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That's a cultural issue, and it's hugely influenced by religion. In my school, they divided boys from girls for sex-ed, which kind of minimized the shyness and the jokes. But... I don't think that's doable anymore (I'm way over 30). I also think that though some people might not open up, they are still listening. At least most of them. So the information's there. There's also the option to provide additional resources for those who want to learn more. Of course, kids have the internet, but it's not all reliable. We should provide them with reliable websites and personal counseling when needed. It might be easier to open in a one-to-one environment.MichelleYong wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 01:12 Where I am at, topics about sex is generally avoided because it is deemed as "inappropriate", whether or not there is religious influence. The consequences of it is very much like what is described in the book. There is no way to have a proper discussion about sex, even in classrooms. Almost everyone is reluctant to open up. Most girls shy away from the topic and boys usually just make fun of it.
My parents are atheist, so I thought this has nothing to do with religion. Like what you said, my culture is shaped like this because it has been influenced religion throughout the years, I did not think of that.María Andrea Fernández Sepúlveda wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 21:32
That's a cultural issue, and it's hugely influenced by religion. In my school, they divided boys from girls for sex-ed, which kind of minimized the shyness and the jokes. But... I don't think that's doable anymore (I'm way over 30). I also think that though some people might not open up, they are still listening. At least most of them. So the information's there. There's also the option to provide additional resources for those who want to learn more. Of course, kids have the internet, but it's not all reliable. We should provide them with reliable websites and personal counseling when needed. It might be easier to open in a one-to-one environment.
We would need a total cultural shift. That shyness and those jokes come from kids who grew up in families or environments that don't know how to talk in an open way about sex.
I believe that young children should definitely be taught about sex! Even if it's only at a very basic level, like addressing parts and teaching that certain areas are not for everyone. A lot of young children are abused and should be taught what to do. This is especially true because it's usually close adults of the child that can cause the abuse, so teaching them certain boundaries as early as elementary can help them create a foundation to protect themselves early on!Cheryl Erickson wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 15:19 I don't believe elementary schools should ever teach about sex in the classroom. But middle school and high school-aged children need to learn about their bodies and what can happen to them, especially because so many parents are scared to. Many churches have classes to teach middle school children about sexuality and morality. I believe that parents have an obligation to teach their children even if they are uncomfortable with it. So many young pregnancies happen due to ignorance. Just make sure that you are using an appropriate level of discussion depending on the age of the child.
I think you're quite lucky you even got sex-ed! In my school, I believe we just got like a half-hour presentation or something and I never heard anything about it ever again. This was probably around 8th grade, and I realized this was the biggest failure of my school. Luckily, I learnt about sex from my boyfriend later on, but before that, I was practically left to fend for myself in those topics. I really wish there was more conversation of these topics at school, because I believe I could've been educated better!María Andrea Fernández Sepúlveda wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 21:32That's a cultural issue, and it's hugely influenced by religion. In my school, they divided boys from girls for sex-ed, which kind of minimized the shyness and the jokes. But... I don't think that's doable anymore (I'm way over 30). I also think that though some people might not open up, they are still listening. At least most of them. So the information's there. There's also the option to provide additional resources for those who want to learn more. Of course, kids have the internet, but it's not all reliable. We should provide them with reliable websites and personal counseling when needed. It might be easier to open in a one-to-one environment.MichelleYong wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 01:12 Where I am at, topics about sex is generally avoided because it is deemed as "inappropriate", whether or not there is religious influence. The consequences of it is very much like what is described in the book. There is no way to have a proper discussion about sex, even in classrooms. Almost everyone is reluctant to open up. Most girls shy away from the topic and boys usually just make fun of it.
We would need a total cultural shift. That shyness and those jokes come from kids who grew up in families or environments that don't know how to talk in an open way about sex.
I also had sex ed where the males and females were separated. The male teachers taught the male students and the female teachers taught the female students. At the end, all students would come back together to have a little bit of a debrief. In hindsight, this was very progressive for my conservative and religious small town, but I do remember having to get permission slips signed to get my parents’ consent and that was complicated. I’m in my 30s so that might also be something that doesn’t happen anymore.María Andrea Fernández Sepúlveda wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 21:32That's a cultural issue, and it's hugely influenced by religion. In my school, they divided boys from girls for sex-ed, which kind of minimized the shyness and the jokes. But... I don't think that's doable anymore (I'm way over 30). I also think that though some people might not open up, they are still listening. At least most of them. So the information's there. There's also the option to provide additional resources for those who want to learn more. Of course, kids have the internet, but it's not all reliable. We should provide them with reliable websites and personal counseling when needed. It might be easier to open in a one-to-one environment.MichelleYong wrote: ↑07 Jan 2023, 01:12 Where I am at, topics about sex is generally avoided because it is deemed as "inappropriate", whether or not there is religious influence. The consequences of it is very much like what is described in the book. There is no way to have a proper discussion about sex, even in classrooms. Almost everyone is reluctant to open up. Most girls shy away from the topic and boys usually just make fun of it.
We would need a total cultural shift. That shyness and those jokes come from kids who grew up in families or environments that don't know how to talk in an open way about sex.