Sexual Abstinence Before Marriage?

[Bradley Shelvie]

I don't think abstinence before marriage is realistic in this day in age. Most people end up having multiple marriages. While I don't agree you should be out having sexual relations with every other person, I just don't think not having sex is ideal either. Plus, not everyone wants to get married. After all, marriage is just a piece of paper. If you are truly devoted to eachother, you don't even need to get married.

Precisely, times have changed and so have views about such matters. You've brought out another interesting aspect about not everybody want to be married. It makes me criticize the author's views at another level.

[MsTri]

While I do believe that abstinence before marriage IS the way to go, I sadly have not always lived that way. In fact, before I married my husband in October, I was living in sin, nevermind that I'd been married twice before. While I felt bad about shacking up, once I was in the situation, it felt impossible to leave and keep my relationship going, especially since we'd already been doing the deed. What a mental load that came off once we because legal!

[Amy Luman]

Abstinence is the ideal. It avoids a lot of problems, both for the participants and for their unplanned children. As the unmarried population gets older, however, it is more difficult to maintain.

[Oluoma Chukwu]

It is now a norm in our todays reality. It is even like a way to show you are normal. People who practice abstinence are viewed as not normal and are shut down on the need for abstinence. Sex is for marriage but a lot of us have left this idea behind.

[Victor Ayub Migos]

I believe that chastity and virginity is the best gift someone could offer their partner in a marriage. Sadly the society we live in has evolved and people see sex as just something casual that you can do it with anyone you like. Teenagers especially don't even know what they are getting into and that's why there are so many cases of unwanted pregnancies and abortion. We can all agree that abstinence before marriage is the best bet.

[Jack King]

Sexual abstinence before marriage?

I agree with this explanation from the author. It helps avoid negative thoughts from a conflict, especially insecurities. From my own experience, it's a way of consoling myself against any doubts. Sexual abstinence also helps me in counseling, particularly with the young ladies. Usually, women are the most affected by their own wrong choices about premarital sex.

I think there is a definite benefit to abstinence before marriage.

[Diamond Harrell]

The older I get, the more I wish I had waited! Sex is hardly EVER worth it and it opens you to so many additional issues. It is easier to acknowledge your flesh but not allow it to run wild. I still struggle in this area but have been leaning (heavily) to make some much needed changes.

[Manang Muyang]

I am a Christian and know that sex before marriage is against the sixth commandment. I know that God, in His wisdom, knows what is best. But failing to follow the commandment does not spell doom. God forgives and allows us to try again.

[Huini Hellen]

Now in the society, sex is seen as the norm and if you’re not doing it you are portrayed as weird. Abstinence before marriage is currently seen as crazy and for religious fanatics but it leads to a more healthy life and relationships but

Abstinence before marriage is a positive thing as it allows you to focus on other things in your life, such as studying or building your career. Sex is seen as the ultimate goal in a relationship and if you are not having it you are considered weird. Not only does this cause people to have sex before marriage, but it also leads to many sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancies that could have been avoided.

[Huini Hellen]

I believe that chastity and virginity is the best gift someone could offer their partner in a marriage. Sadly the society we live in has evolved and people see sex as just something casual that you can do it with anyone you like. Teenagers especially don't even know what they are getting into and that's why there are so many cases of unwanted pregnancies and abortion. We can all agree that abstinence before marriage is the best bet.

Hi Moonlight, I agree with you that virginity also symbolizes purity and innocence, which is why it’s important to wait until marriage. It’s the gift that keeps on giving. It’s something that you can give to your partner and they will always have it. It has a value that cannot be measured by any materialistic means.

[Azuka Jessica]

This issue is always rampant. Personally, I would say that it is a matter of choice. If you want to have sex before marriage, fine. If you don't, fine. Just don't follow the crowd, let it be a decision that one takes wholly.

[Chimomaebuka Ejimchi]

I agree with you that women are most affected when it comes to wrong choices in premarital sex. It doesn't really affect the men that much. That's why I agree with sexual abstinence before marriage; it helps one avoid a lot of things when it comes to premarital sex.

[Medina Fedrick]

I agree with sexual abstinence because it improves one's mental health. Involving in sex before marriage comes with it's downsides, and imparts one's health negatively in a way, even if this is seen as a norm nowadays.

[Joyjim]

While many people understand that sexual abstinence had overwhelming advantages, many do not make it their way of life. However, for those who do, they are spared many of the problems that come with sex outside of marriage.

[Sheri Iodice]

This is definitely and very difficult and controversial subject. I think yes, it is best to be sexually abstinent before marriage. That being said, sometimes things happen and I think that people need to know that they are not condemned for life if they have made mistakes and that they can be forgiven. Kids these days have a hard time. My daughter is 18 and boys don't want to "date" anymore, they want to "hook up". She gets asked constantly about her feelings about having sex before they even go out on dates. It is really a different world that our kids are growing up in. It makes me sad. I wonder how they will ever have any trust in their marriages.