If you feel depressed, what is your coping mechanism?

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When I'm depressed or sad, I like listening to music and watching my favorite shows. I usually like watching reruns of my favorite shows that I have already watched because it's comforting to know what happens next.
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When I'm depressed, I watch a lot of motivational films alone rather than with anyone else. These films encourage me to reconsider my perspective and see that there is more to life than being depressed. It usually works out for me.
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I practice relaxation techniques like meditation and physical exercises. These natural remedies seem to work for me.
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That’s a good question! Everyone is different, so there’s no single answer that works for everyone. But there are some common techniques that people find helpful for managing stress and depression. For example, getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising regularly all help to improve my overall well-being. And simple activities like listening to music, reading a book, or going for a walk also helps to lift my mood.
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I prefer to have some "me time" as an introvert from time to time. Being alone allows me to relax and do anything I want. I normally don't have a lot of social energy, especially when I'm depressed. Even if it comes from someone I love, I get a headache if I have to face or hear another word from other people.
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When I feel depressed, I often listen to music, watch movies, listen to inspirational podcasts, or go out. I must admit there are times none of these can help me, and I such case I would have to deal with the psychological tortures.
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Catalina Isabel wrote: 04 Jul 2023, 04:04 I have gone through a difficult time when I was younger and I "dealt" with it by writing a whole book of my life as a sort of therapy. Every good and bad thing until the age of 23. This helped me heal and understand myself better, and I moved forward and also started helping others as a career. I have so many techniques to help myself; reading, writing, dancing, fresh air, quality time with people that uplift me. I also love doing meditation and deep breathing if I ever feel stressed.
That's interesting. I read somewhere in Sigmund's psychoanalysis theory that writing can help get out some stuff.
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Nancy004 wrote: 04 Jul 2023, 07:31 When I feel down, I usually prefer being alone. I do some breathing exercises, listen to self-help podcasts, and spend time reading in my room. I don't usually go out or make plans with anyone because I need that alone time to recharge before facing the world again. I'm someone who gets drained by social interactions, so when I'm feeling depressed, it's even harder for me to be social. That's why I give myself the space and time to heal by being alone.
Yes. This can help sometimes. There are moments being around friends may just be too uncomfortable.
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Olive Uche wrote: 21 Sep 2023, 02:48 I prefer to have some "me time" as an introvert from time to time. Being alone allows me to relax and do anything I want. I normally don't have a lot of social energy, especially when I'm depressed. Even if it comes from someone I love, I get a headache if I have to face or hear another word from other people.
Sometime I do that: lock myself up in a room. But sometimes I do go out. One or two conversations with people may brighten the day.
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Christian James+ wrote: 18 Sep 2023, 12:34 That’s a good question! Everyone is different, so there’s no single answer that works for everyone. But there are some common techniques that people find helpful for managing stress and depression. For example, getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising regularly all help to improve my overall well-being. And simple activities like listening to music, reading a book, or going for a walk also helps to lift my mood.
I think I agree with you. Each person just has to figure out what works for them.
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Juma Florence wrote: 17 Sep 2023, 23:26 I practice relaxation techniques like meditation and physical exercises. These natural remedies seem to work for me.
Me I play the piano or go out watching some birds flying in the air.
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Rishaunda Lynnette Britton wrote: 21 Sep 2023, 07:15
Catalina Isabel wrote: 04 Jul 2023, 04:04 I have gone through a difficult time when I was younger and I "dealt" with it by writing a whole book of my life as a sort of therapy. Every good and bad thing until the age of 23. This helped me heal and understand myself better, and I moved forward and also started helping others as a career. I have so many techniques to help myself; reading, writing, dancing, fresh air, quality time with people that uplift me. I also love doing meditation and deep breathing if I ever feel stressed.
That's interesting. I read somewhere in Sigmund's psychoanalysis theory that writing can help get out some stuff.
Yes it does, sometimes you can even find out things you didn't yet know that are in your subconscious. You can start by writing "Dear me..." or almost like a story either in the first or third person but without overthinking, just writing. I still use the technique if I can't sleep or had a busy day, it always helps.
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I have been in depression on a couple of occasions, leaving is difficult because it is as if the desire to do something that you need abandons you. Trying to get out is difficult, very difficult.

It requires great courage to make a decision so strong that you can break the trance and emerge afloat. In my case, when I was like this, I tried to ignore the sensation by reading, I read a lot, I sometimes watched movies and some series as well.
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Depression is something I have struggled with for most of my life and in recent years it has gotten especially bad. Therefore, I've had to develop coping mechanisms and I would say that it's hard to feel better or more relaxed or whatever your goal is without having more than one. Something I do is writing in a journal. Whatever I have to say comes out on paper no matter what type of seemingly over the top language I need to use. will anyone ever see it? Nope. Just me. But it can be nice. Another tactic is to take a deep breath and ask yourself, "what are three things I see? What are three things I hear? What are three things I feel? What are three things I smell? As I name each thing I find myself relaxing more and more. Now, this is generally best for anxiety but I find the two go hand in hand. Music and reading are also good
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When I go through tough times, I find comfort through sleeping. For me to feel okay, I need to feel loved. I need someone to understand the problems that I'm suffering, who would stay with me and support me.
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