Hi Rocky, I agree that when it comes to sex, parents should be honest with their children. However, they should also give them an understanding that such topics aren't something to discuss lightly or publicly; they shouldn't be too explicit. Children need to know that sexuality is a natural part of life, but they don't need to know every detail about it. As parents, we should explain the facts without being graphic or inappropriate. I agree that parents should not be afraid to talk about sex with their children. But there are some things that are better left for discussion when both parents and children are in a private setting.Rocky Ellery James Tumbelaka wrote: ↑02 Jan 2023, 19:53 I agree that we ahould be honest in answering our children question. Even about sexual topics. Because everything the parents said became the truth for their children. But we also must give them an understanding that such topic isn't something to discuss lightly or publicly.
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Hi Moonlight, you raise valid points on parents not lying to their children. If you ain't open with your kids, how do you expect them to open up to you if it comes to matters of sexual abuse? If you don't answer their questions, they will find answers elsewhere. One way is through the internet, which can be dangerous. If you have a teenager, you should be honest with them about sex. It’s important for young people to know that their parents are open to talking about these subjects and will not judge them if they ask questions. By being honest and open, it helps teens feel comfortable talking to you about anything. As parents, it is our duty to protect our children from any harm. But this does not mean that we should shelter them from the reality of life. Sex is a natural part of life, and we must not shy away from talking about this with our kids.Moonlight + wrote: ↑06 Mar 2023, 08:21 Parents should definitely try and be honest when it comes to sensitive topics such as sex. Lying or not answering questions will only make the kids curious. Furthermore if you ain't open with your kids how do you expect them to open up to you if it comes to matters of sexual abuse?
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Hi Smrithi, I agree with you that this will not only help the parents maintain their relationships with their children, but also teach them about the importance of communication. This is because the parent-child relationship is one that’s built on trust. And when there are secrets in it, children will feel very much left out or even betrayed.Smrithi Arun wrote: ↑05 Mar 2023, 23:12 It is better for parents to be honest with their children about these topics rather than the child learning the wrong details from the wrong people. Shying away from the topic only does more harm than good. If parents are able to open up to children, it also helps gain a different level of trust and bonds them further.
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Hi Sugar, I second your point that it is very important for parents to talk about sex with their children. It’s not just a taboo subject, it’s something that every child needs to know about. The best way to get your children to talk about sex is just to be honest with them. If they ask you a question, answer it honestly and openly. If they want more information than you can give them, offer to find a book or website that will explain it in more detail.Sugar Rush wrote: ↑05 Mar 2023, 19:02 I think it would depend on the age of my child. If my child is very young I should just stick with the normal tales about sexual topics. However if they are old enough, it should be safe to discuss them. At that age, they are old enough to understand. If not we may be kick starting their curiosity.
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If a child is asking questions and the parent isn't sure how to answer, I think it's important to talk with them about what they are asking and why they want answers. This can help lead to an open discussion on the topic. For instance, if a child asked about sex and their parents said “it is something that happens between people when they love each other” would this be an accurate explanation or would it cause more confusion? I think it depends on how much information the child already has.MsTri wrote: ↑05 Mar 2023, 13:22 I absolutely think parents should be honest with their children about sexual matters. With that being said, the age of the child would depend on what answers are given and how phrased. From the time mine were tots, they knew babies were NOT in a mommy's "tummy" but in her womb; I was really big on correct terminology - so "penis" instead of "peepee", for instance - and it still drives me crazy when I hear people talking about babies being in tummies; this is exactly why some children have worried about having a baby in the tummy from eating the wrong thing.
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Yes Hellen, that is very true. Unfortunately, when children start feeling left out and betrayed, they start hiding things, the rebellion begins and some start straying towards the wrong path too. Although these are some extreme consequences, it all begins with one small lie to a child one might think is incapable of processing complex topics and emotions.Hellen Muriithi wrote: ↑08 Mar 2023, 03:54
Hi Smrithi, I agree with you that this will not only help the parents maintain their relationships with their children, but also teach them about the importance of communication. This is because the parent-child relationship is one that’s built on trust. And when there are secrets in it, children will feel very much left out or even betrayed.
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