To what extent do you think divorce affects the children?

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Re: To what extent do you think divorce affects the children?

Post by Smrithi Arun »

Divorce is a tricky topic. The level of impact depends on the child's emotional capacity, but again, even a child with a very strong hold of their emotions gets deeply affected by it. It is even more hurtful when the parents forget to tend to the child amidst their own chaos, forcing the child to grow up sooner.
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I think divorce greatly affects the children. I know from experience, being divorced with two small children, at the time. My children are in their 50s now, and I still see the effects of the divorce, even now.
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I think divorce affects children to a large extent especially when the partners openly make their issues obvious to the children. The children may suffer from the lack of a parent in their life.
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Divorce completely changes the personality of the children. Parents who love each other give a sense of security to children. The lack of love often leads to trust issues in children.
But divorce is the last step of a failing marriage. It is better to get separated than to live in an unhappy marriage for the sake of children. It can be much more harmful to their mental health.
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It really affects children. I was 45 years old when my parents divorced. I was grown, married, and had a grown son of my own and I was hurt badly so I can only imagine how it would affect those kids who are still under the influence of their parents
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Divorce can have significant effects on children, both in the short and long term. The psychological effects can include increased stress, anxiety, depression, and behavioral problems.
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As much as divorce affects children, I believe when both parents stay together in an unhealthy relationship just to keep their children happy, it affects the children more than actually getting a divorce. So yeah, divorce affects children to a large extent but two unhappy parents constantly fighting doesn't help too.
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Divorce is a drastic, life-changing event, and it definitely affects children. The effect is somewhat negative. Children get deprived of a secure feeling and may also feel confused. Separated parents do not seem to be in an ideal household. It's just a preferred option for the separated individuals, but for their children, having a family with both parents together looks better. Some children may show they are unaffected, some may show acceptance or even indifference, but deep down, it creates some negative repercussions, as I see it.
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Children learn from their parents. Split parents do affect massively a person's attitude regarding romantic relationships. Other than this there are different aspects like confidence, mental health, growth, and the mentality of general life.
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Divorce can significantly impact children, affecting their emotional well-being, academic performance, and social relationships. The extent of the impact often depends on factors like the level of conflict between parents, the quality of parental involvement post-divorce, and the child's own resilience and support systems.
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Divorce affects children greatly. They are deprived of an environment to grow in and make the most of their lives.
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Divorce is a complicated situation that one can't just sit down and begin to propound about. It's not even easy for the couples let alone the fragile children. So the extent divorce affects children, to me, is undescribable and immeasurable. Children react to this in several ways and the trauma could come in various depths.
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I've seen multiple cases where children wish their parents would rather divorce than stay together, calling themselves a family when it is blatantly clear that things are not working out. I've also seen children wish their parents would stay together. I believe that suffering is very subjective.
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They wonder whether they are doing something bad or think about the difficult times they will face in the future. Children that are wrapped around by an adult network, whether it is family and friends or teachers and therapists, experience easy coping with the changes and the emotional stress post-divorce.
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Post by Slayton Natasha Tillett »

It's really affects children greatly. And in most cases you see them withdrawal from socialization at school, church and playgrounds. It's important parents think twice before divorcing as it could change the life of a child greatly.
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