To what extent do you think divorce affects the children?

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I think the extent is larger than many people think. With that said, I also think it depends on how the parents handle it. I've seen horrible divorces that put children in very dark places. I've also seen divorces where the Karen's are great friends and spend a lot of their time together with their kids, including step-parents. Those that divorce amicably and maintain a healthy relationship, I think have by far less emotional consequences for the cold no matter the age.
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Asibor Eromosele Emmanuel wrote: 31 Mar 2024, 17:07 To a very large extent. I think when couples divorce, the adequate and quality training given to a child for growth wouldn't be given to that child. The child might be Left Alone
Yes absolutely true.💯But the probability the children might be left alone would be low. It could happen but for a rear cases. In the Western world, the court would handle such cases but in Africa, it's a chieftaincy solution. You are on point. Parents must take care.
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Sarah Zain wrote: 02 Apr 2024, 23:11 No one can imagine the effect on children, but the effect is indeed different. I have seen children who wish their parents would divorce so that they could live comfortably and know that it was not their fault. And I saw the opposite too. Therefore, it requires a lot of effort to preserve the child’s mental and psychological health.
When children are younger they can wish for anything(sensible and unconcerned reasons) for themselves and they won't think of the consequences. At that stage, parents have to be intelligent enough that even nothing else divides their love and children. At this point who takes the most blame?
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Smrithi Arun wrote: 14 Apr 2024, 13:35 Divorce is a tricky topic. The level of impact depends on the child's emotional capacity, but again, even a child with a very strong hold of their emotions gets deeply affected by it. It is even more hurtful when the parents forget to tend to the child amidst their own chaos, forcing the child to grow up sooner.
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Smrithi Arun wrote: 14 Apr 2024, 13:35 Divorce is a tricky topic. The level of impact depends on the child's emotional capacity, but again, even a child with a very strong hold of their emotions gets deeply affected by it. It is even more hurtful when the parents forget to tend to the child amidst their chaos, forcing the child to grow up sooner.

It largely depends on the parents. Parents can either contribute to the traits of the children. They can choose to leave the kids on their own or watch every step of the children. To know and shape them in any form. Divorce can happen but I don't think that can be the case of manifesting the children's wayward bad attitudes.
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I think the divorce of parents has a negative impact on children. But living together for children's happiness can be more damaging if the parents are not happy together. The children are not immune to their parent's hidden feelings for each other.
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I think it could go either way. If the parents who are getting divorced include the children in their discussions and help them understand why it is happening, the children will be more likely to have a healthy relationship with both parents, and therefore adjust to these changes more successfully. Additonally, the children should never be involved in the parents' fight, and I believe it is much better to get divorced and leave an unhealthy situation than it is to "stay together for the kids".
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Divorce is very hard on the children. It also affects their future relationships. My father left when I was 16, and it affected my marriage and choice of life mate. When the relationship of the parents with the child is not good, it leaves trust issues, confidence issues, and mental health issues.
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Samina Moiyadi wrote: 20 Jun 2024, 23:47 I think the divorce of parents hurts children. But living together for children's happiness can be more damaging if the parents are not happy together. The children are not immune to their parent's hidden feelings for each other.
Unless the parents make them realize their issues which is a diabolical bad attitude. They can keep it secret and yet play with their children without them aware.💕
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Jane Gaskins wrote: 24 Jun 2024, 08:02 Divorce is very hard on the children. It also affects their future relationships. My father left when I was 16, and it affected my marriage and choice of life mate. When the relationship between the parents with the child is not good, it leaves trust issues, confidence issues, and mental health issues.
You're a strong soul. Heal from your previous scars. At some point, some of the parents leave their kids not caring anymore when they reach a certain age.
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The absence of a parent figure can be profoundly detrimental to a child's life, leading to a range of negative effects. When a child lacks a parental presence, it can have a lasting impact on their emotional, psychological, and social development.
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Eobi jonh wrote: 26 Jun 2024, 04:17 The absence of a parent figure can be profoundly detrimental to a child's life, leading to a range of negative effects. When a child lacks a parental presence, it can have a lasting impact on their emotional, psychological, and social development.
But left with a guardian would be a little better sitting, I don't think they would be left alone. and I pray they will be loved by them.
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To a great extent. I always advice against divorce and I see it as a selfish act once children are involved. It is done by selfish couples who seek to inconvenience their children.
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To a great extent. I always advice against divorce and I see it as a selfish act once children are involved. It is done by selfish couples who seek to inconvenience their children.
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To a great extent. I always advice against divorce and I see it as a selfish act once children are involved. It is done by selfish couples who seek to inconvenience their children.
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