Being fearless versus learning to control your fears?
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Re: Being fearless versus learning to control your fears?
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As far as the quote, "half of bravery is perspective” (p. 458), I think it means that what's brave to one doesn't necessarily mean brave to another. For instance, I feel brave when I don't run away from a bee (one of my worst fears), but to someone else being near a bee is no big deal. Therefore, even though both people are placed in the same situation, one feels brave while the other does not - their perspectives are different.
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fear itself can be use like a weapon so you have to be careful not to let it take over your life
it does keep us from being reckless and keep on guard
but I don't ever want to live in fear forever
I rather push it to the side because it makes you feel very uncomfortable
the best way to be fearless is to always remember that things work out
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We have all seen examples on nature shows of mighty beasts backing down from a relatively harmless animal which is ferociously guarding its young. This is because even though a lion, for instance, may be far more powerful than water buffalo, were the lion to become injured it would hamper his/her ability to hunt and survive. The lion instinctively assesses the risk, concludes that waiting for the opportunity to find an easier catch is less dangerous to its survival and leaves the scene. Does this make the lion a coward? No. It is acting in a perfectly natural manner to this specific encounter.
EXAMPLE: In primordial times humanoids who did not fear snakes were bitten by poisonous snakes more often than those who did fear them. As a result more of the fearless humanoids died of snakebite thereby not breeding as many offspring as those who DID fear the snakes; thus, the offspring of the fearful-of-snake individuals, which were more numerous (because their parents were able to breed more often simply because they lived longer), were more likely to carry the same gene which caused fear in their parent. Thus over millions of years there are today very, very few people who are not repulsed and/or frightened by snakes - even harmless snakes. It is a response which is is chiseled into our genetic makeup. In the overwhelming number of cases today LACK of fear of snakes is the result of conditioning through experience. People who do not fear snakes, much like firemen who do not fear going into a burning building, are educated in the knowledge of how to deal with this specific danger to the extent that the odds of survival have been assessed and found acceptable.
This is perhaps why we think so highly of courageous people who risk their lives to save another human being - because it is so unnatural to find such courage in the average population. Of course there are also idiots who take unnecessary risks for a thrill. They are what we might call "Darwin Award Candidates" who improve the human gene pool by eliminating themselves from potentially breeding and passing on their idiocy to their potential progeny.
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No one is completely fearless. If they were then there is something mentally wrong with them. Fear is what drives so to fulfill our basic needs. We eat because we are afraid of starvation and dying. We fight because we are afraid of being the weakest one, being at other peoples mercy. We have children because we don't want to be forgotten. These basic need are already fears. Then there are the unneeded fears: heights, spiders, the dark, flushing toilet sounds...(yes, people are afraid of that...) These unneeded fears can be for no reason. Yet, we still develop these fears because we had a traumatizing experience where we felt we were the the object of fear's mercy. The act of putting yourself in the position of facing that fear is the act of bravery. For instance, Even though I am 21 years old, I am terrified of heights. When ever I am put in a situation where I need to be around heights I imagine that the empty place where I could fall is a glass flooring and the only reason I can't not step out onto the glass flooring is because I am playing a continual game of 'Lava' (If you don't know this childhood game then your childhood wasn't very imaginative). That is what Tris means when she says that “half of bravery is perspective. It is the ability to twist the illusion of fear into something positive.
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Whilst learning to control your fears means that you would be learning to keep your fears in check, making you seem fearless.
Overall learning to control your fears would mean your fears are still there but being controlled whilst being fearless means you simply don't have a fear.