will decrease.
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