Would you have told your parents about the bullying?

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While I personally believe that we should tell our parents about our life experiences, I haven't been able to share about my own experience with bullying, mainly because I still have some shame attached to it
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If I was in Mary Grace's situation, I would have also decided not to tell my parents. Firstly, Mary Grace is opportune to have grandparents she could share and even teachers that we're ready to help so I see no need to bother, and my parents that aren't anywhere close.
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Vidhi Adhikari wrote: 07 Jun 2023, 23:50 While I personally believe that we should tell our parents about our life experiences, I haven't been able to share about my own experience with bullying, mainly because I still have some shame attached to it
It can take time to get over a painful experience, and bullying can take many forms. Here's to your freedom from the shame. :sunflower:
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Akangbe Opeyemi wrote: 08 Jun 2023, 11:55 If I was in Mary Grace's situation, I would have also decided not to tell my parents. Firstly, Mary Grace is opportune to have grandparents she could share and even teachers that we're ready to help so I see no need to bother, and my parents that aren't anywhere close.
Your point is well taken. Hopefully, Mary Grace will have a chance to tell her parents all about the adventure now that the case is solved. I'm sure they will be proud of the latest addition to the Grandma Gang. (Maybe they will come up with a new name for their group. :) )
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I probably wouldn't have (which is actually sad). I got bullied as a junior student in secondary school and I thought that was the normal rite of passage I had to go through. But this shouldn't be so and it's great that there are books like this to teach kids to always open up about bullying.
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For me, she was wise for not telling them when the matter has not yet settled because that would put their mind in chaos, but after everything is settled, she can now tell them everything.
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I would tell my mother if I am being bullied because I have a strong relationship with her. I tell her almost anything. They might be able to help the bullying stop, so why not tell?
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Probably not because the parents were too far away and that would only worry them and it's not like there's much they could do from where they were.
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Ogunkoya Mayowa wrote: 12 Jun 2023, 05:48 For me, she was wise for not telling them when the matter has not yet settled because that would put their mind in chaos, but after everything is settled, she can now tell them everything.
Eva Nyaburi wrote: 13 Jun 2023, 06:45 Probably not because the parents were too far away and that would only worry them and it's not like there's much they could do from where they were.
It probably felt good for Mary Grace to write the note and let everything out, but I was relieved when she deleted it. Hopefully, she will share her story with her parents now that everything has been resolved. Who knows--they may even get to meet Justin.
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Of course! This is a psychological torture that unless they are psychos of some kind and support the bullying they will be concerned about. They'd be my go-to in such instances.
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Virtually, I think I would have reacted the same way s me. Mary Grace was indeed mature in the sense. That intrigued me a lot
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I may have postponed telling my parents if I was already receiving help and thought I was handling the situation. However. I always confided in my parents as they were my security. So I think I would go to them if I had needed help and support.
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Mary Grace's thoughtful consideration of whether to involve her parents in the bullying situation is truly admirable. Her decision to delete the intended message reflects a remarkable level of maturity, indicating her desire to handle the problem independently and not burden her parents.
Personally, if I were in Mary Grace's position, I believe I would have chosen to inform my parents, even if they were on a totally different continent. For me, it would be important to maintain open and honest communication with my parents, ensuring they are aware of the challenges I'm facing. I also don't want to create that false sense of reality that everything is fine when it's not.
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I don't think so. Sometimes you just have to deal with certain situations yourself. Bullying can be devasting to those on the receiving end and even though parents mean well, they might make it worse.
Real courage is when you know you are licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what! (To kill a Mockingbird - Atticus Finch) Harper Lee.
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Fredrick Felix Mnjala Maneno wrote: 23 Jun 2023, 07:57 I don't think so. Sometimes you just have to deal with certain situations yourself. Bullying can be devasting to those on the receiving end and even though parents mean well, they might make it worse.
There were definitely situations I didn’t tell my parents about. Perhaps I was too embarrassed, so I dealt with it on my own, or sometimes I confided in my sister or a close friend. Bullying seems to have become more intense now, and the consequences can be life-threatening. I’m glad Mary Grace had adults who helped her. All parties involved appeared to be better off after this incident.
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